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Bargaining with children is a danger that must be stopped
Dr..
Yousef al-Sharif
twitter.com/dryalsharif
December 15 2021
There are many clips and pictures of children whose childhood, innocence, impulsiveness and energies are exploited, in order to promote a specific account on social media or even just to make funny and funny clips;
Or some put them at risk for ridiculous challenges they are bet on and film them to make their followers laugh at them.
I will not forget that clip in which a mother showed her obese child asking for food with burning and crying after depriving her of food to urge her to lose weight, and how sad the situation was and prompting us to wonder, why do you mother offer us such a clip?! This is in contrast to the widespread video where a girl bargained for eating chili, and after she ate it, a wave of laughter and ridicule began, and there are many and many of these clips and such behaviors that put us in front of a social problem, many of us do not realize the extent of its seriousness and its impact on our children.
On the other hand, many parents bargain with children over things and behavior in an unconsidered manner, or older siblings bargain with their younger brothers to meet their demands, such as asking them to do some actions in exchange for small amounts of money, or some parents linking their children’s actions to a specific bargain, Here, I do not mean that some parents encourage their children and urge them to continue a specific activity that is useful to them, for example, or urge them to strive in their lessons or behavioral behaviour, but what I mean is that some exaggerate this matter or make direct bargains that may make the child believe that this is the correct way to reach some Needs and goals, and little by little this child will get around these things just to earn the promised reward, money, or gift.
Children interact strongly with everything that is presented to them, and they have a special concept of all the behaviors and situations that they are exposed to in their childhood, and this must be noted, especially that bargaining with children is a dangerous matter that may make them corrupt in the future, or make them people without principle who sell themselves to those who pay. them, and you may find them compromising their morals in order to earn some money, or you find them joining terrorist groups or subversive organizations just because they want to get money without thought or belief.
Someone might say: I have exaggerated the proposition and presentation of the problem, and I say to him: Your words may be true, but what the children think and what impressions and influences they have are much greater than we think and imagine, and that is why we must beware of direct bargaining with children, and beware of exploiting them to implement Simple or serious requirements and requests for a specific reward, and the most important thing is that we do not take advantage of them and take advantage of their lack of resourcefulness and weakness in their abilities to involve them in work and challenges that may hurt them or hurt their feelings or we use them to attract followers.
Dealing with children must be very thoughtful, for what you do in childhood will have a great impact on growing up, and every method you follow you must know that your child will adopt an approach and lifestyle in the future. Or encouragement in something, so it must be thoughtful, and his goals be explained to the child. The child has principles and goals that help him in facing the temptations of life, instead of making him subject to greater bargains that may take him to death.
* Lawyer and media writer
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