The years when it was stolen
——14 years after being abducted, they became children "in the middle"
Sun Zhuo and Fu Jiantao, who had been abducted for 14 years, recognized their parents successively. For the two families, life finally got rid of the heavy theme of "seeking relatives", but how to return to ordinary happiness after reunion, there are many answers to questions Is vague.
They are careful to maintain the intimacy they just established. The 14-year lack of affection cannot be easily made up; the problem of "adoptive parents" cannot be avoided. Years of resentment cannot be resolved by "tolerance" alone, but the child is caught in it again. In the middle; there are also those "comrades" who used to find children on the way, and some subtle changes in the relationship have occurred between sorrow and joy.
After the reunion
"If you don't ask, it's your greatest support for me"
The missing 14 years of intimacy cannot be made up in a few days.
Sun Haiyang and his wife Peng Siying told their son about the family when they were young, and asked Sun Zhuo, "Do you remember?" Without exception, they answered in the negative.
A lot of things stopped 14 years ago, and when we met again, Sun Zhuo was already a head taller than Peng Siying.
Peng Siying tried to find the blood mark from her son. At the scene of the confession, she took Sun Zhuo's hand to hide her smile, "same as her sister's hand."
Sun Haiyang asked, do you remember your sister?
Sun Zhuo still shook his head.
When he first proposed to take Sun Zhuo back to his hometown in Hubei, Sun Haiyang read reluctance in Sun Zhuo's expression.
Sun Haiyang told his son that grandparents wanted to see him very much. They had suffered a lot to find him over the years.
After hearing what his father said, Sun Zhuo agreed and went back to have a look.
On the morning of December 7, a family of three took the high-speed train back to Jianli, Hubei. Sun Zhuo seemed to be a little uncomfortable. He lay on the small table. Peng Siying stroked his head with his hand. Sun Haiyang asked, "No. Take the high-speed train once?" Sun Zhuo nodded.
For Sun Zhuo's return, the neighbors of Jianli, his hometown, also showed the greatest enthusiasm.
The distance from the entrance of the village to the old house was only three hundred meters. The family of three walked for more than ten minutes. They were surrounded by people along the way. Sun Haiyang always held his son tightly in a protective posture.
Sun Zhuo held a large bouquet of flowers in his arms, and the card attached to it read "The people of Jianli welcome Sun Zhuo home". The dragon and lion dance and waist drum team arranged in the village waited at the door of the house.
The relatives want to make this reunion as perfect as possible. There are a few big tables of dinner, family portraits, and a lot of each link.
The red envelope that the elders stuffed into Sun Zhuo's hands couldn't hold both of their hands, so they could only carry them in a cotton jacket.
In the face of this, Sun Zhuo seemed a little at a loss. He said that he had never seen such a grand scene before, and even said five times that it was "too enthusiastic".
In the past few days, media reporters have been surrounding the family, and Sun Haiyang's bitter experience of finding a child has been asked again and again.
It was the first time Sun Zhuo heard of these things. His expression was simple, "I was ignorant at the time, and people took the opportunity to abduct me, so that my parents worked hard to find me for 14 years."
But right now, Sun Zhuo still has to return to Shandong to continue his studies. After being trafficked, that is where he grew up.
From the reunion to returning home for a few days, Sun Haiyang has been expressing contradictory thoughts. He bluntly said that he wanted to keep Sun Zhuo by his side, but he also expressed that he would respect his son’s choice. It's better for him."
In the past period of time, Peng Dongying was also trying to make up for the lack of intimacy.
She and Sun Haiyang have almost the same experience. 14 years ago, their children were abducted by the suspect Wu Moulong and sent to Yanggu County, Liaocheng, Shandong.
In September of this year, the police found Peng Dongying's son Fu Jiantao through portrait comparison, and later found Sun Zhuo through clues provided by Fu Jiantao.
This year's Mid-Autumn Festival, Peng Dongying made a wish to the moon, hoping that her son could return to her next reunion day.
Five days later, she received a call from Fu Jiantao.
During the November holiday, the mother and son met in Shenzhen. Compared to what she had imagined, Peng Dongying felt that her son was too thin, so she took Fu Jiantao out of the restaurant for a few days.
After that, Peng Dongying took him to buy clothes again. Looking at a windbreaker priced at 600 to 700 yuan, Fu Jiantao lamented "too expensive." Such a big expense.
Fearing that his son could not find a home when he came back, Peng Dongying had been living in the old house for 14 years.
Fu Jiantao did retain his childhood memories. He vaguely remembered his name and his mother was "very beautiful."
After arriving at his adoptive parents' house, Fu Jiantao once asked, "Why have my parents changed?" He always knew that he was far away from his biological parents.
Nevertheless, the reunion brought Fu Jiantao not all happiness.
The classmates left a message on his QQ space to wish him, saying that he would "come with all his hardships."
Fu Jiantao replied: If you don't ask, it is your greatest support for me.
Facing the huge life change, Fu Jiantao didn't want to be made public. He didn't want to be asked about this experience time and time again by people around him.
Unlike Fu Jiantao, Peng Dongying wants to share with everyone her joy of finding her son. She renamed her Weibo, which had been searching for children for many years, "Fu Jiantao has found 20211001".
She asked Fu Jiantao, "Why are you worried? Do you think finding your mother is a scandal?"
Peng Dongying told him that being abducted by a trafficker is not your fault. If you don’t want to be recognized, you can wear a hat and a mask when taking pictures, but she must let her son know, “It’s a joy for mother and child to recognize each other. thing."
Difficult Letter of Understanding
"I think I shouldn't have come into this world, it's all because of me"
During the 14 years of looking for a child, Sun Haiyang did not know how many times he repeated his goal: "Find Sun Zhuo and take him home." But after the reunion, the answer to this goal was still vague.
Sun Haiyang asked his son, "There are no photos before the age of four, are you not surprised?" Sun Zhuo touched his ears, as if thinking about how to organize the language, "They are very unsatisfactory in my hometown dialect. People, my parents said that they had forgotten, so I didn't care much." He couldn't change his words for a while, and he still referred to Liaocheng Yanggu as his "hometown" and the abducted people as "parents."
"Has anyone hit or scolded you?"
"No, they are all very good to me."
During the two days and nights, Sun Haiyang and his wife carefully maintained the newly established relationship.
Facing the camera, Sun Zhuo was asked about his next choice, and he seemed at a loss, "Whether it is planning to stay there or staying here, it will definitely hurt some people. I can't think of any feasible solutions at all."
Peng Siying understood the pressure of his son, "This is not something a child can bear. Let him buffer it first. If I were Sun Zhuo, I might turn around and ran away."
Sun Haiyang’s expression is still contradictory. He said: “Seeing that the child is having a good life, I have forgotten all the grudges I had before.” But he also made it clear that he did not go to see Sun Zhuo’s adoptive parents, “There is nothing to do with them. That said, leave the rest to the law."
In an interview with the media, Sun Zhuo’s adoptive mother said that 14 years ago, the suspect Wu Moulong said that Sun Zhuo was a child abandoned by a divorced couple and they adopted the child.
Before that, because they gave birth to two daughters, the villagers talked about some "unpleasant things".
Sun Haiyang could not accept Sun Zhuo’s adoptive parents’ statement, “One person risked being sentenced and crossed more than 1,700 kilometers from Shenzhen to steal the child to Shandong and give it to them. A joke!”
As one of the prototypes of the movie "Dear", Peng Gaofeng has been Sun Haiyang's son-seeking "fellow" until he retrieved his son Peng Wenle 10 years ago.
At the confession banquet in Jianli, Hubei, Peng Wenle finally met Sun Zhuo, whom his father had always cared about, and gave him a pen as a gift.
Peng Wenle also described to Sun Zhuo his feelings back then, "Those who are ignorant are lost, and those who are ignorant are found back."
From the age of three to six, Peng Gaofeng took 10 years to bridge the missing childhood of Peng Wenle.
But he said that Sun Zhuo’s situation is different. “We are discussing Sun Zhuo today. The complexity is here. He is so big. We can’t forcefully modify his will. He already has his own social circle. It also takes time to digest it slowly for him to change his environment."
After retrieving the child, Peng Gaofeng’s family had very little contact with Peng Wenle’s adoptive mother. “I will not force him to sever the relationship based on the child’s wishes.” Peng Gaofeng mentioned in an interview with the media that his son had told himself that Sun Zhuo should Go back to your parents.
"This is a kind of education and transformation," Peng Gaofeng said. For Sun's parents and Sun Zhuo, it will take time. powerful."
On the way home with Fu Jiantao, Peng Dongying patted him on the shoulder and said, don't worry about making a choice.
But when her son carefully proposed that she would issue a letter of understanding to her adoptive parents, Peng Dongying was still sad for several days, "I will never forgive them. For more than ten years, when I look at Taotao’s photos and cry, they are right. How can I forgive me holding my baby and sleeping soundly?"
After acknowledging his son, Fu Jiantao's adoptive parents expressed their hope to apologize to Peng Dongying.
To go or not to go?
It was only ten minutes from the residential area to the hotel where Fu Jiantao's foster parents lived, and Peng Dongying struggled for an hour.
Later, when Fu Jiantao's adoptive parents knelt in front of her and asked for forgiveness, they also gave an explanation similar to that of Sun Zhuo's adoptive mother: the suspect told them that the child was born to an ex-girlfriend.
At the end of October, Peng Dongying received news from Fu Jiantao's "elder sister" in Shandong: the child ran away from home.
No one answered the call.
Peng Dongying once again fell into the fear of losing her son.
When Fu Jiantao finally got on the phone, he cried loudly at the number one, "Mom, I'm too depressed, I figured it out to breathe, I feel like I'm going to break down", he understood Peng Dongying's feelings, and felt that he could not help his adoptive parents. , He was emotionally broken and put all the responsibility on himself, "I think I shouldn't have come into this world, it's all because of me."
Peng Dongying finally understood, "A decade of life can't be broken by just saying it."
When news appeared that the kidnapped children wanted to justify their adoptive parents, there were voices criticizing them in public opinion.
Faced with the plight of Sun Zhuo and Fu Jiantao, psychologist He Rihui said that from the perspective of mental psychology, everyone's parents have a triple role.
The first is the parents of blood; the second is the parents who raise their children; and the third is the parents who give their children spiritual guidance and nourishment.
“For children who are trafficked, their first and second parents are different people. In the process of growing up, their emotional connection with their biological parents is broken, and they have feelings with their adoptive parents. But right now , A pair of strangers became their biological parents, and the adoptive parents faced legal sanctions, and the pressure came from this.” He Rihui bluntly said that compared with judging children on a moral level, they have more empathy. More necessary.
Delicate relationship
To increase the exposure of the search information, carefully "snap the shots"
In 2011, Peng Gaofeng’s son Peng Wenle was found in Jiangsu, and Sun Haiyang and Grandma Sun Zhuo went to the pick-up site.
Peng Gaofeng later recalled that Grandma Sun Zhuo cried and said that she was here to pick up her grandson, and Lele was also her grandson.
"When I was happy, I also had inexplicable pain in my heart." Peng Gaofeng didn't know how to comfort the old man, so he hugged her tightly and promised to continue to help Sun Haiyang find his son.
Sun Haiyang was also standing among the cheering crowd, with a smile on his face, "Peng Gaofeng's child will be found, and my child will find it." But when the thought "Why didn't it find my child?" When he came, Sun Haiyang hid in the corner amidst the celebratory firecrackers, hiding his face and crying alone.
A reporter asked him: "When you received Peng Wenle with everyone, what was your truest thought in your heart?"
Sun Haiyang's emotions exploded again, sitting on the stool and crying, his body seemed completely out of control.
A few minutes later, he recovered his calm and told the other person, "I'm over crying, I feel very comfortable in my heart."
After retrieving Peng Wenle, Peng Gaofeng quit the group chat of parents seeking children, "You have found a child, and your role has changed, so there is no way to be in it." He described this as a kind of subtlety between families seeking relatives. "It is difficult for outsiders to understand the changes in his relationship." He joined the volunteer group instead, hoping to continue to do something for the family seeking relatives.
Ten years later, when Sun Haiyang succeeded in finding a son, another "subtle relationship change" occurred, this time between Sun Haiyang and Du Xiaohua, another prototype of the movie "Dear".
Knowing that Sun Haiyang would take his son back to his hometown in Hubei, Du Xiaohua also drove over from Shangrao, Jiangxi.
On the road, the music played in the car was a song that Du Xiaohua and Sun Haiyang used to listen to when looking for children together. After listening to it all the way, Du Xiaohua also cried all the way.
In March 2011, Du Xiaohua's 6-year-old son, Du Houqi, disappeared in Inner Mongolia and has not heard from him.
Now, he is the only one of the four main archetypes of the movie that has not found a child.
At night, the yard of Sun Haiyang’s hometown was full of excitement. Du Xiaohua answered a call and walked away quietly. He said to the other end of the phone: "My current mood is the same as that of Lao Sun back then..."
On the evening of December 8th, Sun Haiyang set off to send Sun Zhuo back to school in Yanggu County. Du Xiaohua also followed. This was a good opportunity to increase the visibility of the child-finding information.
On the way, Du Xiaohua also picked up another child-seeking parent, Li Guifang, whose son Zhang Yangyang disappeared in Luohe in 1998.
The next morning, in the square in front of a hotel in Yanggu County, a huge child-seeking advertisement was spread out with pictures of the missing children, basic information, and contact phone numbers.
Du Xiaohua, Li Guifang, and several other parents looking for relatives were standing by. The modern car that Du Xiaohua had driven for many years was also parked there. The hood of the modern car was also printed with a notice of finding a child, and the font had faded a bit.
Sun Haiyang and his wife have not yet appeared, and the focus of the media is on several parents seeking relatives.
In the cold winter in Liaocheng, Du Xiaohua and Li Guifang didn't wear coats. They put on a white custom T-shirt over the sweaters, and the message was still printed on it.
At the bottom of Du Xiaohua’s T-shirt, a line of scarlet letters was printed at the same time: kidnapping and trafficking in children is a crime beyond murder.
"I want to reiterate that buyers who want to buy their children should hurry to contact us, or surrender to the public security bureau. Don't wait until the public security organs find you before you come and tell me the so-called'unknowing'." Du Xiaohua stood in a scene In front of the microphone, repeating this sentence over and over again.
When Sun Haiyang and his wife appeared in the square, the focus of the media was attracted.
Li Guifang also stood beside Sun Haiyang. No matter what questions the reporter was asking, as long as she saw the camera or mobile phone lifted up, she would raise the notice to the camera where it could be photographed.
After talking about his own affairs, Sun Haiyang recalled the experience of looking for children. When someone else's children were found, he always had confidence and hope. Later, the children of other families were found one by one, but Sun Zhuo still did not show up. , He began to worry, is his child dead?
"Maybe people who have not personally experienced the disappearance of their children would not think of that kind of worry. Parents of them today are in that mood." When saying these words, Sun Haiyang kept his arms around Du Xiaohua.
Who is right
"Let me and my child return to a peaceful life"
In the village where Sun Zhuo grew up, the people there know more about his experience over the past 14 years.
The door of the second-story building of a certain family in the foster father’s country has been closed for the past few days.
The neighbor said that the house was built in 2017. The first floor is the facade and the second floor is for people.
Guo Mouli first opened a department store, and it was only a year or so that it was closed due to poor business. After that, Guo Mouli and his wife began to distribute disinfection tableware to surrounding restaurants. ."
Sun Zhuo is the youngest in a family in the country. The eldest sister is married, and the second sister is working outside.
Sun Zhuo went to middle school in the county seat and went home once every two weeks. He didn't see his neighbors often.
But when it comes to Sun Zhuo, the neighbors do not hesitate to praise him, "The children are up for their best. They study in the best high school in the county and have good grades. They are still members of the study committee."
Regarding the origins of Sun Zhuo, there are several theories circulating in the village. Some people say that Kuo’s husband and wife worked outside all year round and brought a child back that year. They said that they were born when they were working outside. Others said that their couple called their grandchildren. Zhuo came here from the house of Mr. Guo's wife and sister.
The villagers were surprised at the fact that Sun Zhuo was abducted. They still wanted to believe that Guo and Mrs. Li did not know about it. “If they knew that the child was stolen, they would definitely not raise it.” .
Compared with the overwhelming indignation and accusation on the adoptive parents’ family in the public opinion field, one villager showed some sympathy, “If he hadn’t been bought by his parents, he might have been bought by another buyer, and his fate would not be known. "After this feeling was refuted, she smiled and said nothing.
Regarding a family-seeking story that has been watched for more than ten years, reunion and acknowledgment cannot become the end of public opinion. All the parties concerned can still feel the gazes that are watching them.
Some even accused Sun Haiyang for not thanking Fu Jiantao for the first time; others questioned Peng Dongying and his son that they provided clues for Sun Haiyang’s 200,000 yuan reward.
This is somewhat ironic.
Peng Dongying said that she used to post child-hunting messages on Weibo and needed to spend money on promotions to get thousands of views.
After finding the child, her number of followers rose from more than 200 to more than 10,000. After posting a Weibo, she read more than one million within a few hours.
Recently, Peng Dongying feels exhausted. “Everyone says Weibo owes Fu Jiantao a hot search, but now I just want to keep the popularity lower so that my children and I can return to a peaceful life.”
Sun Haiyang and his wife have already begun to do this.
When facing the interview, Sun Haiyang tried his best to help Sun Zhuo block those difficult questions, and his wife always reminded Sun Zhuo to wear a mask and not to overexpose.
Sun Zhuo's sister also posted a post online, expressing the family's wish to return to an ordinary and happy life.
In the early morning of December 9, after drove more than 860 kilometers to Yanggu County, Sun Haiyang and his wife sent Sun Zhuo directly back to the school without letting him face any camera.
At the end of the movie "Dear", Sun Haiyang, played by actor Zhang Yi, attended the birthday banquet of the reunited family's children. With some drunkenness, he handed out a thick red envelope.
In reality, before leaving Yanggu County, Sun Haiyang hosted a banquet for several families seeking relatives and reporters who followed him. He still drank very happily and did not refuse anyone’s toast, one after another.
(Sun Haiyang is a pseudonym in the text)
Text / reporter Ji Jiawen intern reporter / Cheng Jiawei Mai Zhiqi