A study reveals the root cause of the coldness and the end of the marital relationship

A research study published by the "Business Insider" magazine website reached the main reason that contributes to the destruction of the relationship between husbands, especially in men, and they pointed out that this reason is sufficient in the case of growth, to the death of love completely in the hearts of men and push him to separate without warning.

According to the study, which was reported by the German "Deutsche Villa", American researchers followed hundreds of couples over the years to discover the most common reason for separation.

And the team surrounding psychiatrist John Gottman came to a surprisingly clear conclusion, by which they can understand why most relationships fail, and sum it up in one word, "ignorance."

Gottman invited the newlyweds into a laboratory set up as a small boarding house, and there he observed the couple's behavior for a day.

And note that they communicate completely differently with each other.

In almost all couples, there were moments when one partner made an offer to talk to him.

It wasn't necessarily about big, important issues, it was mostly small issues, for example, a partner might say, "I spoke to my sister today."

There are now two ways for the other partner to respond, for example to pay attention and ask about her news, to ignore the sentence as if he did not hear it, or even to bring up a completely different topic, or say, "Let me watch TV in peace."

Years later, Gottmann called the couple again.

Some still enjoy happy relationships, while others have separated.

Couples who failed to communicate with each other broke up and interacted poorly with their partner.

Of course, this destructive behavior is present in both women and men.

But while women often try to resolve conflict, men accept being ignored.

It accumulates and grows within it, erasing all feelings of love, until patience is over and separation seems to be the only way.

And when men talk about their dissatisfaction, it is often too late.

A study conducted by the University of Copenhagen showed that the death rate of men who have an annoying partner is much higher than the same rate for women who have an annoying partner. According to the researchers, this is due to the stress hormone, cortisol, which is secreted more strongly in men and affects the heart and blood circulation.

According to the German magazine Freunden, which also dealt with this study, the problem is that men have different rules of the game for separation. And very few women know these rules of the game. Women think that men are tolerant. And if they do not fall in love with another woman, the separation is far away, unfortunately this is not true. Men often say goodbye to their relationships faster than women. Without words, men prefer to remain silent about it when their love wanes, according to a survey by ElitePartner. If the man is unhappy, he may find a justification for him to stay away from the house and his partner, by being busy with work, or sitting for a long time in front of the TV, which may be the first signs that the partner should notice and resolve the matter.

Ignoring is the beginning, and criticism will follow.

This constant criticism will often lead to the destruction of the marital relationship, which may eventually lead to separation.

The solution may be to return to square one, give the lost attention to the partner, and work to fix what has been missed, before the unfortunate consequences occur.

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