5 minutes
relationship and friendship
Abdullah Al Qamzi
Abdulla.AlQamzi@emaratalyoum.com
October 31, 2021
Have you ever asked yourself what makes you approach one person and move away from another?
The spontaneous answer is that I feel very comfortable with him or not at all.
What makes us comfortable for one person and not for another?
It is mutual respect and appreciation that in turn generates trust.
Mutual trust is the most important pillar of friendship or a long-term relationship like marriage.
Without it, friendship doesn't exist and ends in a matter of days, months, or even years once something happens that shakes that trust.
In any healthy relationship, there must be mutual respect, and if disrespect occurs, know that there is an imbalance in the communication process in which you will find negative judgments between the communicators, criticism and ridicule of the value of the person.
In communication studies there is what is called “cruelty to the person and ignoring the problem”, and the intelligent person who improves the communication process knows how to differentiate between the person and the problem, which is often in the person’s behavior.
The unintelligent person focuses on the personal attack and ignores the problem.
One of the factors that strengthen the friendship relationship are joint activities.
We say that you will not know a person’s metal except during travel, in a crisis, or on a joyous occasion;
Travel creates shared positive or negative memories.
You will not forget your friend who saved you in exile, or the patience to do what you love, and you will not forget the one who imposed his taste on you, or the one who woke up in the morning and left the hotel and left you alone. Curse the moment you decided to travel with him.
And definitely do not forget that person who supported you in a crisis when others ignored you or did not care about you, and you will not forget the one you ignored one day, but he was the first to attend a funeral or at your personal wedding.
And you will not forget that person who is already a guest in your house but helps and serves your guests when he sees you unable to perform the task as if they were his guests.
And when you thank him, he says I didn't do anything, man.
This is the faithful and irreplaceable friend, he may be a childhood friend who grew up with you, he may be your boss at work or your colleague, and a friend of one of your friends may be close to you when he learned about your qualities and morals, and he may be the son of your neighborhood whom you see in the mosque even though he is not your neighbour.
You do not know where it is and you will not find it if you go to search for it, but God Almighty will put it before you if you have sincere intentions towards others.
Attitude:
Twenty years ago, there was a person who did not love me because he heard about me from another person, who spoke to me as if I was his enemy and deliberately insulted me in front of others, even though I did not do anything wrong with him.
I saw him from my car on a street waiting for a taxi, sweating in the heat.
I stopped and told him to ride with me, he jumped in my car without hesitation and I drove him home.
He thanked me warmly and with signs of embarrassment on his face, he did not apologize for his previous position, but he turned into a friend in a day and night until life's concerns separated us against our will.
• «Mutual trust is the most important pillar of friendship or a long-term relationship such as marriage».
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