When we talk about marriage, what are we talking about?
Prince and princess-like romance, sweet affection, or daily trivial, indifferent and alienated, and even break up and divorce?
Recently, the broadcast of Mango TV variety show "Goodbye Lover" has set off an upsurge of "marriage" and "marriage" on the Internet.
After the end of the show, its popularity and word-of-mouth still remain at a high level, and it has become a recent treasure in the domestic variety show market.
Produced a reality show focusing on the topic of divorce, "Goodbye Lover" is the first time in China.
While the subject matter is unconventional, attention-grabbing, and courageous, it also makes observers sweat about its performance.
Judging from the response since the broadcast, the program production team can bear the praise of "Yi Gao Ren Da Da".
Concerned about the complex aspects of marriage from a realist standpoint, caring about the emotions that are difficult to use right or wrong in marriage with humanistic values, and using the truth, truthfulness, and sincerity of the people in the play to look at themselves for the audience outside the play. Mirror, after spending a journey of "divorce" together, empathy, thinking, and comprehension emerge. Remove the filter, bow to yourself, and grow up. This may be how "Goodbye Lover" was praised as "Emotional Observation Variety" The reason for the ceiling.
Remove "filters": marriage and emotions are really valuable
The prince and princess-like love is what everyone yearns for; the fresh and peaceful marriage is longed for by everyone; the love book and the secret of marriage are the "just needs" of the modern people who are trapped and exhausted by love.
But if you watch too many sweet pet dramas like "sprinkling sugar" and "showing affection", it is inevitable that it will give people an unreal and sweet feeling like adding a "filter" or "industrial saccharin".
The original intention of "Goodbye Lover" was to remove the "filter", show the true appearance of marriage, and provide the audience with a true perspective on real life.
This idea can be said to run through the show.
First of all, taking the three groups of guests selected from the show, we can see that the creative team is "playing real": Guo Keyu and Zhang He have been married for ten years and divorced for one year, Zhu Yaqiong and Wang Qiuyu are in a cooling-off period after completing their divorce procedures. Tong Chenjie and Wei Wei are in marriage, but they disagree on major issues such as whether to have children.
Among these three groups of guests, which group can perform the stage of the idol drama?
As the show unfolds, the true details of the marriage relationship are nowhere to be seen during the journey or in front of the camera.
The conflicts and emotions that the guests tried to hide inevitably flowed out like quicksand in the Northwest.
Guo Keyu and Zhang He got married in a flash, and went hand in hand for ten years. In the first episode, they were speechless and frankly said that there was no love between the two.
Zhu Yaqiong's romantic words and enthusiastic catering could not be exchanged for Wang Qiuyu's affirmation and applause; the two confronted each other in the show without concealing their dissatisfaction with each other in their words.
Tong Chenjie is the one with the strongest sense of self-identity among the three female guests, but when faced with the question of whether to have children, she also got into arguing with her husband again and again.
"No love", "One side attached to the other", "Concept conflict", the marital and emotional problems encountered by the guests in the show are not the epitome of the general confusion in the real society.
Facing social issues, showing the truth of marriage, implanting realistic concerns and seriousness in variety shows for leisure and entertainment, exploring the complexity of emotions between people, instead of satisfying selfish desires, concocting topics, and watching "dog blood" The plot, this is the value of "Goodbye Lover" as a reality show.
Healing the audience: marriage is not scary, love is the most solid foundation
Obviously, the creative intention of "Goodbye Lover" is not only to show the "wounds" and "pains" of marriage. In the words of director Liu Le, it shows the real rifts, but not "the pain of consumption."
Instead, through 18 days of joint travel, guests can meet frankly, face their hearts, and find the deep reasons behind their marriage together.
In the interaction between the two sides, the ice cubes slowly melted, and some touching details slowly emerged in an instant.
Zhang He overcame his fear of heights and climbed to the heart-shaped walkway on the edge of the cliff to shout, blurting out the name of Guo Keyu and his blessing to her: "Ten years before, thank you. In the days to come, live the way you like. "Guo Keyu also expressed sincerity in an interview with "People": "The fate of the two of us, in a place such a wide nature, the love between children and daughters in the world is too insignificant. Love is too small, or it has a level. A little thin. You warm me, I also want to warm you, we want to be affectionate and righteous."
Facing the 36 questions in the show, Wang Qiuyu cried and cried, crying and saying sorry. Because of the influence of childhood education, he didn't know how to express emotions, which disappointed Zhu Yaqiong's enthusiasm.
However, Zhu Yaqiong did not get off the bus at the end of the show. Compared with the beginning of the show, she undoubtedly gained growth.
Guo Keyu and Tong Chenjie also saw a better self and each other through the "fog" attached to their emotions.
Therefore, while "Goodbye Lover" truly displays modern marriage relationships, it captures the "goodness" and "beauty" in emotional relationships from the perspective of humanistic care.
As the "chasing drama" deepens, it is not difficult for the audience to discover through the lens that there are hugs, cares and blessings that coexist with speechlessness, disputes and incomprehension in the marriage relationship.
The latter is the basis of a harmonious marriage.
"Who would have thought that one day I would get divorced CP?" "Unexpectedly, I was cured by a divorce variety show." At the end of the show, people in reality who used to have doubts about love and fear of marriage also have a new understanding. Knowing: It turns out that marriage is not as horrible as imagined. Love is the most solid foundation for marriage. After wind and rain, across the gap, you can reach the other side of happiness.