Mom "taught" you how to face life and death
"Everything About My Mom" "scheduled" the most tear-jerking movie on the Mid-Autumn Festival
Yangcheng Evening News reporter Li Li
This year's Mid-Autumn Festival may appear a dark horse at the box office.
A film called "Everything About My Mom" has recently triggered a strong "tear-jerking" effect in various screenings, and even critics have compared it with the box office blockbuster "Hello, Li Huanying" during the Spring Festival this year.
It is worth mentioning that in addition to maternal love, the theme of the film is "death education", and such films are like "Get Out!"
"Mrs. Tumor" and "Send You A Little Red Flower" have also achieved good box office results in the past.
"Everything About My Mom" is directed by Zhao Tianyu, and Xu Fan, Zhang Jingyi, and Xu Yajun play a family of three in the film.
During the creation process, Zhao Tianyu interviewed more than 40 pairs of mothers and daughters, and Xu Fan's prowess made the mothers in the film show the most authentic texture.
The film will be officially released on September 19.
The real daily life between mother and daughter
"When you were a kid, you liked sleeping with your mother the most. You always said,'Mom smells so fragrant.'" "But I don't like it now!" The film's true display of the details of mother and daughter getting along with each other impressed many viewers.
One expects his child to stick to himself as he did when he was a child, but the other is eager to get rid of his mother's care and control of him. This is the daily life of many Chinese mothers and daughters.
The film shows an ordinary Chinese family of three.
The old couple lives in Qingdao, but their daughter chose Bei Piao.
Although my daughter often does not go home on holidays, her mother still prepares her favorite dishes early before the holidays.
Her daughter's work and love were not going well, so she decided to go home temporarily.
My mother happily ran to the train station to pick up the person before she finished the physical examination. When she met, she "disgusted with Erlian": "The hair curtain is covering your eyes, so you can get it up! What do you wear in your eyes? Cosmetic contact lenses? Nothing at all. Mei!" When it was over, he took the suitcase with joy, and stretched out the other empty hand to his daughter: "Hurry up, take it!"
In the eyes of her daughter, her mother’s love is somewhat “talking to herself”: after finally returning home to rest, mother opened the curtains early in the morning to prevent people from sleeping; she said “knock on the door before entering the room” countless times, mother I still want to break in, even forcibly asking them to sleep together, because "you rarely come back, sleeping with mother is the privilege of mother"; arrange blind dates for her daughter by herself, and ask her daughter to perform talent in front of a lot of relatives and friends... …In this relationship, even though my daughter repeatedly emphasized that "you don’t care about me" again and again, my mother still took care of her housework, her work, her love, and everything about her, and she said frankly: "I It's your mother! I'm doing this for your own good!"
"Suffocating love! I think of my mother all the way." A young female audience said at the early screenings in Guangzhou, "The daily details of this movie are so real that they are'outrageous'!"
Approaching the values of mothers
But all the control and resistance between the mother and daughter quietly changed after the hospital issued a diagnosis.
My mother has cancer. She has been suffering from discomfort and pain silently for many years. Now the disease has advanced to an incurable late stage.
Many viewers who watched the preview expressed disapproval of the role: "Obviously, the husband is a doctor, so he can endure it for so many years." However, some viewers also expressed understanding: "Many mothers put their family first and put their families first. My own needs are ranked last.” In the film, a mother who has been a geography teacher all her life serves the children at school, and has to take care of her mother-in-law suffering from Alzheimer's disease at home for decades.
My husband works in a hospital, and because of a surgical accident, he is unwilling to go back to the operating room. My daughter works as a director in Beijing and always reports the good news but not the bad news, but her mother can always see through that she is actually not happy...
The mother in the film also has a poor brother.
Many years ago, his mother reluctantly sent him to compulsory detoxification, and sold his parents’ old house for this. After that, her brother took "what you owed me" as a reason for his failure, and came to her whenever he lost money in gambling. trouble.
My daughter advised her mother to sever the relationship with her uncle many times, but her mother always replied: "He is my only brother!"
Is your mother a "helping brother demon" who has no self?
There are two plots in the ending of the film to answer this.
In one place, her brother went home for the New Year’s Eve dinner. The siblings smiled and wept at the dumplings, while the other cried silently. The mother’s efforts over the years finally led to some kind of reconciliation; in the other place, the daughter realized that her mother had it back then. It was her own dream, she was even admitted to the Antarctic expedition team, but because she found out she was pregnant, she finally chose to give up her dream to give birth to a daughter.
It is worth mentioning that the film did not blindly appreciate the sacrifice of mother.
At the end of the film, a flashback of what the mother said to her daughter before her death: "This is my choice, but you are not the same. Mom hopes you can live the life you want." In this regard, a choice of the mother in the film The viewers who "do not accept but understand" said that they cried and swollen their eyes: "The values of each generation are inevitably different. After watching this movie, I think I will understand my mother better."
Facing death and living meaning
How humans face death is obviously a heavier proposition than maternal love.
But in the summer of 2015, "Get Out!"
"Tumor" received a box office of 510 million yuan, and "Send You A Little Red Flower", which was released on December 31 last year, ended at a box office of 1.432 billion yuan, showing the effect of this type of theme on the box office.
If you consider the "addition" of the theme of maternal love, even if it is difficult for "Everything About My Mom" to have an amazing box office of "Hello, Li Huanying" of 5.413 billion yuan, it may also have the opportunity to take a "long-term movie" based on the theme and strength. The road to victory.
However, "Everything About My Mom" is still obviously different from the above works.
For example, the film does not have the obvious comedic color of "Hello, Li Huanying". In addition, it is better than "Get Out!" which integrates the two-dimensional style.
"Mr. Tumor" and "Send You A Little Red Flower" are more realistic.
But also based on this, the film's discussion on the topic of "death education" is more direct and sharp.
In the film, when everyone around me is sad and uneasy, my mother is the most calm person.
When she went to Beijing for medical treatment, she also brought her daughter to the hometown specialty of the trunk of the car.
When the daughter finally learned that she was terminally ill, she cried and asked, "Why didn't you tell me earlier?" She smiled and replied, "What a big deal!" The mother who was optimistic and calm finally showed fear.
The only way for a family to overcome the fear of death and the pain of parting is to face it together.
How to live out meaning and how to face death are two sides of the same proposition-the latter is more fearful for middle-aged and elderly people, while the former is mostly perplexed by young people.
"Everything About My Mother" also sharply reveals the issue of the "hollow man" through the conflict between the mother and daughter.
In the film, the mother discovers that the object of her daughter's bitter love is even a wife and a daughter, and decides to let her daughter witness the truth with her own eyes, hoping to help her "get back on track."
When the daughter collapsed, it was revealed that she actually knew that the other party was married.
Mother was stunned: "You are not such a child!" The daughter yelled: "I am just like this! I just live by - emotionally, and work. I don't like this job at all!" Mom tried to understand her daughter. "Then what do you like? It's too late for us to work hard together." But her daughter's answer broke her again: "I don't know, I don't like anything. Can you stop imagining me..."
"Sometimes facing my mother, who is full of energy, I really feel that I am too weak and fail to live." A female audience said that this mother-daughter conflict is her "favorite in the whole film", "it points out me completely. There is a fundamental disagreement with my mother-she, like the mother in the film, always likes to say, "You are young, can't you live a little bit more actively?" But I always feel that I can't do anything. In the end, my mother encouraged her daughter to'don't do unpleasant jobs, it doesn't matter.' But in reality, my mother would definitely not agree to my resignation. But I think maybe I shouldn't wait for her guidance. I need to find my own answer."