Sweet troubles of Teacher's Day:
Parents want to "show" that the teacher is afraid of "getting into trouble"
Expert suggestion: trust teachers, clear policies, and the family committee should not mix in
Yangcheng Evening News reporter Jiang Jun Chen Liang
On the eve of Teacher's Day, the Shenzhen No. 1 High School Scholars Committee mobilized all classes to buy gifts for teachers without the teacher's knowledge, and the local education bureau intervened in the investigation.
Although it was finally confirmed that neither the school nor the teacher knew about it, it also reflects that on the special day of Teacher’s Day, parents and teachers will inevitably encounter such "sweet troubles".
Respecting teachers and respecting education is an excellent cultural tradition of the Chinese nation.
As Teacher’s Day is approaching on September 10, a reporter from the Yangcheng Evening News interviewed a number of parents, teachers, and experts, and asked them to talk about what “sweet troubles” they have encountered and how to face Teacher’s Day correctly.
Parents entangled: do not mean that they are afraid of being left out, want to express that they are afraid of making mistakes
As Teacher's Day approaches, many parents are entangled.
"There will be a competition in mid-October, and the physical education teacher will work extra overtime. It is really hard. Teacher's Day is here. I really want the teacher to feel the respect and gratitude of our parents." said Ms. Zhang, a parent of a fifth-grade student in a primary school in Panyu District, Guangzhou Because of the regulations that the education department is not allowed to give gifts to teachers, I am very entangled, "I'm afraid that the wrong gifts may cause trouble to the teachers."
Some parents are disgusted with giving gifts and fear that other parents "have ideas."
Ms. Chen, a parent of a student at a private elementary school in Panyu District, said that since September 4, the family committee has been preparing how to buy gifts for teachers.
Each parent received 300 yuan, a total of 12,000 yuan, and planned to buy a bouquet of 248 yuan for each of the four teachers on Teacher’s Day, and let the eight students in the class send it. No one in the group objected.
"Everyone is afraid of being kicked out of the group by the family committee. This 300 yuan is not a big money. Please hand it in." But Ms. Chen felt that the form of sending flowers was "not minded": "Children can make cards and handcrafts by themselves. The work is given to the teacher. Consciously abide by the school discipline and earnestly complete the tasks assigned by the teacher. This is the real respect for teachers."
Some parents approve of giving gifts, but dislike "apportionment."
Mr. Liu, a parent of a public elementary school, feels that it is a personal matter whether to give or not to give.
The Parents Committee organizes gifts. In the end, the teacher only remembered the members of the Parents Committee. Others paid "not even a sound".
Because of their inexperience, parents whose children have just entered school are particularly struggling.
"Give it, what gift to give? What price? How to give it? Don't give it, if other parents gave it, but didn't give it, will the child be affected by that time? The gift is too thin, will the teacher think You are stingy? The courtesy is not a small expense. I bought a gift, how can I give it to the teacher? If the teacher refuses, should he insist or take it back? How do you know whether she (he) is polite or sincerely refuses... …" The first-year parent, Ms. Lu, sent a "soul serial torture" to the Yangcheng Evening News reporter.
Some experienced parents are quite calm.
"In the past, the family committee organized to send water cups to the teacher, but they were all returned by the teacher. Since then, the parents in the class have not been anxious about the Teacher's Day gift. Ask the children to draw a card and make a small handmade gift to send, and everyone is happy." Grader Ms. Changjiang said.
Mr. Song, a parent of a public elementary school in Haizhu District, thinks: “Since there is this holiday, it is understandable that the whole class will give a small gift together. I generally recommend that children make postcards or paintings, and do not encourage the purchase of expensive gifts. Precious and express one's heart best."
Teacher's voice: Mind is a gift and daily life is more important
What kind of Teacher’s Day do teachers really think about?
"Teacher's Day should have the taste of education. A standard team etiquette, a sincere greeting, a serious attitude, and a happy growth... are all our'taste of happiness'. We do not pursue superficial etiquette. , Polite words. Parents’ respect, trust, understanding, and cooperation... are all our most precious gifts." Huayang Primary School Deputy School Changjiang Zhao Mei said that the school advocates this to parents.
If parents don’t give gifts, will teachers treat their children differently?
the answer is negative.
Jiang Zhaomei said that the teacher will respect every child with love, trust every child with patience, cultivate every child with confidence, and ask parents to trust the teacher. This is what teachers should do.
Teacher Guo, the head teacher of a middle school in Guangzhou, said: "Students pay tribute to me. I don't reject it. In the past few years, I heard a lot of news about teachers being complained. I really feel like a throat. A very warm section is now unclear. Now that my parents give me gifts, I feel so psychologically burdened.” Teacher Guo said that compared with material things, she prefers heart. “For example, some students create their own rap (rap) to perform in class, and some students make videos. , And self-made computer games. These gifts are very interesting and don’t burden me psychologically."
Mr. Guo disagrees with the organization of gifts by the family committee.
"The minds of the children have been ignored." Teacher Guo said, in fact, respect for the teacher should be reflected in the daily bit by bit. How do they accept the teacher’s criticism and education? These moments can better reflect whether the child truly respects the teacher."
Jurisprudence: It is not easy to define what is considered as a gift
On July 8, 2014, the Ministry of Education issued the "Regulations on the Prohibition of Teachers' Illegal Acceptance of Gifts and Gifts from Students and Parents". Six "red lines" were established for a small number of teachers to illegally accept gifts and gifts from students and parents by taking advantage of their positions. Teachers are strictly prohibited from requesting or accepting gifts, securities and payment vouchers from students and parents in any way; in 2018, the Ministry of Education issued the "Ten Guidelines for the Professional Conduct of Teachers in Elementary and Secondary Schools in the New Era", in which Article 9 stipulates " It is not allowed to ask for and accept property from students and parents or participate in banquets, travel, entertainment and leisure activities paid by students and parents"; starting from July 2021, Guangdong has launched special rectifications on the issue of paid supplementary lessons for primary and secondary schools and teachers’ illegal receipt of gifts and gifts...
Although, in recent years, there have been many news related to inappropriate gift giving on Teacher’s Day, but a reporter from the Yangcheng Evening News combed through relevant policies and regulations and found that there was no clear definition of “gift”.
In real life, it is Teacher's Day all year round. Parents want to express their gratitude to the teacher understandably, but they are not sure about the "heart".
The regulations say "it is forbidden to receive gift money." If a gift of one thousand or a few hundred yuan is considered a gift, then do fruits and flowers of tens of yuan count?
If a flower bouquet of hundreds of dollars is considered as a gift, does that flower count as...
Faced with many problems, every holiday season, parents and teachers are a little confused and trembling.
Teacher Guo, the teacher of the junior high school, said: “In order to prevent parents from complaining, the relevant departments are often'one size fits all'.” The reporter learned that the Yuexiu District Education Bureau issued a notice a few days ago. The phenomenon of respect and care, please pay close attention to all schools and parks, and educate and guide the teachers of this unit to strictly observe the norms of teacher ethics, and must not participate in such behaviors, and must not accept various gifts and gifts from parents and students."
In order to avoid suspicion, many schools specifically issued open letters, directly declining any gifts.
Huayang Primary School, Tianhe District, Guangzhou City stipulates that all teachers “do not accept gifts (including flowers, chocolates, etc.) from parents in any form, and refuse all forms of banquets.” Guangdong Experimental Middle School Liwan School also reminded parents: “Classmates! Warm greetings, a bright smiling face, a happy progress, and a hand-made card are all the best Teacher's Day gifts."
Expert analysis: teachers and students are the protagonists, the family committee supervises the school
Liu Tao, deputy dean of the School of Journalism and Communication of Jinan University, believes that teachers are a profession. Strictly speaking, parents are actually "outsiders", and parents do not need to express their feelings, nor do they need to express their feelings.
He argued that better involvement of teachers in teaching is the teacher's attitude towards students; students study hard and reward teachers with better grades, which is also the attitude of students towards teachers: "The education authority needs to formulate relevant policies and clarify relevant red line standards. And borders."
Xiong Bingqi, a well-known educational scholar and dean of the 21st Century Education Research Institute, suggested that the position and function of the family committee should be corrected.
"The most important function of the family committee is to supervise the school and protect the rights of students on behalf of all parents. However, in reality, some family committees are alienated into furnishings, tools, or sororities: they do not play a role and serve as schools in the name of the family committee. If it is inconvenient to show up, let the parents with good looks be the members of the family committee to improve the relationship with the school."
He pointed out that because the family committee did not play the basic role of supervising school running, the relationship between home and school was not equal, and the "prisoner's dilemma" that did not give gifts to parents on Teacher's Day originated from this.
If the family committee plays a supervisory role, parents don’t have to worry that not giving gifts will put their children at a disadvantage.
If a teacher discriminates against a certain student, the family committee will report it to the school teacher committee, and the teacher committee will investigate and deal with it. In this way, an equal relationship between home and school can be established.