Wang Shuai is the "little dad" of the children in the Beijing Unprotected Center
34-year-old Wang Shuai has been educating and caring for the aided children for 13 years; his greatest wish is "the children can gain a foothold in society"
On September 7th, Wang Shuai (a person in black) and the children were at the Beijing Minor Rescue and Protection Center.
On September 7, Wang Shuai (in black) and the children were playing basketball.
On September 8, Wang Shuai (in black) taught the children how to cook.
On September 7, Wang Shuai (in black) gave the child a haircut.
"On the day of your wedding ceremony, I can pretend to be your'dad'." Wang Shuai's words made silent tears burst in an instant.
For those who grew up in the Beijing Municipal Minor Rescue and Protection Center (hereinafter referred to as the "Unprotected Center"), perhaps holding his father's arms at the wedding has never dared to imagine.
As a staff member of the Education Management Section of the "Uninsured Center", Wang Shuai is responsible for the daily education, teaching and daily care of the aided children.
He is a versatile teacher in computer, painting and other courses; on the basketball court, he is a teammate side by side; in open-hearted conversations, he is a seductive father; in daily care such as haircuts and cooking, he It's like a mother again.
Wang Shuai's greatest wish is "after the children leave me, they can gain a foothold in society and can no longer close themselves".
The increasing tacit understanding gradually eliminates communication barriers
In a corner of Qingyundian Town, Daxing District, a boulevard of more than ten kilometers separates the "unprotected center" and the "outside world".
When it comes to Bailu, the trees on both sides of the tree-lined road are still lush and lush.
Six or seven children who have just finished their lunch break are running and jumping on the basketball court of the "unprotected center". The huge basketball court is divided into two areas, the basketball area and the skateboard area, and the children from each position do not interfere with each other.
Wang Shuai decided to take advantage of this time to cut new hairstyles for the two long-haired children.
As soon as Wang Shuai walked to the edge of the basketball court, the children immediately surrounded him to greet him, and then attracted him like a magnet, waiting for his arrangements.
Knowing that today is "Barber Day", the children began to work together. Some brought chairs, some brought toolboxes, and some tiptoes put on work clothes for Wang Shuai, and children who needed haircut took the initiative to sit in the seat. The chair is waiting for Wang Shuai.
"Here it is thinner, and another slit is made on the left." About fifteen minutes, the boy's original hair was cut into a lean "Moxi dry head", with "wolves' tails" still left behind.
"The kids watch the hairstyles of stars on TV, and they want me to cut them like that, and I will practice them slowly." Wang Shuai said that his techniques were learned from online video tutorials. After cutting his head, the children asked more and he learned more.
The children's eyes have been on Wang Shuai.
As soon as Wang Shuai put down the electric clippers in his hand, a child stuck to his side, took his hand and brushed his hair stubble little by little, and the other child took off his work clothes for him.
Wang Shuai explained that the two children around him are both deaf and mute. They have been with him for a long time. Without words, the children can understand what he needs next.
The increasing tacit understanding gradually eliminated the communication barriers between Wang Shuai and the children.
When you sweat when playing basketball with the children, some children will run to fetch him water; without verbal communication, Wang Shuai can teach deaf-mute children to dance and rehearse mime.
The transformation from a person who takes care of the children to a person who is taken care of by the children is not Wang Shuai's original intention, but it is also the result of his ears and eyes.
The children in the "Uninsured Center" are not the same as other children in society.
Some of them have minor violations of the law, some are seriously ill, some have lost their parents, and some are unfortunately disabled.
It is not easy for Wang Shuai to complete the process of "ears and eyes".
Let the children recognize and admire, and then they will be infected
As long as he is around the children, Wang Shuai will feel particularly "needed".
In addition to haircuts, Wang Shuai can play basketball, cook, paint, dance, sing, and even difficult martial arts and physical movements.
Wang Shuai believes that in order to attract children to study, they need to be in front of them in everything. "I call this'idol-style teaching'. Only when children recognize and admire it from their hearts will they truly infect them."
Zhou Jiaying, a social work teacher who works with Wang Shuai, said that the children have been with Teacher Wang for a long time, and they can always see the shadow of Teacher Wang in the children.
Because Wang Shuai is left-handed, a boy who used to use his right hand to pitch a ball would learn from Teacher Wang to use his left hand; because Wang Shuai would bring points to the children every time he received snacks and drinks from his friends. Several older children who often go out to perform will stay when they get rewards given by others, and give them to other children when they return to the "uninsured center"; because in the computer room he saw Wang Shuai collect the basically scrapped machines I got up and disassembled and repaired, and finally put together more than a dozen computers that can work normally. Some children started to like computers; because they often tried various ingredients to cook with Wang Shuai, some children started to like cooking.
When Hua Hua, who was taken in before, became an adult, when asked where he wanted to be resettled, Hua Hua chose to study cooking without hesitation.
Although he left Wang Shuai, Huahua still kept in touch with Wang Shuai. Every time he learns a new dish, he will carefully arrange the plate, photograph it, and send it to Wang Shuai.
When Wang Shuai mentioned Huahua, he was also quite proud, "you can become a chef after graduation this year."
Because Wang Shuai first studied international hotel management and worked in China World Hotel before.
In Huahua, Wang Shuai seemed to see himself.
In Wang Shuai’s memory, when he first met Huahua, he was a six or seven-year-old boy who was wandering in Beijing and scavenging waste. “He was very short and dark.” Wang Shuai and other staff helped him. Clean, take him for a physical examination, because his foot is disabled, take him for surgery and help him with rehabilitation training.
Along the way, Wang Shuai accompanied Huahua to bid farewell to the little boy who didn't like to talk because of inferiority, and turned into a sunny boy who likes basketball, computers and cooking just like Wang Shuai.
Huahua mentioned in his letter to Wang Shuai, "Teacher, I recognize you as my father. If I have a girlfriend, I will be the first to tell you, and I will support you in the future."
Make up for the regret of "no father by his side" in childhood
Seeing the word "old care", Wang Shuai wanted to laugh a little. At the age of 34, he was just married. How could he get involved with the word "old".
But on second thought, this year is already his 13th year working in the “uninsured center”. He can't remember how many children he has sent back to his parents or into society, but almost every child who leaves is Keep in touch with him.
He picked up the phone and sent his feelings to silent.
"On the day of your wedding, with me, I can pretend to be your'dad'."
The words sent by Shuai Wang made a moment of tears in silence.
Perhaps for this 18-year-old girl, the moment of holding her father's arms has never been imaginable.
Silent and Accord, a boy one year younger than her, were both adopted by a foreign man in China. When they first arrived at the “unprotected center”, they did not think that “the meal is full, the meal is nutritious. The "uninsured center" of "equilibrium" will exist as "home".
Their first thought was to "escape". When the door was locked, they jumped out of the window. After being chased by Wang Shuai, they would curse swear words in English.
I don't know when, Accord and Silently, who often lie by the window trying to leave, began to pay attention to Wang Shuai, who was playing on the basketball court during the lunch break.
Dribbling, turning, leaping, dunking, this set of actions inadvertently broke into their eyes. They not only liked and accepted Wang Shuai, but also gradually learned Chinese and shooting.
They confided in their letter to Wang Shuai, "I never opened my heart before I met you."
For Wang Shuai, he rarely opened his heart before accompanying the children.
Wang Shuai lived with his grandmother until he was 20 years old. When he was a single-parent family, he did not receive enough care from his father when he was a child.
In Wang Shuai's impression, his father was dignified and busy, because his father worked at the Beijing Disaster Relief Donation Management Center and often went to the front line of disaster relief. "No father by his side" was Wang Shuai's childhood regret.
But Wang Shuai saw "helping others" in his father; when his grandmother often distributed the dumplings to neighbors with more difficult living conditions, Wang Shuai saw "sharing", and he passed them on to the children around him. .
Wang Shuai thinks he can give the children not much, but as long as the children have needs, he will try his best to satisfy them, "I want to make up for my childhood regrets."
Help the children of "folding wings" return to the sky
"Children's needs are usually very simple. They are as simple as white paper, but white paper also has the problem of white paper." After entering the society, children still have no idea about money, and the subsidies or wages in hand are spent in their hands. Almost in a blink of an eye.
In November 2018, the Beijing Municipal Civil Affairs Bureau organized teaching staff to study abroad. Wang Shuai changed his view of education from Finland’s special children’s education. To learn how to communicate with people outside the "uninsured center", you must have an understanding of money."
In order to keep children out of touch with society, Wang Shuai built a virtual currency trading system in the "Uninsured Center".
"5 yuan to 100 yuan of virtual currency, let children learn how to make money." Children usually participate in courses, participate in major activities, help administrators, etc. can receive various monetary rewards.
When donated materials are distributed to the center, children can use these currencies to "consume" in exchange for things they like.
"To let them experience, make money through hard work, and then spend, this is the shaping of values." Wang Shuai introduced.
From time to time, Wang Shuai would take the children to "go out" and teach them how to take the bus, the subway, and how to order meals.
Before the "Unguaranteed Center" moved, Wang Shuai would often take a few children to Chaoyang Joy City.
The children will do their homework in advance, check the bus routes in the computer class and write them down on paper.
Starting from stepping out of the gate of the “unprotected center”, Wang Shuai will let the children take control. “I won’t say that after taking a bus stop, let the children find out by themselves and transfer by themselves. They see it for themselves, and choose the exit.” When needed, he will demonstrate how to apply for a bus card, how to pass the security check and swipe the card to enter the station, reminding children to pay attention to elevator etiquette when taking the elevator and pay attention to civilized behavior in public places.
They will also be taken to the game hall or skating rink to experience the lives of children of the same age.
Before meeting Wang Shuai, she silently accepted from the subconscious that "I should be helped, and they should give me something". But from Teacher Wang, she knew "polite" and "grateful" for the first time, and she knew that she had never The so-called "deserved", "have been helped by others, and should be given a helping hand when others need it."
Now Silent has been admitted to a secondary school, and Accord has also been admitted to a high school.
Leaving the "unprotected center", they will dance harmoniously with this society.
Wang Shuai still stayed at their original "home" and accompanied a group of children to grow up together.
Wang Shuai's greatest wish is to watch "After the children leave me, they can gain a foothold in society and can no longer close themselves. The bird with the broken wings can return to the sky after being repaired."
(Huahua, Silent, Accord are pseudonyms)
Beijing News reporter Bo Qiyu intern Zhang Chi
A06-A07 edition photography/Beijing News reporter Wang Jianing