AN fell to tears when she saw the scene starring the Spanish royal family, when she went to see off the heiress, who is beginning her Baccalaureate studies at
UWC Atlantic College in Wales.
She cried because she remembered when, years ago, she herself said goodbye to her 15-year-old son.
It has been more than five years, but he has not been able to forget that immense emptiness that formed in the pit of his stomach that August 11, when he said goodbye to his offspring, whom he would not see until 11 months later.
Not that
uneasiness
that clouded her spirits every time she passed her empty room.
AN's son was one of the many teenagers who were going to study abroad for a course, or to do an Erasmus.
It is not so bad, many will think.
But when that little person you have cared for all his life leaves for a long time, and even if you know that he will be fine,
something dies in the soul,
as the song says.
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How to overcome it?
We get in touch with the
psychologist Silvia Álava,
who gives us some guidelines to know what to do, but also what to avoid.
The Queen and her eldest daughter embraced each other.
"Emotions are part of our life, and they can be very intense in situations like that, in which
sadness
and
worry
are mixed
with the
joy
of knowing that our son is leaving for his good. You have to listen to those emotions, recognize them , accept them and verbalize them ", says the expert, who adds:" It is even good to
write what we feel
to understand what we feel: why is it leaving, how am I ... ".
The second step, he continues, is not to cover up those emotions.
Álava remembers with humor that "it is not a question of putting on the show in Barajas" and making you cry rivers of tears, but between that and remaining impassive there is a middle ground, which is called 'throwing a tear'.
"Of course,
if when you get home you need to cry, do it, it
's normal," he advises.
The third step would be "learn to
continue enjoying your life
even if he is not there. He has left because it is good for him and if something happens they will call you".
Therefore, let us carry on with our day to day with joy and occupy our heads with other things.
So far, what we must do.
But what about what should be avoided for your sake and that of the one who has left the nest?
In the first place, affirms the psychologist,
"it is not necessary to feel an excessive preoccupation
by everything bad that can happen".
And secondly, and very important:
"Do not call him compulsively or try to control him from here.
You must be his emotional support if he needs it, but you do not want to solve everything from a distance."
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