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I was disenchanted with the world and with men.
And boring at home.
That is why
Olga Chacón García,
a 42-year-old nurse, decided to join Meetic.
His was not a usual situation.
"I was three months pregnant with a girl, had decided to be a single mother and had undergone in vitro fertilization treatment. It is not very normal, but I thought: 'Nothing happens to talk.' So I jumped in. I used a false profile and I did not put a photo, "he tells us.
Namaste, his made-up name, and the phrase "I'm here just passing through" were enough to hook Daniel just a couple of days later.
And by the way, nothing: four years later they have started a family, they are married and have another daughter in common.
"I just wanted to talk," says Olga, but her story, which she defines as "wonderful", ended on a
first date
that was also a success. "We met for coffee, he stretched out, walked me to the car and gave me my first kiss. It was a
crush,
" he recalls. That is why she recommends without hesitation to go on a date online: "My friends are all involved in
Meetic
."
Like Olga, many women flock to online
dating
platforms
. "It's easier, it helps you get to know the person little by little and not get disappointed right off the bat. Besides, you make things clear before meeting in person. It's easy and fast," says S., 26, who He has been using these platforms, specifically Sugardaters, for years, "and now more than before since the pandemic scares, who doesn't ...", to have fun and, why not, "find a stable relationship".
In fact, it is becoming more common to find a partner over the
Internet
than at a bar counter. According to the study
'Disintermediating your friends',
from Stanford University, 40 percent of heterosexual couples meet thanks to the Internet, a percentage that increases considerably, up to 60%, in the case of homosexuals.
But after that first contact, it all depends on the
first date
and that face-to-face encounter that makes the difference between having fun and running away.
Should we take the initiative? Where is the limit between being original or extravagant? Better to show ourselves as we are or save something for last?
When the goal is to succeed, nothing better than following the advice of the professionals, the experts at Meetic, the portal to which Olga is grateful.
"There is no need to be ashamed, it is a way to find friends and a partner, today it is difficult to meet someone," he says.
What do i wear
The first impression counts, and a lot.
It is not about changing our style, but about giving the best image of ourselves.
And for this there are some tips that should be taken into account;
they are the keys to getting off to a good start.
What impression do you want to give?
If you have been talking to the other person for a while, stopping to think how you can make you feel in tune, without having to change your style, will help you choose.
Take the environment into account.
The place and time of the meeting will give you some clues.
For a dinner it is convenient to choose a more sophisticated look, but if you are just going for a walk or have a coffee in the middle of the afternoon, you will go better with something lighter.
First of all, comfort.
There is nothing worse than arriving on a first date and feeling insecure in what you are wearing;
Even if you don't debut, it is better to bet on something that you know suits you.
Highlight your strengths.
You know very well what they are.
Do not try to imitate anyone, think about the colors and clothes that suit you the most, even if they are not the trend of the moment.
Be natural.
Even if you have been preparing for hours, try not to show it.
For a first date, discreet makeup is better, avoid stilettos and anything else that can overwhelm your partner.
How to break the ice
No matter how long you have been in an online relationship, the
first date
in person is very different and without the 'protective shield' that the screens give, it is not so easy to break the shyness.
But there are some themes that never fail and that help the nerves of the
first meeting
do not take their toll.
Right now, the holidays provide the
easiest and most recurring
topic of conversation
. A "Where have you been to get that tan?" it's great to start with. If later you run out of ideas, talking about the weather is another infallible topic, the joker par excellence. And when it doesn't give more of itself, chatting about your professions will be interesting and, in addition, it will give you important clues about the personality of each one.
After these three basics, it is essential to introduce
common passions
into the conversation
, or not: favorite leisure places, movies, books, music ... they will provide hours of entertaining and comfortable chat.
Taking a look at the billboard before you leave home can make it even easier.
And if you don't know your favorite music group, for example, you have a perfect excuse to find out, that same night or on another date.
Five keys to getting it right
Play it safe.
Even if you are looking for something different, do not risk when choosing a place;
the atmosphere will be more relaxed in the bar or restaurant that you already know.
In airplane mode.
Leave the phone in your pocket, never on the table, and forget about WhatsApp's so as not to divert your attention from the other person.
Who pays the bill?
According to a survey carried out by the Huffington Post, they value that their date proposes to invite.
And the women too.
Also, it is the way of saying that you have not arranged to have dinner for free.
Don't badmouth your exes.
If you have a good relationship with them and your date asks you then great, you have nothing to hide.
But don't overdo it either.
A compliment.
Praising the date, the place chosen, the clothes or the perfume will increase the level of confidence and make the situation more comfortable.
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