Daughter "Persuasion"
Shame parents
"My dad is a bit machismo, and my mom is stubborn. Even if it's a little bit unsatisfactory, they are upset with each other." Sophomore Yang Li came home from summer vacation this month. My parents often quarreled over trivial things, and the food was hard. Stir-frying, less salt... It's all trivial things, and if you don't agree, you start the quarrel mode.
Slowly, Yang Li became a "family conflict mediator" between parents.
In the days when she went home, Yang Li had a little experience in how to mediate the conflicts between her parents and ease their subtle atmosphere of inconsistency.
To this end, she also wrote a special "Family Persuasion Experience", the facts have proved that these tricks are very useful.
Parents were a little ashamed after seeing them, and they all said that they would not quarrel anymore.
Yang Li, 20 years old this year, lives in the famous city of Doli, Jiulongpo District, and is currently a sophomore at a university in Taiyuan. "From the beginning of July, when I came home from summer vacation, I saw my parents often quarreling and quarreling about the short things of the parents. I'm all upset." Yang Li's tone was a little helpless and depressed as she spoke.
Yang Li told reporters that her father was born with a male chauvinistic character, while her mother was stubborn.
"I remember I just came home from a holiday in early July. I had to see my parents bickering three or four times in the morning." Yang Li said that after nearly a month of family conflict mediation, the atmosphere at home has eased a lot, especially my dad. Much more tolerant and patient.
The daughter's "experiences of persuading you"
As the number of persuasion increases, Yang Li has a little experience in how to mediate family conflicts between parents.
She also summed it up quietly and wrote them down.
In the beginning of the quarrel: first pour cold water to kill the anger
What if the two have already started arguing?
Once, my father threw all the dirty clothes into the washing machine and told my mother to remember to dry the clothes after washing, but my mother just forgot about it. When my father got up for a nap and saw that the clothes were not dry, he began to complain.
Mother is not to be outdone, "It's not my clothes, why don't you dry them yourself?"
Hearing her parents arguing and quarreling, Yang Li rushed out of the room, "What are you arguing? Isn't it just that the clothes are not dried? What a big deal." Then, Yang Li first counted on Dad. You should have your own clothes. air.
After speaking, Yang Li began to pour cold water on her mother again: "Daddy told you something, you also made a mistake."
Under Yang Li's persuasion, Mom and Dad ended the quarrel.
In the middle of the quarrel: stop loss in time and fight poison with poison
Once my mother quarreled because her father didn’t close the toilet. Seeing that the persuasion was ineffective, Yang Li resorted to Hedong Lion Roar, “Don’t quarrel! Annoying! Be quiet!” Yang Li also said, “If you quarrel again, It doesn't make sense to go on like this, I moved out to live." Mom and Dad had never seen such an angry daughter for a while, and stopped arguing with each other.
Yang Li told reporters that she was not angry at the time, but used the method of "contending with poison" to end the battle between her parents in time.
Late quarrel: soothing emotional ambiguity
Once at 10 o'clock in the evening, Yang Li went home after shopping and found her mother was sitting on the sofa and crying silently, while her father was lying in the bedroom playing mobile phone.
Yang Li understood that the two must have quarreled again.
After questioning, Yang Li learned that it was caused by his father's return home from get off work and throwing his clothes on the sofa.
At this time, the quarrel was over, and I first comforted my mother on the sofa and accused my father of something wrong.
Then he walked into the bedroom and advised his father to stop arguing. Mom was just that stubborn temper.
When the anger passed, the matter passed vaguely.
Mom and Dad: I won't quarrel anymore
Recently, Yang Li took out her handwritten "Family Advocacy Experience" and posted it on her wall. Mom and Dad laughed unconsciously when they saw it.
Dad Yang said, "When I saw my daughter take out the A4 paper, it was funny at first, but when I think about it carefully, I still feel a little ashamed. I have been quarreling with my wife over the years. I am a little sorry for their mother and daughter, and promised that I will never quarrel with his wife again. NS."
My mother said, "Now it seems that my daughter is like an adult in the family. Seeing that my daughter is so sensible, I will try to fight with her husband as little as possible in the future." Chongqing Evening News-Upstream News reporter Lang Jianrong