"The college entrance examination volunteer report is correct, which can effectively reduce the incidence of college students' psychological problems", this is the conclusion I have drawn in the long-term front-line teaching and consultation.
In fact, this is from a negative perspective.
On the positive side, if the volunteer report is correct, you can straighten out your life, so that you can fully enjoy the richness and beauty of college life.
What is the so-called "volunteer report right"?
To put it simply, the highest standard of "volunteer report is correct" means that the candidate's reported volunteer is his interest or even love, while the minimum standard of "volunteer report is correct" is "no error": that is, the candidate is not due to various reasons. External pressure (mainly from parents and teachers) reported that he did not like or even disliked the profession.
In the course of teaching and consulting, I came into contact with a large number of classmates who were unwilling to learn and even suffered terribly because of the failure to report their majors. Among them, students with a very small probability, after a short period of pain, took a serious and responsible attitude towards the freshman schoolwork, thus helping Get the opportunity to transfer to a major by yourself.
And most of them are in pain, regret, and entanglement in their freshman year. Some are addicted to games or the Internet and cannot extricate themselves, while others are directly hiding in psychological problems.
Why is "reporting right" so important?
Because this is related to the development tasks of college students, from a psychological point of view, adolescence around the age of 12-22 is a person who solves "identity" especially "professional identity"-that is, knowing who you are and where you are from Come, the critical period of knowing where you are going.
As the end of adolescence in college, whether or not it can solve the "professional identity" is not only related to the meaning of life in college, but also directly affects the quality of learning and life, and personal mental health.
Many college students who come for consultation seem to have various psychological problems, but if you go deeper, you will find that most of their psychological distress can be attributed to the problem of identity.
The students who report the right professionally, driven by interest and love, life is full of meaning.
Therefore, with the internal drive of almost perpetual motion, I call this kind of life a "straightened life."
As far as parents are concerned, the child has his own goals, and he does not need to worry about the rest of the learning tasks. He will naturally enter a state of "self-reliance without a whip.
Not only that, but the future work will be more proactive and creative because of love.
For such students, learning is an enjoyment process that is often in a state of "flow".
Although there are problems in learning, because of interest and love, every problem solved is a positive reinforcement, which contributes to growth and enters a better, virtuous cycle of growth.
Therefore, a "straightened life" is a "flowing life". It is a life with a continuous sense of happiness and meaning because of the profession you love.
It should be noted that, due to multiple reasons, it is a small probability event for students who can straighten their lives during college.
And more people are in college, even some time after graduation from college to be able to really straighten out.
The "no error report", although not possessing the internal drive to "straighten up the life", but because it holds the lower limit, it also reduces the psychological distress caused by "reporting errors"-such as depression, regret, unwillingness and pain , So I have the energy to think and explore career directions outside of study.
If it goes well, you can change your major in the sophomore year. If you don’t, you can also change your major during the postgraduate entrance examination.
Some students have cultivated interest in existing majors while studying earnestly, and have entered a state of rationalization.
Once a person is in a state of straightening out and doing what he likes most, he will concentrate, strive for perfection, and maintain the habit of openness and lifelong learning.
In less than ten years, it is possible to become a professional talent in the industry.
Not only that, but also often experience the happiness of "heart flow surging".
Of course, they will also encounter difficulties, but every time they are resolved, they will have an extraordinary sense of happiness and accomplishment, and they will receive the basic feedback of a healthy society because they have made more social contributions—getting what they deserve Prestige and income.
Even if the social variables increase greatly, but because a person is interested in his profession, strives for excellence, and is studious, he has developed good professional qualities. Even if the environment requires him to transform, he has good professional qualities and is in the profession he loves. The training methods of thinking and working methods will also be quickly transferred to new jobs, enabling him to take up new positions in the shortest possible time and reap the results of a win-win situation with society.
There is a big misunderstanding of the current college entrance examination candidates applying for volunteers, that is, parents often start from "which major is easy to find a job in the future" or "what kind of major will have a "prospect" or "money path"", but the world has never There is no "promising, good job" in the absolute sense.
From an abstract perspective, any job that is done well will have a future.
A person can only adapt to certain types of jobs.
Therefore, it is necessary for college entrance examination candidates to choose the corresponding major according to their hobbies and expertise as much as possible when applying for a volunteer. This will not only have meaning and sense of value, but also save energy and grow, and effectively prevent psychological problems.
Therefore, the application method of "changing in the same way" is to focus on the candidates' own interests and hobbies, rather than "whether the job is easy to find", whether there is a "prospect" in the major, and "money way" as the center-do everything You may find a major that matches your own interests and expertise, try to focus on the candidates as much as possible, find a major that basically matches your subjective and objective conditions, and straighten out your relationship with the university.
If for multiple reasons, an examinee really has no way of knowing what major he is suitable for, then at least one bottom line must be set: not to choose a major that he does not like.
Most parents think that if they send their children to college, their tasks will be completed.
You will also think: From now on, the child will lead a happy life.
Therefore, what parents and teachers often say is: "When you go to college, you can play whatever you want."
Parents don’t know that, for some students, going to college is the beginning of unhappiness or even new pain. After the freshness of freshmen enrollment in October each year, the consultation room will flood into the consultation room because of dissatisfaction with the major. Troubled classmates.
Especially those students who have to apply for majors they don't like in order to satisfy their parents' wishes.
Before colleges and universities introduced the policy of transferring majors, some of these students who did not like their majors had to quit school and retake the exam to solve their problems.
Therefore, all candidates should focus on their subjective and objective conditions, and make the "right" choice as much as possible when applying for a volunteer.
I hope that students who understand their own interests and specialties can choose a major that "lights up life", and from then on, "heart flow" becomes the normal state of study and work.
Students who do not yet understand their own interests and specialties should be able to be brave and faithful to themselves and keep the bottom line of choosing a major.
In this way, there will be fewer confused, confused and even painful visiting students in our university's psychological consultation room, and our university classrooms and campuses will increase many happy college students full of passion for learning and exploration.
(The author is a professor of psychology at Capital University of Economics and Business)
Yang Mei Source: China Youth Daily