This Wednesday in "Without appointment", the sex therapist Catherine Blanc answered the question of Lucie who has been in a relationship since her 16 years with the same person and wonders if she is not missing something.

For sex therapist Catherine Blanc, this is not necessarily true.

It all depends on the strength of the relationship. 

Can meeting your partner from high school be a concern for the durability of the couple?

This is what Lucie, 27 years old and in a relationship since she was 16, wonders with her partner.

A partner who makes her happy and with whom she projects.

However, the young woman has the impression of missing something.

An understandable feeling for the sex therapist Catherine Blanc, who points the finger in Sans rendez-vous the responsibility of society. 

Lucie's question, 27 years old 

I have been with my boyfriend since I was 16.

I only knew him and I'm afraid of missing out on something.

However, I am very well with my boyfriend and we project easily.

I'm not sure what to do.

Should I tell him about it? 

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Catherine Blanc's response 

"It's a question that can be understood. Especially since our society imagines that you have to have tasted everything to be able to make a choice. Obviously, you can wonder if at 16 you know who you are with good or are we good with the person who is 16 years old like us. Are we good because this person allows us to emancipate ourselves from our parents, allows us to anticipate the beginning of life Have we found a kind of half to consider things for ourselves, apart from what made our construction as children within the family? 

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Or, we may have found a mature relationship there, a relationship full of love, full of surprises and full of creativity.

At that moment, because it's been ten years, do we have to say to ourselves 'oulala, but I haven't known a boy taller, smaller, from another culture' and ask yourself if we did the right thing? choice?

We are not going to try the whole earth to decide that this is a suitable person for us.

But our society is pretty cruel.

She tells us 'you don't know anything because you haven't tested everything'. 

Is it still common to meet couples who got to know each other in high school or college? 

Yes, and like Lucie, these couples who sometimes consult me ​​say to themselves that they have not tested everything.

They blame the difficulty they have within their relationship (being tempted to look elsewhere) with the fact of not having had other relationships.

While they might have known the same if they had had adventures.

They fantasize about what the company offers. 

Afterwards, is it very important to get into a relationship right away to jump with both feet from the family unit to the couple?

What fear is there in experiencing yourself, in loneliness, in creativity, in personal autonomy?

I believe that what raises questions is less the fact of having had only one partner than of not having experienced autonomy.

This is what seems to me to be the sinews of war. 

Can we imagine that in ten years, she might still be in the grip of doubt? 

Everything will depend on what she does with this relationship, if she is in the creation, if she is good, if she has lots of projects.

All of this fuels an exciting everyday, long-term life.

It's possible that ten years from now, with the ups and downs of any couple that she experiences and gets over, she will still be with the same boy if she wants to.

After, whether she knows one or more men, the relationships are always the same so that won't change. 

However, we see that entire generations function by forming a very young couple and spending the rest of their days together. And they do it very nicely. Again, it all depends on maturity as well. If we were mature at 16 and still try to grow that maturity with someone, it will go pretty well. On the other hand, if we were immature and we are with someone who is also immature, that we remain children ... there will be a day when we will wake up and that's when we divorce precisely. "