Chinanews client, Beijing, April 9th (Reporter Yuan Xiuyue) "At the age of eighteen, I gave your father the opportunity to study. Your grandmother said, I give priority to my son, so don't think about it."
"I'm my sister, I have been since the day I was born, and always have been."
Recently, the movie "My Sister" has become a dark horse at the box office. After his parents passed away in a car accident, Zhang Zifeng's sister, played by Zhang Zifeng, is faced with the choice between pursuing an independent life or raising a younger brother.
An Ran's aunt always believed that as an older sister, she should raise her younger brother, because she did just that.
Later, she discovered that the matryoshka does not have to be put in the same cover, and the sister can also have her own choice.
After understanding this, her aunt touched the doll and talked about the Russian she learned when she was young.
Some netizens said that this was the most defensive moment in the film, and it was the sadness of the "Chinese-style sister".
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Become sister
What kind of experience is it like being a sister?
Before asking this question, there is actually another question, that is, "Why did my sister become a sister?"
For people of the aunt's generation in the film, this cannot help but choose.
At that time, it was the norm for several brothers and sisters. Under the influence of the "patriarchal" ideology, the older sisters in many families were burdened with heavier burdens than their younger brothers.
When she was young, her aunt gave up the Russian Department of Western Teachers in order to allow her younger brother to study in a technical secondary school.
Later, she wanted to go to Russia to do business, but she gave up because her brother had just given birth to a daughter and needed care.
She also left the house left by her parents to her younger brother.
For the family, she not only gave up her dream, but also devoted her whole life.
Even so, she failed to get a beautiful family.
Her husband was paralyzed in bed and needed care, his children were rebellious, his younger brother passed away, and he lived a whole life...
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There are not many such cases. Some netizens said: "My mother has good grades, but her parents don't let her study, but let her younger brother with poor grades read." Some netizens said that their four aunts often said that they would rather lose one son. , Can't let her mother's family be cut off, the attitude towards nephew and niece is completely different.
Disregarding his own little family, he went to help his natal younger brother, and even hollowed out himself without principle. Netizens gave this kind of people the title of "helping brother demon."
In recent years, there have been many "exotic moms" in film and television dramas. Fan Shengmei's mother in "Ode to Joy", Su Mingyu's mother in "It's All Very Good", and Fang Sijin's mother in "Settle Down" have appeared in the hot search for being too annoying. .
They kidnapped their daughters morally in the name of family affection, and raised their sons by "sucking blood" from their daughters.
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In fact, they are also the victims of the "patriarchal" and the ruined sisters of the previous generation.
Su Mingyu's mother married Su Daqiang because she changed her brother's rural household registration to an urban household registration. After the marriage, she repeatedly subsidized her brother's family with money, and her sister's identity changed her life.
Hardworking and capable, putting the younger brother first, asking for nothing but paying back, was widely regarded as the duty and virtue of the older sister.
Many people did not feel unfair about the treatment of parents differently, or accepted it slowly, or took it for granted.
No wonder some netizens would say, "Whoever wants to be an older sister will have a sense of tolerance and humiliation." "If you can choose, no one wants to be an older sister."
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Because you are sister
As for the current sisters, the situation is different from what they are facing.
In the film, An Ran was originally an only child. When she was a child, her parents issued a certificate saying that she was disabled in order to have a son.
An Ran didn't follow it, which evoked a fight.
After opening the second child, the parents finally found a reason to have a son.
But at that time, An Ran was already in college, and he hadn't seen each other several times.
It seems that the father in the mouth of the sister and the younger brother are not the same person.
In order for her sister's father to make money early to support the family, she changed her favorite clinical major to nursing.
She earned her living expenses and tuition for four years in college.
The younger brother's father had never beaten him, and said that everything in the house belonged to him.
There are pictures of my younger brother in the phone and at home, and there seems to be no sister in the family.
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This is also a problem faced by many families in reality.
One is that the age gap between the eldest and the second is too large, and the eldest has a repelling mentality in the face of his younger siblings.
The second is that some families have a second child in order to finally fight for a son to pass on the family line.
The third is that after asking for a son, I can't keep a bowl of water and let my sister bear to pay.
What is the experience of being a sister?
Some netizens shared that it was probably shopping with parents on Ching Ming Festival. When a friend wanted to send her guavas, she said that she didn't like to eat them, but her mother said that she would send them to your brother to eat.
"Because you are a elder sister, you have to let him; because you are a elder sister, who do you not help him? Because you are a elder sister, no matter how much you do, you should."
Some netizens said that the feeling is to have a half son at a young age, and the only thing wronged is "he is younger than you".
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Sister's life
In 2019, the news of a 67-year-old super-aged pregnant woman giving birth in Shandong caused heated discussions.
Some netizens believe that it is their right to have children, and it has nothing to do with others.
Some netizens also said that having children at such an old age will burden other children in the future, and it will also be detrimental to the growth of the youngest daughter.
Do adult children have the obligation to raise younger siblings?
This issue has been controversial.
Recently, a 20-year-old girl committed suicide because of the pressure to feed her three younger siblings.
Because her parents were divorced, her two younger sisters and one younger brother depended on her for support. She went out to work when she was a teenager.
Because of the stress of life, she thought about suicide more than once.
Many netizens believe that girls have shouldered the responsibilities they shouldn't.
Some netizens pointed out that many people only have children but don't know how to be parents, which has caused many conflicts in their native families.
Some people call the girl the "realistic version of my sister."
The situation An Ran faced in the film was even more extreme. Her parents passed away.
Relatives say that her primary task is to raise a younger brother, and everything else is secondary to the postgraduate entrance examination.
But as a daughter who has not been supported since she was a child, An Ran’s plight should also be seen. She is only in her early twenties. Doesn't she have the right to pursue her goals in life?
Everyone wants to have their own life, this should not become a luxury.
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May she stop resisting alone
Being a sister was originally a very simple matter.
Many netizens have shared positive cases of being a sister. Some people say that being a sister is very happy, and sometimes they can't help but pet their younger brother, and they can't bear to suffer the younger brother's suffering, and they are very happy to hear the younger brother crying out to the sister.
Some netizens said that it’s great to have a younger brother, “When I was young, I didn’t eat many snacks. Even if I had a packet of biscuits, my younger brother would keep half of it for me. So I always liked my brother because I knew he really loved me. ."
"Love is two-way", some netizens concluded, in fact, the feeling of being a sister depends entirely on how parents treat them.
If the parents are treated equally, the older sister will still take care of the younger siblings.
When your parents see you as just a "sister" and no longer a "baby girl" who also needs to be loved, being a sister is a very uncomfortable thing.
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Xiao Yang, who played the uncle in the film, also said about his views. He believes that love that doesn't care about returns will make the people around him happier and he will be more free.
The final open-ended ending of "My Sister" caused two levels of evaluation.
Some people think that my sister finally got caught up in the routine of "helping the devil", and all previous efforts to resist fate were wasted.
Some people also feel that if the older sister does not support the younger brother, it is a disregard for family affection, and family members should take care of each other.
Others pointed out that the film revealed the problems in reality, but it was not critical enough and did not give a solution.
In fact, in terms of the discussion caused by the movie, its practical significance is greater than the meaning of the movie itself.
As a film and television work with a female perspective, it is the greatest value for women to speak and see women’s problems.
In the past, the shackles of the so-called "patriarchal patriarch" and "eldest sister as mother" were like a doll, trapping generations of sisters.
But from aunt to Enron, the matryoshka finally has another outlet.
Whether the older sister should raise the younger brother or not, the more important choice is in reality.
Like Zhang Zifeng's song: May she no longer resist alone, may she let down her tired shoulders, may her story be sung by others, and may thousands of her be illuminated.
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