Chinanews client, Beijing, April 4th (Reporter Yuan Xiuyue Zhang Xi) We have been saying goodbye since the moment we were born.
Say goodbye to your teacher when you graduate; say goodbye to your relatives and friends when you travel.
In the daily Chinese context, farewell is often replaced by "goodbye". We don't want to make a difference easily, and look forward to seeing each other again in the future.
Data map: On April 1, people were in the Martyrs Cemetery of the North China Military Region in Shijiazhuang, Hebei.
Photo by China News Agency reporter Zhai Yujia
However, when we really face the parting of life and death, we are often at a loss, always thinking that this is the end of the years.
In fact, it is not, just like the classic line in the cartoon "Dream Quest": "Death is not the end of life, forgetting is."
As long as we keep thinking about those dead lives, they will always exist.
This is the meaning of Qingming Festival.
Stills of "Dream Travels"
"Grandma, can we never separate?" When I was a child, I used to hold my favorite grandma and ask.
Grandma would always hold me tighter, telling me that there is always a difference in life.
When I was young, I cried loudly and asked my grandmother to pull the hook and promise to be together forever.
At that time, I didn't know how far it was forever, I was just afraid of losing my loved ones, because they were like light carved into life. I couldn't accept the dim light, and I always wanted time to stand still.
After my grandma passed away, for a long time, I couldn't get out of sadness. I read a lot of books. I want to know, where did grandma go?
If there is a Naihe Bridge, will she forget me?
I didn't understand the meaning of death until I watched "Dream Travels"-death is actually not that terrible, and the family who passed away just moved on to live in another place.
Stills of "Dream Travels"
In the movie, not everyone in the undead world can go out to visit relatives, only those who are enshrined in photos are eligible.
If this person is completely forgotten in the world, he will turn into golden powder and usher in true death.
In other words, people die twice, once when they stop breathing, and once when they are no longer remembered in the world.
The Ching Ming Festival of the Chinese is like a "dream-seeking and traveling around". Although we can no longer touch those familiar old people, we hope to maintain our emotional connection with them in various ways.
Some people choose to lay flowers in front of the tomb, and some people choose to pick up their wine glasses...With the development of the Internet, some people choose to write letters to another time and space through the Internet.
Data map: Changchun people express their grief by hanging a floating bottle on the "Missing Tree".
Photo by Zhang Yao
Someone wrote to the deceased husband: "To inform you, our baby is very good! Our baby master has finally graduated."
Someone mourned their parents: "Mom and Dad, I am doing well now. If you are still there, how nice it would be. I bought a car and we can travel together."
Someone missed the child: "If you were still there, would you be married now? Your room is still the same, it hasn't changed at all."
This is not only a process of farewell, but also a process of self-healing.
We believe that as long as love is there, people will never go away.
After the death of Qian Zhongshu and his daughter Qian Yuan, Yang Jiang wrote in "We Three", "The good things in the world are not strong, and the colorful clouds are easy to scatter and the glass is brittle."
Data map: The picture shows Qian Zhongshu (left) and Yang Jiang (right) visiting the famous female writer Bing Xin.
Photo by China News Agency reporter Chen Gang
When it comes to death, we have too much fear, we are always afraid of loss.
In fact, the process of human growth is accompanied by various losses. We will lose our youth, friends, love, unemployment, and even hope.
There is often a question online: if there is one day left in your life, what will you do?
Some people say that they will be with their families, some say they will bravely confess...
Only when it comes to death, we will think about what is the most important existence in life.
It's not salary, education, or house or car, but the softest, but often overlooked existence in our hearts.
It's like we always think that time is still long and don't care about it overnight.
A netizen once recalled that the last time he received a call from his father, he still complained that he was too busy at work and could not go home for dinner. Unexpectedly, the call was a farewell.
Nobel Prize winner Octavio Paz once said: "Death is actually a reflection of life. If death is meaningless, then life must be the same." "Death shows the highest of life." Meaning; it is the opposite of life, and it is also a supplement to life."
Data map: People use flowers to mourn their deceased. Photo by China News Agency reporter Zhang Wei
Another meaning of death is to reflect the importance of serious living.
Recently, many colleges and universities in China have opened "death education courses", and college students simulated their final farewells. The students acted as the deceased and the relatives and friends of the deceased, and experienced the whole process of the farewell ceremony.
A student said: "I also truly felt the preciousness of life during the performance. I need more to accompany the people we cherish and love. It is of great educational significance to me." Some netizens also commented from onlookers. The angle is inspired: "Life is actually very fragile. Maybe it will stop breathing sometime in the future."
In "The Destiny of Sulu", Mu Xin once said: Fortunately, life is meaningless, so it can allow each to give meaning.
Maybe a good treatment of death can also make our lives more meaningful.
Although people pass away, memories will last forever.
One year is clear, and one year old is lovesickness.
As the song sang in "Dream Quest": "Although I am far away, you still live in my heart."
Today, we mourn the dead, but also remember, cherish the present, and live a good life.
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