Many universities open marriage and love education courses: to help students understand love better
On March 7, Yu Xinwei, a member of the National Committee of the Chinese People's Political Consultative Conference, called for the establishment and improvement of the marriage and love education system in colleges and universities, and suggested that marriage and love education should be a compulsory course for college students.
Prior to this, marriage and love education has successively appeared in universities in Beijing, Tianjin, Shanghai and other places in the form of elective courses and special lectures.
Yang Li, director of the Mental Health Education Center of Tianjin University, said that “I don’t know how to love and lack the ability to love” is a prominent problem faced by many young people. ."
Professor Xu Yan, deputy director of the Psychology Teaching Committee of the Chinese Psychological Society and dean of the School of Psychology, Beijing Normal University, said that the compulsory course "Ideological and Moral Cultivation and Legal Foundation" courses have included marriage and love issues as chapters, whether marriage and love education should be set as Compulsory courses are still open for discussion.
Many colleges and universities offer marriage and love education courses
Tianjin University has offered the elective course "Theory and Practice of Love Studies" since the fall semester of 2015.
Instructors include law teachers, teachers from the Student Psychology Center, student counselors, and hosts of media emotional columns.
Yang Li, director of the Mental Health Education Center of Tianjin University, said that "I don't know how to love and lack the ability to love" is a prominent problem faced by many young people today.
The college period is precisely an important time for young people to "practice love." By offering "love classes" in colleges and universities, it helps to strengthen the youth's sense of respect, integrity and responsibility for emotional life, and "help them understand love better."
In the spring semester of 2020, Tianjin University will add an elective course on "Love Psychology". The number of students is limited to 150, and the elective system will be full for the first time when it is online.
According to Wang Xiaoling, a full-time teacher of Tianjin University Mental Health Education Center and a lecturer of "Love Psychology", the main purpose of this course is to hope that students can learn some psychological knowledge of love, establish their own correct outlook on love, and master the secrets of managing intimate relationships. , "Our students need to improve their ability to recognize love, express love, maintain love, and cope with broken relationships."
Teacher Fan, who opened a love class in a university in Shandong, also said that in her teaching work for more than ten years, she found that many college students don’t know how to get along with others, not just the opposite sex; in addition, it affects students’ views on marriage and love. There are many factors that need to be guided. "For example, the original family will affect the students' view of marriage and love, and the experience of losing love will also affect their understanding of love. Therefore, many of our students are prone to the pain of being lost in love, and it is difficult to recover. They need someone to help. they."
Also in 2015, Teacher Fan established an emotional education studio in the school and opened the school's first general emotional education course "Love and Marriage", trying to let students understand love through these channels.
In April 2017, the "Mid-term and Long-term Youth Development Plan (2016-2025)" issued by the Central Committee of the Communist Party of China and the State Council clearly stated that marriage and love education should be included in the education system of colleges and universities to strengthen youth’s sense of respect, integrity and awareness of emotional life The sense of responsibility guides young people to establish a civilized, healthy and rational view of marriage and love.
Feedback from students after class: attending class, but also growing
Teacher Fan introduced that the original intention of opening the love class was because of a girl. “She has always been in a state of self-denial in her relationship with her boyfriend. Her boyfriend’s spending her money and dating other girls will make her feel that she is very Poor.” This girl made her realize the lack of emotional education on the university campus.
Through the emotional education studio and the love class, Teacher Fan encountered many boys and girls to consult various emotional puzzles, "I want my students to know'what is love','how to deal with the pain after a broken love', 'True love should be to love yourself', I think I did it."
A classmate who walked out of the haze with the help of Teacher Fan once wrote to her: You planted flowers on the beach over and over again, although it may not be successful, but the moment you plant it is joyful.
Wang Xiaoling, the lecturer of "Love Psychology" at Tianjin University, also received feedback from many classmates.
A female classmate said that “love psychology” is a class and growth. “From avoiding love to facing up to love, to looking forward to love, I change little by little in every class.” There is also a male classmate who said that he From being trapped in my heart knot and not letting go, to enlightening the friends around me to face the loss of love calmly, "During this period, my heart has been strengthened step by step from fragility, strong enough to be able to say hello to the past with a smile, and then step by step. The ground is soft, soft enough to slowly surround an injured heart."
Expert: Whether marriage and love education is a compulsory course is to be discussed
Regarding the discussion on whether marriage and love education should be a compulsory course, Mr. Fan said that love itself is a personal choice, and the love course should retain the right of choice for students, and it can still exist as an elective course in colleges and universities.
Professor Xu Yan, deputy director of the Psychology Teaching Committee of the Chinese Psychological Society and dean of the School of Psychology of Beijing Normal University, said that the compulsory courses of the whole school refer to the courses that all students must take, and one of the courses is "Ideological and Moral Cultivation and Legal Foundation". The issue of marriage and love has been included as a chapter, and whether marriage and love education is a compulsory course remains to be discussed.
Professor Xu Yan said that the compulsory courses for college students need to consider the essence of their content. If marriage and love education is set as a compulsory course, it will deprive students of their autonomy. It can exist in the form of elective courses and lectures. All aspects need to be considered comprehensively.
Beijing News reporter Bo Qiyu