How to restrain parents' "snarling" parenting

　　Representative members suggest: legislation for family education

　　"This little a, what are you doing with a big A?" "What have you learned?" This kind of online video of parents' "snarling" tutoring their children's homework has pricked many parents' pain points.

　　"If you don't do your homework, you will be kind and filial, and you will do your homework."

Xiaoli, who lives in Beijing, is the parent of two children. Seeing that the child is not doing homework well, she can't help but yell or even yell at the child.

She believes that parents have the right to discipline their children, and "roaring" is to make children "long memory".

　　So, is parental “snarling” parenting a domestic violence?

Is there any legal restriction on improper parent education?

This year, the National Congress of the People's Republic of China, some representatives and members proposed to solve these problems by legislation for family education.

　　Zhu Yongxin, a member of the Standing Committee of the National Committee of the Chinese People’s Political Consultative Conference and vice chairman of the Democratic Progressive Central Committee, said in an interview with a reporter from China Youth Daily and China Youth Daily that parents ranting, yelling, scolding, and scolding when educating their children are all verbal violence, a type of domestic violence, and sometimes language Violence hurts children more seriously than hands-on.

　　"For children, verbal violence is the same as other physical punishments and is not suitable for family education." Zhu Yongxin believes that parents should treat their children with peace of mind and equal treatment.

"Children have equal personality rights with their parents, and parents should respect their children as a prerequisite for education."

　　On January 20, the "Family Education Law of the People's Republic of China (Draft)" (hereinafter referred to as the "Draft") was formally submitted to the 25th meeting of the Standing Committee of the 13th National People's Congress for deliberation, marking that family education was officially included in the development of national education. Planning and legal management track, "family" is no longer just a family affair, so that family education has a law to follow.

　　The "Draft" stipulates that in the process of family education, minors’ parents or other guardians shall not discriminate against minors by gender, physical condition, etc., shall not have any form of domestic violence, shall not coerce, induce, abet, condone, Use minors to engage in activities that violate laws, regulations and social morality.

　　Zhu Yongxin believes that parents who use domestic violence against their children are, after all, a minority, and how to improve their family education literacy is even more important. “Most parents have not received training and guidance in scientific parenting. Chinese parents attach importance to education, but they are the easiest to make mistakes in education. ".

　　"If you endure hardship, you will be a master", "Whips, whose surname is bamboo, do not read if you don't play books." "If you don't become a talent, you will get a score."... These folk sayings passed down by word of mouth have misled China's family education.

Zhu Yongxin believes that family education legislation can regulate family education behavior.

Through the advocacy and restraint of the law, let parents know what can and cannot be done.

　　"University discipline construction and talent training must play an important role." Zhu Yongxin suggested that family education should be a compulsory course for teacher education, and elective courses are generally offered in colleges and universities, so that more people have the basic qualities of family education.

"Family education is a business, and it is not enough to rely on the government alone. It can also support research and training related to private development through the purchase of public services."

　　Zhu Yongxin suggested attracting non-governmental forces and wisdom to the field of family education and establishing non-governmental institutions for family education, "for example, establishing family education-related industry associations to promote the development of family education."

　　Zhang Zhiyong, deputy to the National People's Congress and executive dean of the China Education Policy Research Institute of Beijing Normal University, believes that family education legislation also needs to strengthen the training of family education service personnel and establish a related public service system so that parents can find "organizations" when they encounter problems.

　　To this end, he suggested: establish family education guidance centers at the county level; establish family education online schools and provide online courses; primary and secondary kindergartens should generally establish "parent schools" to provide guidance and assistance for family education; and communities should be generally introduced The public power of family education services to carry out universal guidance work.

　　"Through these'four nets', parents can get help when they want to seek guidance on family education." Zhang Zhiyong hopes to vigorously promote the construction of a public service system for family education through this legislation, so that parents can receive good news at their doorstep. Family education counseling and services.

　　Zhang Zhiyong added that the "Draft" needs to be further improved, such as clarifying the violations of the law in family education, and how to punish violations, "to minimize the ambiguity in the implementation of the law after the promulgation of the law."

　　China Youth Daily·China Youth Daily reporter Li Huaxi Source: China Youth Daily