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Michèle on a group date in the snow.
She throws a snowball at the Bachelor from 15 meters away, and she holds out her glass to him, in which he can then pour Prosecco.
How, did he not understand these signs of affection?
Can't be, that was offensive like - think of some ironic comparison here with a very offensive football player.
Yes, Bachelor Niko probably wanted to give Michèle another “chance”.
A chance to show that there's more, that she's interested in him, that she can't just smile and giggle.
He has tried this several times, inviting her to individual, group and “Do you want to stay?” Dates.
Told her pretty clearly every time and showed that he thinks she is good, especially pretty and
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, yes, but he was generous with compliments and also with his expectation: Tell me and show me if you are interested me have.
Anyone who has ever dated knows how rare such unmistakable behavior is and how grateful you can actually be when the person you are dating lets you know so clearly where you stand.
No "What did he mean by that?
Does he / she even want to see me again?
Should I get in touch? ”Instead,“ I think you're good, please show more initiative so I know that I can continue ”.
But Michèle doesn't seem to have understood what rare specimen she met here and remains in the forever learned and forever same dating attitude of millennials: act aloof, act “mysterious”, don't reveal too much about yourself, don't show what you really feel.
Better to languish from a distance: Michèle (right) with the three other snow dates and Niko
Source: TVNOW / Photo: TVNOW
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Yes, this behavior is probably very painfully conditioned, and most dating people will also have experienced this.
Whoever reveals himself makes himself vulnerable, the other does not report back then, it feels even worse.
This creates insecurities and the absolutely annoying meandering back and forth dating behavior of so many.
There is then the fear of getting in touch too much, being too interested and thus somehow appearing weak and needy, or the worry of not getting in touch and thus appearing too uninterested.
It is at this stage in a budding relationship that the most can go wrong.
In which nobody knows where he is.
The Bachelor shows in this partly quite refreshingly different season but quite well what he is into.
Honesty, he is sometimes quite open himself and sometimes grumbles at women when they get too annoying for him.
The hard-to-have game, which is still often the advice of grandmothers to young women ("If you want to apply, rarely do yourself"), has only, strangely enough, worked quite well for him in the Michèle case.
She doesn't say anything, he asks, she is shy, he invites her.
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But now, on the snow date, he seems to have had enough of it.
He waits to see what happens - but nothing comes.
And one notices for the first time in Michèle's clumsy attempts how little seems to be hidden behind her scam.
An insecure woman with a beautiful body who may just not have that much to say.
Which allows the reverse conclusion: A person who openly and honestly shows interest without being ashamed, justifying or apologizing for it is much more attractive.
He signals that he does not make his worth as a person dependent on the reaction of the other.
He shows himself to be emotionally stable, as someone who can open up and does not depend on the confirmation of others.
Who could also cope with a rebuff - otherwise he would not reveal himself.
Rather, one signals: "I want you, but I don't need you."
So it is much more awkward of these candidates, including those who regularly say “I want him to conquer me”, to try to hide their affection, to disguise themselves - because they make them emotionally unstable, insecure, fearful and thus come across as less attractive.
At least with the audience.
And it works!
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Because when you almost think that Niko would see it all that way, Michèle overcomes herself in the night of the roses and beeps: “Do you need a long time?” To kick a competitor out of the two-way conversation.
Niko is beaming, his eyes are shining, he is so happy about this incredible step.
So deep are his demands on her, so established already Michèle's role, so “valuable” she has already made a point of speaking.
What will be exciting now: Can she manage to maintain this tension and only let Niko notice after the finale that it is not that exciting at all?
Something similar happened with the Bachelor Jan Kralitschka, who instead of the open Mona in his finale opted for the beautiful, quiet Alissa, who let him "fidget" for weeks - he took the RTL team with him a few weeks later when he finished.
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