Out of the medical incident, doctor Tao Yong recommended two "books" to middle school students

　　Chen Nanyu, Sun Zongyi, Wang Xueqing,

　　Five dear students, Zhang Dingfeng and Zhang Xiaoyi:

　　Hello!

　　Reading the letter makes me feel like a breath of green grass blowing on the face in the morning, fresh and clean, mixed with some confusion and desire for answers in life, sincere and direct.

　　Seeing the words "Beijing No. 4 Middle School" and "Senior Grade One" in the letter, I remembered my high school days.

At that time, in our local high school, the most popular subscription magazine was "Mathematics, Physics and Chemistry for Middle School Students". The first few pages were introductions to famous schools like Beijing No. 4 Middle School, and many photos were posted.

Sometimes it was posted by students from the "Astronomy Hobby Group" looking at the vast starry sky through a telescope, and sometimes it was posted by students from the "Microcomputer (the computer was called a microcomputer at the time) interest group" programming, and made a small person who could jump and bounce on the screen. Flashes on.

The great thing about this magazine is that, on the one hand, it uses these photos to evoke the immense admiration and envy of our "small town as a writer", and at the same time it uses "learning mathematics, physics and chemistry, and traveling the world without fear". Chicken blood slogans, to encourage us to grit our teeth and persist.

　　As for why I learned mathematics, physics and chemistry, but still encountered such unlucky things, this magazine did not say.

I think I can do "walk all over the world without fear", relying on the other two books.

　　One book is "Laugh and Forget Books".

I am a member of the Jiu San Society. In 2013, I had the honor to participate in the celebration of the 100th birthday of Professor Yan Renying, the senior of the Jiu San Society.

Professor Yan is an expert in obstetrics and gynecology of Xiehe Hospital. She was so miserable that she cleaned the toilet for ten years, so that when the obstetrics and gynecology department encountered intractable diseases, she would say "Go to the toilet to find Professor Yan."

　　Later, she was selected as the dean of Peking University Hospital. She was not honest in the office, but went deep into the fields and rode a bicycle through the wilderness to investigate the cause of death of pregnant women in rural areas. She developed and promoted perinatal medicine, which greatly reduced Because of the maternal mortality rate, Professor Yan is also known as the "mother of perinatal medicine."

　　Speaking of that period of suffering, Professor Yan said in eight words, "Eat and sleep, heartless."

You see, "Laugh to the suffering" and "Forget about the sadness", learn this book well and improve the adversity. What else can beat us in life.

　　The other book is "vocational book".

I am a doctor. Every day I come into contact with people who are born, old, sick, and die, or are physically disabled and suffering, or mentally anxious and upset, all of which are negative and shadowy.

　　But the interesting thing about this world is that bright flowers are often blooming in the mud, so I also see many people who are impoverished, but still insist on working and don’t give up treatment; I also see many people who know they are terminally ill. But there are still people who have dreams and are constantly striving for progress; I have also seen many people who are isolated, misunderstood, injured, bruised and bruised but still have no hatred and laugh at life.

The daily work of doctors, not only did not bore me, but became a source of spiritual strength.

　　You asked two questions in the letter, one is how to determine the goal and stick to it, and the other is whether to stick to your ideals.

I think these two questions can be combined into one, that is, the question of "host", "predicate" and "guest".

Subject-who sets the goal, himself or another person, this other person can be a parent, a teacher, or a friend.

Predicate-persistence, how to persist in the goals set.

Object-goal/ideal, what kind of goal, what kind of ideal.

　　So, dear students, you have asked me the ultimate question of life, and this question determines how people live their lives.

　　I must tell you frankly that there is no standard answer to this question.

I can provide you with two ideas for solving problems:

　　First, no matter how you choose, there will always be a stage where you feel you chose the wrong one, and there will also be a stage where you feel you chose the right one.

　　For example, two of you who wanted to study medicine really persisted in their interest. If they choose to study medicine, they will face endless anatomy groups, embryos, physiology, and biochemistry, women and children, etc., your classmates called over. Ask if you have time to eat and go shopping, you can only sigh at the Mingyue outside the window, continue to bury your head and let the dark circles crawl on your cheeks, at this time you must have regrets that your intestines will turn blue.

　　But later, you will really see patients who are suffering from illness and pain, through your masterful treatment to overcome the illness, then you will gain a sense of accomplishment; your family members stay healthy because of your dedicated professional care, and those who eat youth envy you more When you get more and more popular, you will be glad that you have chosen the right one.

　　In fact, no matter what major you choose today, there will always be phases of right or wrong.

Don't completely deny your original intentions just because of a momentary upset.

Effort, for most people, is more important than choice.

　　Second, the criterion for judging whether the choice is correct or not lies in the establishment of evaluation indicators.

Idealists like me think that the meaning of life is to find something more important than life. From the beginning, they are not satisfied with just making money and gaining reputation. It should be said that idealistic people are more "greedy" because What they want is inner satisfaction.

Through the medical speculum, I can realize more true feelings, improve my mind, feel the state of balance and harmony, and feel my own vision of seeing problems broadened. This state will make me very satisfied.

But what I want to confess is that I can't live in a vacuum, and I respect the world's evaluation standards. I just keep a balance, don't go to extremes, and won't sacrifice my ideals in pursuit of more wealth.

　　In fact, we who have the right to choose are envied by others.

I have a junior high school classmate. When he was in school, he went out at 4 o'clock every morning. He cut the pig grass, fed the pigs at home, and then cooked, cooked meals for his brother and bedridden mother, and then walked more than ten miles. go to school.

She later passed the college entrance examination to a prestigious university in Shanghai, but all her tuition fees must be obtained through work-study programs.

For her, when choosing a career, she must consider the evaluation standards of the world more than we do. Therefore, you have the distress of choice, but more people have the distress of being unable to choose.

　　The most popular advertisement in "Mathematics, Physics and Chemistry for Middle School Students" is the anti-acne cream. The accuracy of the advertisement is outrageous.

A pure Taiwanese girl, holding a green-packaged acne cream, her face is clean and smooth, and she smiles calmly. She was troubled by seeing the mirror when she was full of acne in the first year of high school and she was in such a situation that she needed to build up her appearance and confidence to attract the opposite sex Of me, it is simply a great temptation.

　　It's a pity that you can't buy it in the town.

So I did a good job in the college entrance examination, and it is hard to say whether it has something to do with it. On the one hand, because I can’t buy acne cream, I save the time wasted on looking in the mirror. On the other hand, I work harder, hoping to buy it. The big city of acne cream.

　　The sad thing is that this acne cream was discontinued after I had exhausted my hard work and passed the life test to Beijing.

　　You see, isn't life so interesting?

　　Thanks again for your letter.

I hope you will have more freedom of choice in your life, while maintaining awe of your original heart.

　　Tao Yong

　　February 18, 2021

　　Department of Ophthalmology, Chaoyang Hospital