The question of sexuality between two twin brothers is an often taboo subject.

This is also the case for Lucas and his brother who, despite their complicity, never tackle this theme.

At the microphone of Europe 1, Wednesday, the sexologist and psychoanalyst in Paris Catherine Blanc answers the young man, who wonders about the sexuality of his brother.

A great complicity and a major taboo.

Between Lucas and his twin brother, the closeness is obvious, natural, except on one very specific point: sexuality.

On this question, Lucas wonders about the possible homosexuality of his brother.

Above all, the young man wonders whether or not to talk to him about it.

The sexologist and psychoanalyst in Paris Catherine Blanc gives him advice at the microphone of Europe 1, to properly tackle this important situation for him, but delicate.

Lucas's question

I am very close to my twin brother.

We tell each other almost everything, but our sexual adventures are still quite taboo.

I think my brother is gay, should I tell him?

Catherine Blanc's response

Sexuality is not a subject like any other.

Some may thus speak of sexuality, but not of love, because it is the feeling of love that would be more intimate.

In any case, I find it rather interesting that twins who tend to share everything, through a uterine history of fusion, appropriate their own history and their own journey.

The reality is that they are not Siamese.

They are twins, of course, but not Siamese.

Can we be close without talking about sexuality?

Of course.

From the moment you are close to someone, you need to identify yourself, to exist for yourself.

There are therefore subjects that we keep aside.

It is the same for children vis-à-vis parents, or even in a couple.

We do not share everything within the couple because there are things which are our little secret garden, which allow us to determine ourselves.

Conversely, there are people we are not close to and yet we allow ourselves to say intimate things.

As they are far away, we are not confronted with the permanent gaze of this person to whom we have surrendered, whom we felt worthy of trust.

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Lucas may be afraid that his brother is suffering ...

I believe this is a question unrelated to being twins.

Should we talk about it or not?

I think the first thing is to say to yourself, 'We never talk to each other about our sexuality.

Maybe it's fine like that, but if you wanted to talk about it or if you had any topics you were worried about, I'm your brother and you know I love you. '

We do not have to go and ask the other to reveal themselves in their sexuality, in their view of sexuality, in their way of considering their sexuality.

But we can say to ourselves that we feel it in difficulty or shy.

Maybe there is a subject, but if there is no subject, everyone makes their own life, like that, it opens the field of possibilities.

He could be a shoulder for his brother to lean on, if needed.

Is it for the one who would be homosexual that it would be the most complicated?

Or can the questioner be worried?

Being fusional with his brother, whether he wants a man, that can complicate the receptivity of the subject.

It's not related to being twins, but I believe that there are subjects where we have to accept that our twin does not belong to us and that this twin has a very different outlook on life.

This could be the case on a lot of subjects other than sexuality.

This is also true with friends.

You have friends who tell each other everything, absolutely everything, but not the subject of sex.

Once again, just because we're twins doesn't mean we're the same body.

There are twins who never stop wanting to breathe for themselves, on their side.

It is very anxiety-provoking to have the feeling that the other is half of you.

Maybe that's also why they don't talk to each other about sexuality, because it's also talking about impulses in an exterior and which will separate them.

In fact, they pretend there aren't these separation agents in order to stay together.

They therefore do not approach the subject of sexuality so as not to question this fusion which makes their particular history.