In the show "Sans rendez-vous" Thursday on Europe 1, Catherine Blanc responds to a young listener who despairs of meeting people in the midst of the Covid-19 epidemic.
Indeed, how to discover new people, for one night or for a relationship, when social interactions are to be limited?
The sex therapist answers him.
With the limitation of social interactions, due to the Covid-19 epidemic, many French people suffer from loneliness, especially singles.
How to meet people despite the sanitary restrictions and the closure of social spaces?
In the program Sans rendez-vous Thursday on Europe 1, the sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc answers the question of a listener, Martin, 23 years old, single.
He would like to find love, but does not know how to go about it in this complex time.
Martin's question
"I am 23 years old, I am single. With the closing of bars, clubs, restaurants: how to find love?"
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Catherine Blanc's response
"Of course it is complicated, since we are in a world of prohibitions which are named, recorded and which we must obey. However, humans are still there. The meetings are done as they can be. It is interesting to observe, given this framework, how we can open up the field of possibilities, above all we have to tell ourselves that everyone is in the same boat, in desire and in search of the other.
In these times a little at half mast, all those who were rather in the anxiety of the other, in the side 'bear in hibernation' will find the leisure, through prohibitions, to justify their asocial side, etc.
But otherwise, we are all in desires of proximity, social desires, desires of impetus.
And so, as soon as it opens up a little bit, let's go.
Obviously, at the moment, some are in a situation of difficulties and depression.
And depression, not to mention depression, doesn't mix well with their libido, how they look at each other, etc.
But be careful, because we are already masked, to have the eyes that meet those of others?
Let's not look at our shoes.
Let's walk proudly, not forgetting that once again we meet people who are in search of their own frustrations and do not lock ourselves in our own frustration, with the idea that someone is forbidding us our love. "
Isn't the mask an obstacle to seduction, to meeting the other?
"It's not only the people with beautiful eyes who are at an advantage, but especially those with living eyes. You see people smile in their eyes. Afterwards, you hear them smile in their voices. There we are in. microphones, people don't necessarily see us unless they're on the internet. And so, in fact, they hear the sound of our voices well, feel a bond. Again, the austerity we are in today. hui does not prevent our impulses of life and to be perceived as such.
It's difficult to be a young person perhaps because it's difficult to be a young person, who has to go and conquer the world.
Clubs and bars certainly offer opportunities, a framework in which it makes sense to navigate, but that means that we are rather carried by the crowd.
There, you have to take a more voluntary approach. "
How to flirt when everything is closed?
"Without flirting, we can already talk to each other, smile and have fun, which will lead to the exchange of numbers, telephone, as in real life. For those who are on the apps, since young people are very much on things online, let it be the opportunity to talk to each other and not just to chat, but to talk to and listen to each other. Precisely, to unmask yourself in this context and give yourself the opportunity, afterwards, to go for a walk to meet each other .Why not? When you go to a nightclub where there is loud music, you don't even hear the other's words but people manage to flirt with each other when they don't even know who they are. business. There is the opportunity to exchange for real with people. Be alive happy and have the curiosity of the other, you attract the curiosity on yourself. "