Tuesday, in "Without appointment", the sex therapist Catherine Blanc answered the question of a listener who regrets that her sexual relations with her companion are often too long.

The sex therapist recalled that a report can very well be interrupted before the ejaculation of the partner. 

It can happen during sexual intercourse, considered too long by one or the other of the partners, that boredom, even discomfort, sets in.

This is what sometimes happens to Alice, a listener from Europe 1, who regrets that her companion always wants to make the report last until his ejaculation.

Tuesday, in Sans rendez-vous, the sexologist Catherine Blanc recalled that the importance given to ejaculation is also a cultural matter, and this while it is not always synonymous with pleasure in men. 

Alice's question

"Sex with my boyfriend is sometimes too long. He always wants to go as far as ejaculation, but do you always have to go that far?"  

Catherine Blanc's response

Why can we sometimes like too long sex less?

"We may have already experienced this situation several times where the body becomes extremely sensitive, and where the relationship can become unpleasant in the long term. Or else, it is because there is not enough going on. The relationship is pleasant, but pleasure and orgasm do not occur, and all of a sudden, it becomes something quite mechanical, perceived as intrusive, laborious and where one no longer feels in adequacy in the relationship with the other. It is as if we were only the means to obtain something and not in the reciprocal manufacture of pleasure.There are also substances like alcohol that can considerably hinder the time of ejaculation. 

Why this idea that the man should necessarily ejaculate? 

It's unique to our culture.

Among Asians, for example, in the tradition, containing one's ejaculation was a condition of the good lover, ejaculation being reserved for procreation.

The enjoyment of the man is perceived there well beyond his ejaculation.

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In a sexual relationship, upstream, there is the possibility of enjoying the pleasures of coitus, friction, without this giving rise to ejaculation.

But in our culture, things are very different, and we consider ejaculation to be the orgasm, because it is a climax.

However, many men ejaculate without pleasure.

Just because a man squirts doesn't automatically mean he has pleasure. 

Can intercourse without ejaculation be successful?

Without ejaculation, there is in men the idea of ​​not having achieved something, and for oneself, and for the gaze of one's partner.

It's a story less mechanical than psychological.

However, it can be very pleasant to make love, and to stop when there is no ejaculation, and to enjoy this tenderness, this exchange. 

In a couple who are going well, who talk to each other, we can consider that if it does not come, it is useless to be in something that is damaged by mechanics. "