Thursday, in "Sans Rendez-vous", sex therapist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc responds to a listener surprised to see a friend lying about his age on dating applications.

Is this a sign of the fear of the passing of time or just that of the gaze of others?

Thursday, in the program "Sans Rendez-vous", the sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc answers Maëva, a listener whose friend does not assume her forty years on dating sites.

The desire to present oneself in the best light can lead us to make small arrangements with the truth, but for our columnist to lie about her age is ultimately to reduce the field of possibilities ... especially when looking for a soul mate .   

Maëva's question

"A friend told me that on dating apps he feels compelled to lower his age; he marked 34 when he was actually forty. I told him he shouldn't be ashamed of his age. age, what do you think? "

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Catherine Blanc's response

For the sexologist and psychoanalyst, this behavior reflects above all an apprehension concerning the image that we refer to others.

But hiding your age is an illusory quest, especially in the context of a romantic exchange.

You cannot hide your age from your partner for long.  

Is this "little lie" a sign of the fear of aging?

The dictatorship of the youth is one of the cruelties of our civilization.

Everything around us invites us to look beautiful, young and dynamic.

This state of affairs is exacerbated on dating applications: we are afraid to specify that we are 40 years old because this reflects the image of a "looser" who "missed something" and who is therefore still single.

More than the fear of old age, it is the fear of what others will project on what it is to be 40 years old.

Doesn't this maneuver betray a desire to seduce a younger woman herself?

Some men want to find a partner who is younger than them.

They may consider that revealing their forty years will act as a foil.

This is to forget that some women are attracted to mature men.

But we are what we are, and there's no point in trying to lie about something that will come to light no matter what.

You should not be afraid to assume your age and especially not to fear the eyes of each other.

40 years, is it really a milestone in a man's life?

We're still someone's old ... and also still someone's young.

The midlife crisis is widespread but it also exists for the passage of fifty years.

Some people even feel the weight of time as they enter their thirties.

These more decades plunge us into another imagination to conquer, with the idea that we are leaving behind a time of youth.

But instead of suffering what we are, let's take the time to enjoy what we are.

In any case, we are advancing hopelessly towards old age.