Chinanews.com client, Beijing, January 22 (Reporter Shangguanyun) If you want to ask who has the highest EQ in "Dream of Red Mansions", many people may say that it is Xue Baochai or Grandma Liu: He doesn't leak his words, and he is also very likable to do things. .

  In stark contrast, Lin Daiyu, who seems acrimonious and petulant, would secretly ridicule others in daily chats. If you are uncomfortable, you have to say it straightforwardly, regardless of whether it is offensive. people.

  Is her emotional intelligence really low?

One

  In the eyes of some people who have read "A Dream of Red Mansions" for the first time, Lin Daiyu is a poor girl with a wandering life experience, and a "women" who relies on Jia's mother's love and love.

Image source: Video screenshot of "A Dream of Red Mansions" version 87

  For example, entrusted by Aunt Xue, Zhou Rui's family gave flowers to Yingchun, Wang Xifeng and others. After Daiyu saw the flowers, she asked first: Is this a gift for me alone, or do the girls have it?

  Zhou Rui's family said, everyone has them, and these two branches belong to girls.

As soon as Daiyu heard it, she sneered, "I knew that if others didn't pick the rest, they wouldn't give it to me." Zhou Rui's family was extremely embarrassed, and she said nothing.

  You know, Zhou Rui's family status is not ordinary. She is Mrs. Wang's companion house and has a certain right to speak.

Therefore, in the eyes of many people, it is really not a wise move for Daiyu to shake her face directly.

  Because of the knot of "golden jade", Daiyu also satirized Baochai.

For example, when everyone went to Qingxu to watch the game and listened to the play, Jia's mother saw a red-golden-green unicorn in the gift, and felt familiar, Baochai replied that Shi Xiangyun had one, "smaller than this."

  Tanchun praised Baochai with a heart, remembering everything; Daiyu was not upset, and sneered: "He is still limited in other things, but he pays more attention to the things these people bring." His words were sour and sharp, Bao Chai had to look back and pretend not to hear.

two

  Daiyu's "Ren" records are more than these. Wang Xifeng, Li Nursing and others were once her "defeated men."

Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu.

Image source: Video screenshot of "A Dream of Red Mansions" version 87

  Therefore, when Daiyu sighed that “the wind knife and the frost sword are pressing hard,” some readers attributed this to her too low EQ, her acrimonious speech, and indiscriminate attacks on those who can offend and those who cannot. Lead to poor popularity.

  Actually not necessarily.

One year during the Dragon Boat Festival, Baoyu was in a bad mood and had a big quarrel with Qingwen, and the last few people were crying.

At this moment, Daiyu happened to enter the door and looked all over, but did not leave.

  I saw Daiyu laughed and said, "How come you cry well under the big festival? Is it because you are arguing about zongzi eating?" After hearing these words, Baoyu and Xiren both laughed out loud with a "pouch". The storm disappeared.

  She treated her servants with her own proportions.

Baochai thought that Daiyu was not in good health, so he asked his wife to give Daiyu a bird's nest.

  Daiyu knew very well that her mother-in-law might have a gambling game at night, so she said, "It's hard for you. I made a fortune by mistake and sent it in the rain." At the same time, she ordered her to give hundreds of money to drink and eat to avoid the rain.

The mother-in-law was happy, thanked her and left, and everyone was overjoyed.

  To the lowly and vulgar Aunt Zhao, she treated each other with courtesy.

Once, Aunt Zhao came to visit, Daiyu knew that the other party came from Tanchun, passed by the door, and was in favor of the way, but immediately laughed and sat down, saying, "It's rare for my aunt to think about it", and she was too busy for her life. .

  Different from Wang Xifeng's eloquent sharpness, Daiyu understands Aunt Zhao's care and tricks, but still only regards these as good intentions.

three

  In addition to regulating emotions in a timely manner, excellent management skills are often regarded as a manifestation of high emotional intelligence.

Image source: Video screenshot of "A Dream of Red Mansions" version 87

  Among the managers in A Dream of Red Mansions, Wang Xifeng is an excellent representative.

Compared with Sister Feng, Daiyu didn't seem to be able to eat the fireworks in the world, as if her energy was devoted to poetry and opposing.

  But this does not mean that she is not paying attention to everything.

When Daiyu and Baoyu talked, they said that the family was too expensive, "Although I don’t care about things, I’m always idle in my heart. I will do the calculations for you. If you don’t save money, you will lose money. ."

  Later, the fall of Jia's House also confirmed Daiyu's foresight.

  Xiaoxiang Pavilion is well managed by her, not like the chaos in Yihong Courtyard.

Baoyu went to the Xiaoxiang Pavilion and asked Zijuan to pour tea. At this time, Daiyu had just woke up and also joked that Zijuan would leave Baoyu with water and wash her face first.

  Zijuan didn't listen to Daiyu's words, and thought Baoyu was a guest, so naturally he poured the tea first and then scooped the water, and then poured the tea.

On the one hand, this reflects the daily hospitality that Daiyu pursues; on the other hand, it also illustrates the harmonious master-servant relationship in Xiaoxiang Pavilion.

four

  Some time ago, topics such as "Lin Daiyu upside down the willows" and "Why Lin Daiyu's nickname is Lin Dongdi" were swiped on the Internet. In addition to various funny "dream linkages", Lin Daiyu's "double business" has once again become a topic of discussion. focus.

Image source: Video screenshot of "A Dream of Red Mansions" version 87

  Perhaps it can be said that although it seems sensitive and weak, but living in the Grand View Garden where fish and dragons are mixed, the smart Daiyu has long been familiar with the cold and warm world.

  When she first arrived at Jia's Mansion, she watched everywhere, worried about being ridiculed, and soon discovered that the rules for eating and drinking tea here were different from those at home.

She did not stick to her previous habits, but chose to be consistent with everyone.

  Later, Wang Xifeng flicked and deceived Sister You into the Grand View Garden. "The sisters in the garden and Li Wan welcome the spring and cherish the spring. It is all good intentions for Sister Feng, but Bao and Dai are secretly worried about Sister Feng." Everyone, Daiyu is among them.

  She is gradually growing, but after seeing the truth in life, she still chooses to maintain a trace of true temperament and still has a sharp edge.

This is due to life experience and personality, but it cannot be simply regarded as a manifestation of low emotional intelligence.

  Every adult has to fumble in the dunya.

It is a way to behave in the world as a moderate director and a harmonious life; knowing the world without being so sophisticated is also a way to walk between the world and the earth. Lin Daiyu seems to choose the latter.

  The true temperament after washing out the lead is also considered precious.

Everyone has a "Dream of Red Mansions" in their hearts. Different experiences lead to different stories.

Just as someone once said, to understand Lin Daiyu, you also understand life.

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