[In-it] I made another mistake, what's wrong with me

upset.

What I said at the meeting is strangely distorted and re-enters my ears.

As I was thinking about what I would have made a mistake, the following case came to mind.

After a meeting with a customer, I had a simple dinner.

I thought the atmosphere of the meal would be sleek because I didn't have frequent contact, but that wasn't it.

The one who joined later was a very pleasant person.

He constantly talked about his unusual experiences, episodes at work, and satirical humor throughout the meal.

He was also good at speaking, so as I listened to it, I fell in love with it.

I tried to keep the good mood by confronting him with relief.

But it hurts!

He was too talkative.

After talking on my own for almost two or three hours, my head hurt later.

Anyway, I was so excited that I couldn't stop talking, so I didn't know what to do, but I heard words that opened my ears.

It seems to me that your company is confidential.

I wonder if he can say that (I tried to pick it up in a hurry).

Whether it's true or not, even if it's a little bit more later...

It is a windfall for our company.

I heard about a commotion to a friend about the disturbance caused by employee A, who recently joined the company as a career.

It is the story of a situation where the executive B of the company has to leave the company because of the mouth of a career worker A.

After A joined the company, he told his colleagues at one or the other places that he knew B well and had a special relationship.

Of course, this rumor was spread out to the employees, and in this situation, B accidentally made words and actions that seem to take care of A (I don't know what relationship, but they actually know each other).

Then, as this was inflated and added, rumors circulated whether A had joined B's bag.

According to a friend, it is difficult to hire A because of the company's system B, but I don't know what is true, but anyway, because of A's useless words, both myself and B were in a very difficult situation.

First of all, it is because there is a lot of talk.

In my case, I often host meetings, so I speak a lot, especially when I think the work is not going well, or when there is an issue that needs to be emphasized.

Then, at some point, he communicates his intentions unilaterally in a state of fever, and at this time, if he cannot control his emotions (though he may hurt the employees), inappropriate words that can be misunderstood are unwittingly popped out.

Because of this mistake, the evaluation of my passion for work disappears everywhere, and rumors are made around him as a strange personality.

Also, the reason I make mistakes is because of the superiority that I know everything.

The relative superiority that I'm a boss and that I've done more in the company comes in the form of ignoring employees.

In other words, before the employees say something, they stop saying it is obvious and even when the employees try to talk about any difficulties, in their mind, they say,'It's all I've already experienced,' and predict the other's feelings (state).

Words that come out of your mouth in such a state of mind are likely to come out just right for you.

As there are chopsticks next to a spoon, the sense of superiority always puts a true word next to it.

Another reason for making false statements can be found in Case 1.

Anyone who has a strong desire to take the initiative and lead in any position will make a mistake.

Because these types of people try to impress themselves at meetings, dinners, or lectures, they become over-motivated or intensified, so they bravely say something they shouldn't do in public or risky thoughts. .

Because of this reckless courage, things such as trade secrets and inside information that should not be disclosed will come out of the world.

In case 2, why did A rewrite the string under the oak tree?

If you presume, it may be because you have a strong desire to reveal yourself or to show that you are not an easy person.

To express this negatively, it means to say something that you don't have to do because of the victim's consciousness or excessive desire to show off. This is because of the confusing psychology of the past due to the wounds of the past or the present anxiety.

That unstable psychology made me say unnecessary words in a place where I should reveal myself.

Anyway, the common point between my case and cases 1 and 2 is TOO MUCH TALK.

If you talk a lot, you will make a mistake.

The real language brings to the word Gu Seol-soo (口舌數).

Speaking of words is going through difficult things by saying things wrong.

Su (數) means'luck' here.

Just as you can't pick up spilled water and contain it, you can't pick up a word you spit out again.

It is really painful to go up and down in the cubic child of several people for a long period of time because of a few words.

So Lao-tzu advised that two thousand years ago, "If you have a lot of words, you often get in trouble. (Daeonsakgung 多言數窮) / It is natural to speak less (Huieon Nature 希言自然)".

However, you cannot rest your mouth and tongue while working.

How can a middle manager keep his mouth shut when things like this pop up in the company so that there is no day when it is comfortable?

If necessary, you should speak up even throughout the day.

Just don't make mistakes.

To do that, keep this in mind.

Before meeting, before meeting people, it means "TOO MUCH TALK → a sense of superiority, a desire to show off, or triggering a sense of damage → intensifying emotions → making a mistake (talking about words) → a difficult situation".

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