Yao Ce is critically ill: the magnified love and pain...
"The 28-year wrongful life change case" will open at the second instance on the 26th
The court previously awarded compensation of 760,000
On January 21, the reporter learned from Yao Ce’s mother, Du Xinzhi, the person involved in the "28 Years of Misplacement of Life", that Yao Ce v. Huaihe Hospital of Henan University and Yao Ce, Du Xinzhi, and Guo Xikuan v. Huaihe Hospital of Henan University The "Baotuo" tort liability dispute case will be held in Kaifeng City Intermediate People's Court on January 26.
Yao Ce and his family’s attorney Zhou Zhaocheng introduced that they claimed 2.73 million yuan from the Huaihe Hospital of Henan University in the first instance. The court finally decided to support 760,000 yuan. Although there was a gap between the amount and the prosecution, the final judgment found that the Huaihe Hospital of Henan University was ill in Yao Ce. There is a fault in the above, according to the proportion of 60% to bear Yao Ce's later treatment costs.
"After the first instance, Yao Ce's family considered Yao Ce's condition, the whole family wanted to spend more time with them, and they decided not to appeal. But later Yao Ce told me that after careful consideration, he still insisted on appealing." Zhou Zhaocheng said.
Regarding Yao Ce’s current condition, Yao Ce’s wife, Xiong Lei, said that the current condition is rapidly deteriorating. He was sent to Beihai People’s Hospital due to upper gastrointestinal bleeding. After waking up from the hospital, Yao Ce’s condition stabilized and was discharged.
But on the third day of discharge, Yao Ce was sent to the hospital again due to bleeding in the lower gastrointestinal tract.
Yao Ce originally thought he would spend this winter peacefully in Beihai.
Half a month ago, he chose this small seaside town about 1,500 kilometers away from his hometown of Jiujiang, just half a month ago, hoping to enjoy the sun while avoiding all the troubles caused by "changing lives for 28 years".
However, just a few days after arriving here, the symptoms of hematemesis in the late stage of liver cancer quickly "swallowed" him.
When I saw Yao Ce, he had just left the dangerous period and was lying on a bed in the Department of Oncology, Beihai People's Hospital.
His wife wiped his body with a hot towel. He lost nearly 40 kilograms from the flesh before, but now he is only skin and bones. There are more times of indwelling needle sticks. The marks are all over his hands, and some are swollen and bulging, requiring ointment.
At the bedside, infusion pumps and micro pumps continuously deliver hemostatic and nutrient solutions for 24 hours.
He hasn't eaten for several days, so he specifically asked his wife to switch the TV opposite the hospital bed to a food show.
"I want to taste everything in it, but it's a pity that Mei can quench my thirst." He said in a weak, hoarse voice.
Over the past six months or so, his life has been like a movie with a bizarre plot and a high-speed advancement.
After he was diagnosed with cancer, the recognition of the two families was once his most satisfying moment.
However, everything that followed caught him off guard-real estate, grandson's surnames, misunderstandings between the two mothers, the place of future life... These two families did not directly discuss the issues, spread and magnified through the Internet, so that he and his family are very Injured.
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quarrel
"He feels wronged, why doesn't his mother understand him. Compared with cancer, this kind of emotional pull makes him more painful."
On January 10, Yao Ce was admitted to Beihai People's Hospital due to upper gastrointestinal bleeding. He vomited 2000 ml of blood and was notified of critical illness.
On the first day of hospitalization, he and his adoptive mother Xu Mingang had another quarrel.
That day, Yao Ce posted screenshots of their quarrel in the family group on Douyin.
In the screenshot, Yao Ce said: "Sometimes I really don't know how to do it. If you want to do it like this, you have to go to court? What is blessed by the people of the whole country must become a big joke?" "I was told by my parents. , I really want to die, but I still dare not die. I'm afraid I haven't explained my affairs clearly. You and my dad have nowhere to depend..."
In the eyes of his biological mother Du Xinzhi, the vibrato was the result of Yao Ce's despair, sadness, and not knowing how to resolve his emotions. He regretted it and deleted it soon.
However, this development still triggered a storm of public opinion.
"Speaking to the mother who raised me like this, is this meant to repay my mother's kindness? Can the patient be like this?" A netizen released the screenshot that Yao Ce deleted, thinking that he could no longer bear it, commenting and paying attention. Million.
In fact, since confessing relatives, the remarks and behaviors of the two families have been infinitely magnified on the Internet. Fans and caring people have begun to stand in line. According to media interviews and analysis of Yao Ce’s social media content, some support Xu Min, some Support Du Xinzhi, but more often they scold each other.
For example, Xu Min’s house wrote Yao Ce’s name, while Du Xinzhi’s family did not write Guo Wei’s name. Netizens thought it was unfair.
She had to explain again and again that when Guo Wei was in college to buy a house with the loan, he couldn't print the bank records, so he didn't write his name.
The fuse this time is also the house.
In the live broadcast, Yao Ce offered to return the Jiujiang property to Xu Min, but netizens interpreted Xu Min as worried about Yao Ce's death and urgently needed to take back the house.
Xu Min felt wronged, so she called Yao Ce to quarrel.
His wife, Xiong Lei, felt very sorry for Yao Ce. She helped persuade Xu Min, and finally the two sides also had conflicts.
"He feels wronged, why doesn't his mother understand him. Compared with cancer, this kind of emotional pull makes him more painful." Xiong Lei said.
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death
Thinking back now, Yao Ce feels that his destiny may have been written in the year he was born.
5 years ago, Yao Ce finished "Get Out!"
"Tumor" feels that cancer is only in the movie, far away from life, but now I have personal feelings.
"The protagonist is as young as I am, there is no way, you have to accept the reality." He realized that the most important thing now is: enjoy every day of life, enjoy the company and love of his family.
He didn't know how this mentality changed, but he felt that it was mainly related to the development of the disease.
On February 16, 2020, he got the results of the hospital examination-the liver had a shadow of 14 cm.
"The doctor said no treatment, only three months, I can't figure it out." In the previous 28 years, as the only child, Yao Ce had almost no troubles in life.
Starting from the diagnosis of liver cancer, Yao Ce's life has been like a movie with a bizarre plot and a high-speed advancement.
In March, Xu Min thought of cutting his own liver to save his son, but when he went to a Shanghai hospital to prepare for a liver transplant, an even more unacceptable fact happened.
Xu Min and her husband's blood type is A, while Yao Ce is AB.
In addition, the DNA identification results showed that "Xu Min is not supported by Yao Ce's biological mother."
On April 17th, after searching many times, Xu Min finally met his biological son Guo Wei in Zhumadian, and Yao Ce also found his biological parents Guo Renkuan and Du Xinzhi.
At the end of April, the two families met for the first time in Jiujiang, Jiangxi. The truth of "replacement of life for 28 years" was also well known by media reports. In the summer of 1992, Xu Min and Du Xinzhi gave birth at the Huaihe Hospital of Henan University at the same time. The hospital's negligence caused the wrong exchange.
What is more unexpected is that Du Xinzhi suffers from hepatitis B. Yao Ce also missed the immunoglobulin that was originally given to the child in order to block mother-to-child transmission.
Both family members believe that Yao Ce's mistake in the hospital caused Yao Ce to be wrong, and his failure to inject immunoglobulin was causally related to his suffering from hepatitis B and liver cancer.
In the follow-up tort liability dispute with the court, the appeals of the two families were basically supported by the court.
Looking back now, Yao Ce feels that his destiny may have been written in the year he was born.
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Variety
"The maternal love has changed, he accepts it on the surface, but only he knows the pain in his heart."
In fact, for the two families, the 28 years of parenting and blood relatives have quietly changed on the day of confession.
Birth mother Du Xinzhi remembered that she had been cautious since the first call with Yao Ce: "I am your mother in Henan. We are not as impoverished as reported by the media. Parents have retirement wages and will not burden you. Help you."
"Mother Du, it's not like this. Now I have two mothers, but the body is like this. I don't know how to repay you." Yao Ce's sensibility surprised Du Xinzhi, but she has been probing how to enter her son's life. .
She did not dare to ask Yao Ce's growing up story for fear of stinging her son. She was always afraid that the food she cooked would not meet his son's appetite.
Yao Ce never told her about cancer and concerns. Sometimes when she saw her son's pain unbearable, she wanted to step forward to comfort him, but his son always waved his hand and said it was okay and shut himself in the room.
When seeing a doctor in Shanghai, Hangzhou and other places, the son not only has to match the treatment schedule, but also arranges them to visit the surrounding attractions.
"He is sick and has to take care of us." Du Xinzhi and her husband felt distressed. They felt that they owed their son too much, but they didn't know how to pay to express their love. In the end, they could only silently do housework and accompany him to see a doctor.
"When his son needed family affection the most, his maternal love changed. On the surface he accepted it, but only he knew the pain in his heart." Du Xinzhi sometimes even thought, maybe his son needs Xu's mother more than himself.
At the same time, Xu Min gradually "retreated to the second line" in Yao Ce's life.
In her opinion, Du Xinzhi and Yao Ce's emotions have been missing for 28 years. No matter how much she loves Yao Ce, she should let go, and let him cultivate relationships with his biological parents.
But she kept these words in her heart and didn't say it. Many people think that since Yao Ce fell ill, she has changed her heart and is unwilling to give.
"Yao Ce is the child I have devoted all my hard work to nurturing. He is seriously ill and I am desperately unable to do anything. Who can understand my pain." Xu Min said that every time Yao Ce was hospitalized, they all went, just the person to take care of. Too many, they "do not make it."
Coupled with the prevention and control of the hospital's epidemic situation and changes in the escort system, families can only squeeze in rented houses outside the hospital.
Sometimes the biological parents, adoptive father, adoptive mother, father-in-law and mother-in-law co-exist in the same room. Yao Ce calls "Dad" and the three of them often turn their heads back.
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future
Regarding the misunderstanding and hurt between the two families, he believes that it will slowly pass over time and memories
Over the past six months or so, Xiong Lei has seen the emotional changes in the two families most clearly.
In her opinion, the love between the two families for Yao Ce is true, and the small selfishness in between is understandable, but all the emotions gathered in Yao Ce, he not only has to endure the torment of cancer, but also endure these emotions. pressure.
Xiong Lei said that Yao Ce's optimism and freedom most of the time is that he does not want to hurt his family. He is trying his best to maintain the relationship between the two mothers, the relationship between the two families, and the relationship between the two families and public opinion.
"Later, I also figured it out. There is no need to be completely together. Everyone can walk around occasionally as relatives." Yao Ce believes that the misunderstanding and hurt between the two families will slowly pass over time and memories. But it is not easy to want these two families to blend together.
Yao Ce hopes that Jiangxi's adoptive parents and Guo Wei will cultivate the emotions that have been missing for 28 years as soon as possible. He hopes that his biological parents will spend more time with his children, and that his wife can live happily.
Speaking of these, Yao Ce is a bit sad.
"Can you say it is impossible if you are not afraid of cancer, there is no way to be afraid, you can't avoid it, you can only try to make yourself happy."
In Xiong Lei's view, Yao Ce knows his condition better than anyone else.
They used to avoid talking about life and death, but recently Yao Ce will take the initiative to talk to her.
She once asked Yao Ce if he was frightened by the critical illness notice issued by the hospital.
Yao Ce replied that the hospital had been psychologically prepared for a long time, and the condition would develop to this point sooner or later.
"He is also scared in his heart." Xiong Lei often wakes up in the middle of the night to find Yao Ce clutching her hand tightly.
Yao Ce often tells Xiong Lei’s good friends that he has a deep feeling for his wife and feels unable to leave her, but when Xiong Lei asks directly, Yao Ce always hides: "I mean you are so stupid, if I am not here How can you survive."
Chengdu Commercial Daily-Red Star News reporter Pan Junwen posted in Beihai, Guangxi