[Gollum] Busy 274: The story of Hanbiya, daughter of the wind, honeymoon in her 60s'I have a person to walk with'
"Our plan is full of things that can be accomplished if we focus a little and support each other. It is difficult but fun, difficult but difficult. Things that get easier when we work together, things that are small but satisfying, things that are in itself fun to take one step toward a goal… a joyful life even if it's not great, Anton and I are good enough. At least so far."
Before the year changes, we look back on the year and organize it...
When the year changes, we look forward to the new year, plan and design.
It's been about 10 days this year. How are you feeling the beginning of the new year?
It is not easy to fulfill three days of what I have decided on, and it is always difficult to keep going for a week, ten days, and a month.
That's why I think I was good at those excuses, saying,'Koreans start the New Year from the Lunar New Year'.
The first book I brought to the New Year's hustle and bustle was written by someone who likes to make plans and is the best in Korea to try to put them into practice.
A book written by Biya Han, who is well known as a traveler and has been working hard on international relief efforts for the past 10 years, and his husband, Antonius Van Jutefen-<I Have Someone to Walk Together>.
It is said that Han Biya was born in 1958.
He is 63 years old this year, and his husband is 70 years old because he is 7 years old.
They said they got married 4 years ago, in 2017.
People who have lived their lives over the age of 60 decided to walk together at the twilight of their lives.
I first learned about it in 2002 at the site of relief work in Afghanistan, but it seems like a drama that it was 12 years later, 2014, and three more years later, when I was reborn as a couple.
What's even more unique is their newlyweds, what kind of mind they are walking with who say'we're doing well' and'happy' even though they've been separated for half a year.
"This book is not a collection of our lifelike marriage life. It is a story of finding our own way to suit our situation, which is quite different from others, a story of living more like myself after marriage, and the power of being alone and together. It is a new discovery story."
-Prologue
"What if we met in our twenties, the time of the flurry, and when we didn't know what kind of person we were? It would have been a spectacle. It might have been amputated at all. How fortunate to meet you!... It's good to meet in your 30s and live well for 60 years, but it's not bad to meet in your 60s like us and live a good relationship for 30 years."
- Toulon
. "The most important element of the margin and the attitude of gwayubulgeup of relationship our marriage close but not too close is not, give enough not is exceed been write heart kept their own time and space, now married third year now, Until then, it's going well."
-Rain,
"someone said. By the time I'm in my 60s, I don't need to be smart anymore, but I have to show that I've become more wise. I try less to prove my superiority and instead try to share what I've learned with others. Instead of longing for something more, the time has come for me to share, advise and lead the wisdom of life that I have gained when someone wants. Also, in my 60s, the question,'How should I reach the end of my life?' It's also time to start playing."
-When it comes to Anton's
marriage, I'm much older and more experienced than these couples, but I still can't keep up with the years of life in my 60s.
Reading these four-year couples made me think about life.
It is said to be '100 years old', but the average life expectancy has grown so long, and the cycle of our lives is still not right.
They say that they are young, but they are still close to retiring or withdrawing from their full-time job.
It seems certain that the days to live are probably fewer than the days to live.
When it seems more appropriate to go through the procedure of organizing and finishing things rather than starting something new, it seems quite appropriate to say that this couple, a life partner or spouse, who decided to walk together with each other.
How will we live when we get older?
What about the next 10, 20, and 30 years?
It was a book that made me think about getting older by one year in the new year, especially not only in marriage but also with many people in my life.
"There are no grand goals or plans on our list, such as to climb the summit of Mount Everest, to become the head of the UN Refugee Agency, or to buy a nice villa near the Alps. You can't, need, and have no intention of doing that. We don't even list the things that can only be achieved by competing with someone to win, but instead our plans are full of things that can be achieved if we support each other with a little focus... A life that's not great, but an enjoyable life, Anton and I, is enough. At least so far."
-Rain
this year, it's probably only the year that the corona is ending, right?
I wish everyone could live happily.
*Reading permission has been obtained from the publishing company Green Forest.
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