In the show "Sans rendez-vous" Wednesday on Europe 1, Catherine Blanc responds to a listener, Barbara, who does not understand why her husband cannot have sex with her when they are at her parents' house .

For the holidays, the couple will spend two weeks with Barbara's parents, which worries him.

She wonders what to do.

It is not always easy to know how to behave in the home of your in-laws.

In the program Sans rendez-vous Wednesday on Europe 1, the sexologist and psychiatrist Catherine Blanc answers the question of a listener, Barbara, who wonders why her husband cannot have sex with her at his parents' place .

The couple will spend two weeks there during the holidays and Barbara wonders what to do.

Barbara's question

"We go to my parents for the holidays. I know that means 'belt' level sex for two weeks, because me, no problem, but my husband, it blocks him completely. What to do?"

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Catherine Blanc's response

"We are in a context of end of year celebrations, Christmas celebrations and therefore family reunions. Quite naturally, we return to an idea of ​​a child, we return to our parents, even if they are our in-laws. . We end up with parents who will pamper us and even if we have children, moreover, we go back ourselves as children. This is what makes all the difficulties, often, of these family reunions. Consequently, sexuality, for some, is not invited any more since it is not the position of the adult who comes in this place, but the position of the child towards -vis parents.

Why is he stuck when it's Barbara's parents?

There may be the geographical context of where they sleep, that is to say the proximity of the rooms or if the partition is very thin ... Moreover, is it blocked by the presence of parents?

Or does his own wife no longer have the same attitude because she is with her parents?

Is she, in fact, still desirable for him? 

Don't we also have more family spirit than couple spirit in this period?

That's exactly it, we desexualize things.

For some, it's difficult to find your place.

Are we the parent or are we the child?

You have to manage both relationships, which already gives a lot of work at the psychic level.

So obviously, physically at that point, we take a bit of a break and I don't quite see where the problem is.

If not obviously for Barbara for whom a fortnight without sexual relations is enormous.

Perhaps at this point, since they are going to see Barbara's parents, she wonders why she wants to go there for two weeks.

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Her husband's embarrassment does not necessarily have to do with whether or not they are with Barbara's parents.

This embarrassment seems rather linked to the relationship he has with his in-laws, to the duty that is his.

Such embarrassment can also arise because one feels in a situation of having to protect and cuddle.

Perhaps he also feels like a child of his in-laws.

You have people who, thanks to their marriage, find parents they did not have and, as such, feel a duty of fidelity.

As if sexuality was an infidelity or a potential violence that could not be done in this context.

Are the holidays good for an increase in habitual libido?

It is interesting to ask the question of why, perhaps, my libido seems stronger at this time possibly.

Is it as much as usual?

Or is it louder when I go to my parents?

This begs the question: why is this when my libido is at its highest?

At the moment, precisely, I am in this parental territory.

It is to reflect on Barbara's side.

As to whether there is more libido during the holidays, I haven't done any studies on the question.

Still, I imagine New Year's Eve must be a little more conducive to sex than Christmas is. "