Why do young people who pursue freedom of personality choose blind dates
No one escapes the "True Fragrance Law", even the graduates of "985 Colleges" are no exception.
No, the topic of "985 blind date games" has become popular on the Internet recently.
Everyone did not expect that graduates of prestigious schools who knew astronomy, geography, advanced math problems, and written love poems would worry about falling in love and choose blind dates.
After all, in the common impression, modern young people generally pursue individuality and freedom. Why did they finally embark on the old road of blind date?
In the movie "Love at Sunset", the heroine Celine said: "When you are young you will believe that you will know a lot of people, but then you will find that there are actually very few people you can communicate with, not to mention you can't guarantee Get along with them, and just like that, you lose contact." One sentence has already said everything.
The fate is very shallow. Some people only meet once, which is the last side of this life, let alone develop more stories.
I always feel in no hurry in the green years, and I will find the right person for a lifetime.
But seeing the people around me get out of singles, get married and start a career, I'm still alone, and anxiety swept across.
Coupled with the desperate urging of parents, it is difficult to be as calm as ever.
Therefore, single young people after graduation are either on a blind date or on the way to a blind date.
I couldn't help but think of the friends around me. It seems that as I grow older, my attitude towards blind dates is gradually easing.
I used to think that blind dates are good "old-fashioned", but now if someone helps introduce a member of the opposite sex, they will be quite happy.
After all, blind dates are actually not terrible.
Is this post-90s generation too anxious?
The fact may not be so simple.
Young people who are small and don't like to socialize, it is really "wisdom too difficult" to get off the singles.
According to statistics from the Ministry of Civil Affairs: In 2018, China's single adult population reached 240 million, of which 77 million lived alone. It is estimated that by 2021, the second number will rise to 92 million.
When the wave of single society hits vigorously, blind dates become a major trend at a younger age.
Blind dates and using off-single apps have become social norms for young people.
A set of survey data from Zhenai.com shows that 38% of single men and women are younger than 23 years old for their first blind date, and 24% of single men and women are 23-25 years old.
Seventy percent of single men and women have blind date experiences. Among them, 40% of single men and women have blind dates three times a year, and 30% of single men and women have five blind dates each year.
Unlike what the public take for granted, young people now have the motivation to go on blind dates.
At the beginning, I always thought that I would not go to a blind date when I was killed, but after I worked, I found that there was a way to go on a blind date.
Blind date allows us to recognize new people and expand our social circle. Otherwise, with our usual lifestyle of working overtime and staying at home on weekends, we will never get away from singles in this life.
As a result, a strange phenomenon appeared. The young people sneered at the traditional "parental matchmaker's words" and rejected the traditional blind date model. Then they turned around and recharged their members on the blind date app, carefully decorated and rushed to the blind date bureau. Sure enough, no one can escape the "law of true fragrance".
Many people may think that blind dates are a kind of compromise, but blind dates do not mean that they will end. It is just that there is more potential to meet a life partner.
For example, the emergence of the "985 blind date", on the contrary, because they are unwilling to get married, young people choose to put the initiative in their own hands to grasp their own happiness.
The change in the attitude towards blind dates actually points to the contradictions and entanglements of young people towards love.
On the one hand, I want to seek a soul mate and cast aside worldly worries, only to see whether I like it or not; but on the other hand, it is inevitable that there are many practical considerations outside of love.
This subtle mentality keeps pulling in the minds of young people.
The blind date chain was born from this. Generally, you look at her and she looks down on you, and you look down on him and he looks down on you. It is difficult to go both ways to achieve a balance of demands.
Those with a monthly salary of 20,000 yuan want to find someone with an annual salary of one million yuan, and those with an annual salary of one million yuan want to find a Bai Fumei; those who don’t have a registered permanent residence want to find a local, but the locals want to find someone who is right. I deserve better, and then in the blind date again and again, wasted time.
The question is, can love really care about it and calculate it carefully?
Shakespeare wrote in "A Midsummer Night’s Dream": "Love is seen with the heart without eyes, so Cupid with wings is often described as blind; and the judgment of love is completely irrational, using only wings without eyes. It is reckless and acute, so Eros is said to be a child, because he often makes mistakes in choices."
You know, the beauty of love lies in its blindness and irrationality. At the moment of heart-stirring, there is no reason. It does not care about her fat or thinness, does not care about his height, does not care about her family, does not care about his. income.
If you draw the ground as a prison from the beginning, it is destined to be a source of hope for fish.
Original source: China Youth Daily