Thursday, in "Without appointment", the sex therapist Catherine Blanc provided some advice to Fabien, who, after a long period of abstinence, wonders about his ability to have sex again.

'There is nothing that is forgotten,' she said, stressing the importance of letting your body find its own balance. 

For both men and women, the discovery of sex with a new partner can be a 

source of anxiety, especially

 when it follows a long period of abstinence.

Fabien, auditor of Europe 1, for example has not had sex for almost two years, and is worried about the consequences of this long wait on his sexuality.

Thursday, in

Sans rendez-vous

, the sex therapist Catherine Blanc gave him some advice to approach this stage with more confidence. 

Fabien's question

“I haven't had sex for almost two years and it weighs me down. Is there a risk that I don't know how to deal with a woman anymore, or is it like riding a bike? 

Catherine Blanc's response 

We must forget the technique and let the naturalness of the body find balance.

In sexuality, there is this apprehension of meeting the other, of penetrating the other.

But the discoveries made clearly show us the spontaneity of bodies and their natural interlocking.

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The body knows the way.

But it's like cycling, you have to count or not count on the congestion that can cause the psyche.

For example, if I go down a four-by-four staircase while thinking about other things, naturally my feet know exactly where to land.

But sometimes my head will clutter it up because I'm going to be like, 'Did I put my foot in the right place?

Am I doing right? '

And all of a sudden, I don't do well anymore, I lose my balance.

This is also something that sometimes plays out in romantic relationships.  

Is two years that long?

Two years doesn't shock me.

Lots of people have long periods of abstinence, because their life is elsewhere, because they have had other things to do.

And then two years, it goes quickly.

There is nothing that is forgotten.

There is just to give back an ambition in the relationship with the other. 

What frightens Fabien is less the duration of his abstinence than the discovery of a new partner.

In the past, he has been in a relationship with someone and has not questioned what he knows or does not know how to do.

And there, all of a sudden, there will be a new meeting. 

Is it a purely male anxiety?

Women are also asking the question, and putting pressure on themselves to please.

'Will I be ridiculous?

Will I always lubricate myself or not? '.

Men are sometimes more aware of their erection, while women see a little less what is happening in them.

It is still a source of anxiety to restart something if our life has become a bit tarnished.

And I'm not just talking about a love point of view.

Because if our professional or social life is happy enough, sexuality naturally takes the same impetus.

It's when there are things that are a bit at half mast that they let us think that sexuality might be in trouble.

Should you talk to your partner?

Yes !

Saying so is already passing this first test, and having a helping hand that accompanies us.