THE SEXO QUESTION - My girlfriend only cums in one position, what to do?

In the show "Sans rendez-vous" on Europe 1, the sexologist and psychiatrist Catherine Blanc responds to Fabrice who finds it unfortunate that his partner only manages to reach orgasm in one position.

Catherine Blanc explains to her that this absolutely does not prevent her from practicing other positions during the act and that orgasm is not necessarily to be sought permanently.

Fabrice's question

"When I make love with my girlfriend, she only manages to come in one and the same position. It bothers me a bit and I wanted to know how we could innovate and put a little spice back into our reports ?"

Catherine Blanc's response

"If a woman knows that she enjoys in a position, it is already an assurance. That her partner is fed up with this position can be understood. However, it is necessary to make love with someone only on the condition that any position leads to enjoyment? Nothing is less certain. It's fine if we make love for three minutes, but if we make love for half an hour, we will not just enjoy.

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Fortunately, we change position, we recreate excitement, frustration, desire and we can close on the position that makes her come.

The question is also whether she wants to enjoy all the positions.

Not everyone has the same reading of their freedoms, places or rhythms that suit them.

If she has found her rhythm it can be a bit off-putting for the other. "

Is it common for women to have only one position?

"Yes absolutely and in men as well. Simply, men are full of it because they are, at that moment in the spectacle of the enjoyment of the other. But a woman can also be in the spectacle of the enjoyment of a man being in a position in which she enjoys less but where she sees him enjoy and not just in his time of ejaculation.

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Sex can be successful without an orgasm, it is above all the sweetness that we bring and if we manage to do good sometimes to one, sometimes to the other or simultaneously.

The pornography does suggest that the woman is an inflatable doll who comes in all positions. "

Should he be content with that position or talk to her about it?

"He must not be satisfied with a single position, especially if for him it is not enjoyable. But, seeking to absolutely change the positions so that she enjoys, the injunction of enjoyment, that does not work. not. He must allow himself the right to make love to her in other positions, offer her other things. There are women who will like certain positions which will be rather anxiety-provoking for others. or for some men. Obviously, this poses a problem when one likes a position which is not a source of great fantasy for the other. It suffices to say to yourself that they can each come in turn.

When we make love, we generally don't talk about sexuality.

Apart from a scenario without thinking, there is nothing mentalized.

You shouldn't talk to her about it then, because it's the best way that she won't even cum in this position anymore.

She may have the right not to cum, or not to come, even though she has a lover who knows how to do it. "