In the show "Sans rendez-vous" on Europe 1, the psychoanalyst and sexologist Catherine Blanc looks at the phenomenon of love at first sight.
She deciphers what exactly love at first sight is, then says it's not enough to make a relationship last.
Like any relationship, it must be nurtured.
For those who have not experienced it, love at first sight seems to belong to the realm of cinema.
In the program
Sans rendez-vous
on Europe 1, the sexologist and psychiatrist Catherine Blanc explains what this phenomenon consists of.
She says love at first sight isn't enough to make a relationship last.
In all cases, the latter must be maintained.
What is love at first sight?
Catherine Blanc's response
"It is to be struck down, that is to say that people who have had a thunderbolt suddenly have something that is physically perceptible, a loss of bodily bearings: a racing heart , shaky legs. The vision of the other is obvious that stuns. It's not just 'I see him as someone wonderful', it's physically, I am overwhelmed by this meeting It means that there is a beginning and an end.
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Is it something fleeting?
It is not necessarily reciprocal, hence a possible pain.
It really is something that is extremely sudden.
It could just be in plain sight.
But that person may absolutely not see you, because it is only happening in you.
What is interesting, then, is what is happening at this time.
Why suddenly does a being pass from shadow to absolute light?
As if something embodied something obvious to you.
What date of yourself are you so that the other is at this meeting, so that you can project onto the other that he is at this meeting?
Suddenly it is your absolute obviousness and your absolute urgency.
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Do love at first sight last?
I have not interviewed all the people who have fallen in love with each other, reciprocal moreover.
The point is, I usually have patients who will tell me about love at first sight stories, but these are not necessarily the people they still live with.
It can be eaten just as quickly.
Out of the obvious, love at first sight becomes an earthling.
Moreover, the more someone is above the mass, the more difficult it is to continue the relationship because, by definition, he will naturally end up in the world of humans who live on cow floors.
Suddenly, this discrepancy between wonder and cowardice is more painful than with someone with whom we walk quietly.
Do we need love at first sight?
No.
Either way, a relationship is worth cultivating.
Even the meeting must be cultivated.
For that to work, it is necessary that we accept to land, to look at each other with tenderness and to be carried by this initial impulse, marvelous, but which will become something quite different.
It is only on this condition that love at first sight will serve a purpose, like a starter. "