In the program Sans Rendez-vous, sex therapist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc addressed the issue of infidelity.
Should you admit your fault or on the contrary keep it to yourself?
Is it necessary to be forgiven?
Catherine Blanc provided some answers.
Should we admit occasional infidelity? The sex therapist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc answered this delicate question on Tuesday in the program Sans Rendez-vous. According to her, we must first define the concept of loyalty, specific to each couple.
Catherine Blanc's response
"We do not all have the same relationship to loyalty and therefore to infidelity. Who am I to say that we should confess? As soon as we say confess, that means that it is a fault We must first define what this relationship is for, what is our investment in the relationship and what are the margins that we allow ourselves, ask ourselves' is it against the other or for one freedom ?'."
Should we address the issue of loyalty?
"In a relationship, it is better to have the same vision of loyalty and infidelity. But I'm afraid we will have a hard time telling each other. It's easy enough to hear what the other has to say. , but it's more complicated to express your point of view. It's a very difficult story. You also have to define the notion of 'occasional'.
There is no question of lecturing and saying 'this is good and this is not'.
Everyone has a vision of their freedom and the framework of the relationship does not have to infringe this freedom.
However, you have to know what you are committed to with the other and what you are risking. "
Is it harder to be faithful in 2020 than before?
"In the 70s, relations were very open. Behind, a certain morality was re-solidified and then reopened. There have always been so many men and women, but there has never been such a big mixing and such great accessibility. Today, we talk about sex all the time. It constantly sexualises things. "
Do you have to confess to be forgiven?
“Confessing is a bit like a child going to mom or dad for forgiveness. The person who has been deceived may think that there is some kind of greater awareness if the person confesses. , we have to manage the guilt of the other. We do not make love by accident. We make love taken by an impulse and we always have our brain, which can decide what we do or what that we do not.
It is first of all a work to be done with oneself before mixing the other and disenchanting the relationship.
If we really have the feeling of having done something stupid, it is up to us to get back on the right path rather than trying to redeem ourselves through the kiss of the other. "