5-year-old grandson holding hands with 10-month-old daughter

Families who lost their only one burst into tears

　　Our reporter Zhang Bingqing Our correspondent Sun Meiyan

　　In the midsummer afternoon, the adults entered a lazy and languid nap mode, but Panpan, who was 10 months old, was not sleepy yet. She pointed her hands at the Mickey clock on the wall, twisted her body, and made a babble.

　　53-year-old Huang Limin was holding her daughter, her hands were slightly sour, and she was reluctant to let it go. The Mickey clock on the wall is his son's relic and the only trace of his son in the new home.

　　In 2016, his 25-year-old son died unexpectedly. Three years later, the couple born in the 60s who lost their independence gave birth to their daughter Panpan after experiencing many IVFs.

　　The siblings, who are nearly 30 years old, have never met, but there seems to be a natural tacit understanding connecting them. Panpan's favorite toy is the Mickey clock left by her brother, and she often giggles at the turning hands.

　　Whenever this happens, Huang Limin and his wife feel that all the hard work in the past and in the future is worth it.

Hard-won little daughter

Become the "group favorite" of the entire family

　　Huang Limin's family lives in an apartment of more than 150 square meters in Xiaoshan. There is a set of mahogany sofa and dining table in the dining and living room. This is a new Chinese style chosen by his son for them. But before the decoration was over, he died unexpectedly, and he never lived in the new home he participated in the design for a day.

　　After the death of his son, the new home fell silent and lifeless for a long time. It was not until Panpan came that her laughter and cry made the family "live" again.

　　In the past, the anti-collision strips Huang Limin bought were reddish brown similar to the color of the furniture. Since Panpan was born, she even bought the anti-collision strips in bright lake blue. Although they didn't look good, they added a lot of life.

　　"I myself started to wear some brightly colored clothes," she said, pointing to the lavender T-shirt on her body. "The child is young, and I must have a younger mentality, not to be lifeless. Recently, my sisters also taught me an online vocabulary. Said Panpan is the family's "group pet"."

　　The status of "group pet" is obvious. Next to the restaurant is her exclusive playroom. The floor is full of various plush toys. There is a whole row of small skirts hanging in the closet. These are gifts from a few aunts. The woolen shoes on her feet were also made by the little aunt.

　　Sister Huang Limin has a 5-year-old grandson. Not long ago, she was jealous because her grandmother was too kind to Panpan. She launched a protest, "Can you stop playing with Panpan!"

　　In recent years, relatives and friends have witnessed the pain of losing a child and the road of seeking a child for Huang Limin and his wife. They know that the hope is hard to come by, so they can't wait to give her double love.

Bringing children after many years

She is more attentive than young mothers

　　After many years of bringing children, Huang Limin is a little strange. She was 24 years old when she gave birth to her son. She felt that she was still a child. Besides, she was busy with work. She was basically stocking and letting him grow freely. And this time, she was more particular and careful than the young mother.

　　It was almost lunch time, and Huang Limin and her husband Fang Jiezhong broke up and got busy. The two have a clear division of labor. The mother cooks for the daughter and the husband cooks for the wife.

　　Fang Jiezhong is a cook who does a running water table. He is rarely living that day. He helps with the baby at home. He didn't talk much and looked honest, silently got up and walked into the kitchen, and began to wash rice and vegetables.

　　"She has experienced all the hardships other women haven't experienced." Many times the IVF failed and the birth was dangerous. He still feels distressed about his wife's efforts when he thinks of it.

　　At this end, Huang Limin took out an electronic scale from the sideboard. This electronic scale is a great contributor. She used it to weigh her three meals a day, fruits and nuts during pregnancy, to ensure a comprehensive and balanced nutrition. Now, she uses an electronic scale to weigh her daughter's food each meal. Panpan’s lunch is green vegetable egg noodles, she can usually eat 100~120 grams.

　　After cooking the noodles, Huang Limin carefully picked out the lean meat used for seasoning, and then fed it to her daughter with a special spoon. "This spoon will change color if it is too hot to prevent her from getting burned." The small sideboard cabinet In the box, there are more than a dozen different spoons, some for eating fruit puree, some for mixing rice paste, each has its own purpose.

　　In the first 6 months, Huang Limin insisted on breastfeeding. Now, she is feeding milk powder and complementary food. She searched for different food supplement recipes on the Internet and bought two food supplement machines to experiment with new recipes in turn.

　　For a while, she put the rice cereal in a milk bottle for Panpan to suck and eat. A doctor friend reminded her that this was not conducive to the exercise of the child's chewing function, so she quickly changed to spoon feeding for fear of a mistake.

　　Huang Limin also has a "Parenting Handbook" that records Panpan’s food and drink every day: how many meals I ate today, how much I eat per meal, how many times I changed diapers, and I had a few bowel movements... The writing is a bit sloppy, because many times She always holds her baby in one hand and writes in one hand, "I am old and have a bad memory, so I can only use this stupid method."

Childcare frustration, back pain

She often feels sad and helpless

　　A couple born in 60s, a 10-month-old baby, the family went out, misunderstanding is almost inevitable.

　　They brought Panpan to get vaccinations, apply for birth certificates and citizen cards. The first reaction of the staff was to let the children's parents do it. They had to explain over and over again, "We are." However, every time the explanation was clear, the staff would sincerely apologize and lament that they are "not easy".

　　After the death of his son, Huang Limin's hair turned white, and now almost half of it is white. She was pregnant, pregnant, and breast-feeding all the way. She had no time to take care of it, and she could not dye her hair, which made her look older.

　　The appearance of aging can be modified, but the deterioration of body functions can not deceive people. After Shun gave birth to Panpan, she suffered a knee meniscus injury and a herniated lumbar disc. The doctor said that this was a sequelae left by the elderly birth.

　　However, severe pain often hit her when she was emotionally anxious and became the last straw that crushed her.

　　On April 23, Huang Limin posted a circle of friends: Really, will it really pass? How do I feel that I can't finish the hurdles, and sometimes I really think about it...The family born in the 60s who lost their independence is distressed and really tired.

　　The attached picture is a photo of his son when he traveled to the UK before his death. There is also a line on it: All peaks and valleys will only be temporary, and everything will pass. His son's smile remained in his 20s, and that was his furthest trip.

　　During that time, several routine physical examinations of Panpan showed that her height and weight were below the average level, and once the weight did not increase but dropped, the doctor sounded the alarm. Recalling that she raised her head one month later than the other children, the couple worried whether she was stunted.

　　When she was anxious, her back pain came on untimely, and she couldn't sleep for several nights. At this time, the miss of her son reached its peak, and she couldn't help but send out that pessimistic circle of friends.

　　Panpan's forehead and face are almost the same as his brother, but his eyes are not as big as his brother. In the night of insomnia, she saw her son come back with a travel backpack, opened the door, picked up her sister to tease her, two similar faces slowly overlapped... but when she woke up, she found out, but It is a dream.

Give her double love

Stay with her longer

　　Later, Huang Limin and his wife brought Panpan to the hospital for a comprehensive examination and evaluation, and they also made a small oolong.

　　When the doctor gave her a physical examination, she found that her legs were a bit strange when she was standing, and her toes kept sticking on the ground for several seconds. Just in case, the follow-up doctor performed her brain MRI for investigation.

　　The results of the examination were all normal, which ruled out the possibility of developmental delay and other diseases. The doctor later found out that she was pulling papa during the examination, so she was on her toes uncomfortably. After careful feeding for a period of time, the height and weight also rose steadily.

　　Huang Limin said frankly, “There must be people who think that we are selfish and give birth to children at such an old age without considering the future of the child. But they can’t feel the pain of our bereavement. Since we gave birth to her, we will definitely give her. Double love makes her grow up healthy. Now, we hope that we can also be healthy and stay with her for a longer time."

　　She used to like to drink small wines, and she has quit completely since she was pregnant. She didn't like to eat vegetables and fruits before, but now she mixes meat and vegetables every day.

　　The first thing Huang Limin had to do after she was completely weaned off her breast milk was to dye her hair black, "Don't embarrass the baby!" She smiled.