They can create embarrassment, sometimes shame, but fantasies are present in the imagination of all of us. On Friday, in the program Sans Rendez-vous ", Doctor Damien Mascret gave his advice to better live with these bubbles of excitement created by our imagination.
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Does everyone have fantasies?
"Everyone has it! Sometimes our brain doesn't want to produce it, in which case the problem can be treated, but sometimes our emotional and sexual life is enough for us. So we don't see why to resort to it. Some have fantasies without knowing it : if you rethink your last sexual intercourse or if you imagine the way your partner is going to caress you, you are fantasizing and fueling your erotic imagination. Sometimes these are fantasies in the form of fragments of scenes, faces, parts of the body.
What is constant with fantasies is that we are often embarrassed by them. We have a fairly extensive education in sexuality. It may even contradict your education or your morals. With the idea that you have of what must happen between two partners, it can be guilty. It can be something that poses a difficulty because you don't know what to do with it: if you are faithful because it is an important value in your relationship and you fantasize about a threesome, or more, then you feel guilty. "
Should we achieve them?
"There is no obligation or prohibition (except that of the law). Also take care not to put yourself in danger! In the case of the fantasy, we control everything ... while in reality it is not. It is not. Do not think that the erotic power of fantasy will run out if you realize it. It is often the fruit of our inner and intimate history, it will not run out. 'exhaust, you will create new ones. What is certain is that we do not choose what excites us. "
Should we share our fantasies with our partner?
“It depends on your partner. He or she needs to understand that it doesn't reflect your identity, your worth as an individual, but only what turns you on and that you haven't chosen it. a fascinating playground to explore between consenting adults but you have to understand if you share someone's fantasy what their dynamics are.
The fantasy can simply be evoked, by small gestures or by words. With them, you activate the phantasmal zone, the erogenous zone in the brain. The moment you say a word, you create something. "