Adversity in life
It is Liu Yuedong's wish to take care of her daughter so that she can always be dependent.
There are so few miracles in the world that Liu Yuedong, 57 years old, has waited for a full 23 years. His daughter is still as pure as a primary school, unable to communicate with the outside world.
Facing the multiple pressures of father and wife suffering from mental illness and daughter's mental disorder, Liu Yuedong held a solid "umbrella" for this stormy home.
Anyone who knows Liu Yuedong says that Brother Liu is a strong person. Whoever encounters the situation in his family, even if he is not overwhelmed by life, is also full of vicissitudes of life, but Liu Yuedong is not like that. He looks neat and neatly dressed. "Life gives me pain, and I report life with a smile." This smile is not reluctant and comes from the heart.
Chongqing Evening News-Upstream News reporter Wang Yufeng intern Ma Yuhan
Daughter intellectual disability
The hour hand is set to the last century.
Liu Yuedong, born in 1963, took part in the work at the High Strength Standard Parts Factory in 1983. In 1986, Liu Yuedong and Ning Wangsha met. They were the best youths and had the greatest passion for work. After two years of getting along, they had the same dream of building a happy family and entered the palace of marriage in 1988.
In 1991, happiness came to this family, daughter Liu Jin was born, which brought a lot of joy to this small family.
But happy days are short. When she was 3 years old, her daughter began to learn to walk. In the same year, she went to kindergarten. The teacher repeatedly found Liu Yuedong and his wife to reflect the abnormal behavior of her daughter.
Until the age of four or five, other children can recite poems, the daughter did not speak to father and mother. Liu Yuedong said: "I thought at the time, whether my baby was a little bit slower than others, so I didn't pay much attention to it."
After entering elementary school, her daughter faced greater challenges. The test scored zero, and there was no friend in the school. With this result, Liu Yuedong began to recall what the kindergarten teacher said. So he took his daughter to the hospital, and was diagnosed with a chromosomal abnormality, which was identified as a third-degree intellectual disability.
Unable to stress wife schizophrenia
"Waer has a problem with intelligence, a problem with intelligence..." Holding this result, Ning Wangsha began to nag. Unable to accept her daughter's illness, she began to talk to herself and lose her temper.
In 1998, his lover, Ning Wangsha, was diagnosed with schizophrenia and was identified as a third-degree mental disability. After being hospitalized for one year, he lost his employability and the unit handled an internal retreat.
In fact, Liu Yuedong's father also suffered from mental illness. My father is also an employee of a high-strength standard parts factory. In normal times, my father can still work. If he is mentally ill, he will quarrel with his colleagues.
How to save this family, Liu Yuedong said that he had no intention to grieve and low, the wife and father's illness was already serious, plus the daughter needs care. "If I'm not strong, who will carry it for me?"
In order to go to work, Liu Yuedong entrusted his wife to her mother for care. Although her daughter had abnormal intelligence, she had a gentle temperament. Liu Yuedong felt that it was also a good thing to go to school to learn some knowledge. So, under the care of Liu Yuedong and his teacher, her daughter completed elementary school and junior high school. Although mathematics is zero, her daughter can read and read.
Go back home to take care of the family
Mother's death in 2012 due to high blood pressure caused a heavy blow to this family.
In dealing with the mother's affairs, the younger sister who married to Wuxi, Jiangsu, hurried back: "Brother, let me take my dad back to Wuxi. You can take care of your sister-in-law and niece."
This walk is 5 years.
In 2017, Liu Yuedong’s unit was relocated to Jiangjin because of the address, and it took 5 hours to go back and forth every day. Since it was indeed too far to go to work, he was unable to take care of his sick wife and daughter. The unit leader took into account his actual situation and handled the retreat for him as appropriate. Since then, he began to take care of his family at home.
As the first step back home, Liu Yuedong planned to take his father back.
"Sister is married to Wuxi, her father is ill, and her condition is average. Tired of me, I will take my father back." Liu Yuedong decided to buy a house with an elevator, and after a long time, he eventually Fancy the house located in Ziwei Nanyuan. "There is an elevator, and going out is the vegetable market, which is cheap."
Liu Yuedong took a fancy to the 9th-floor house in the community, a set of two rooms and one hall. "This set was bought to live for us." In order to take care of his father, he also commissioned an agent to help him choose a room and hall nearer and bought it for his father. Fortunately, one room and one hall on the same floor are for sale. "I sold the old house in the original orchid community and bought the one-bedroom apartment."
The house is ready and my father is back. Living in the new home, he took his father's hand and said, "In the future, we will all live together and never leave again." The 80-year-old father danced with joy like a child.
His schedule is like a spinning top
The 53-year-old brother had no place to live because of the divorce. Liu Yuedong picked up his brother and arranged for him to live with his father. "He sleeps in the living room, his father sleeps in the bedroom, and the father and son can also have a talking companion."
The younger brother has to go out to work during the day, and the responsibility of taking care of his father falls on Liu Yuedong.
At 7 o'clock in the morning, Liu Yuedong got up on time and prepared breakfast for his family, then helped his father to eat breakfast.
After breakfast, Liu Yuedong will exercise on the balcony and stretch his muscles. "One inch long, ten years long, I can only take good care of them alive. I can't fall down." Next, Liu Yuedong will go to the vegetable market to buy a la carte.
"When the weather is good in the afternoon, I will take them out for a walk." So, in Ziwei Nanyuan, everyone can often see a man holding his wife, daughter and father in the sun and walking in the community.
After dinner every day, the family is sitting in the living room watching TV. This time, it belongs to Liu Yuedong.
On the bay window of his daughter’s bedroom, Liu Yuedong built a very warm reading stand, with thick cotton pads, cute bear dolls, and a pillow. Let him sit here, and he can forget his worries for a short time and open the tablet. Check out the news of the day to understand the current hot topics. The twilight in the distance gradually swallowed the light of the day, spreading the night to the world, and also ended Liu Yuedong's day's life.
Character sketch
His strong imagination
Liu Yuedong's home is clean and tidy.
When the community staff visited, his wife Ning Wangsha and her daughter were sitting on the sofa, watching TV quietly, and hearing the knock on the door, Ning Wangsha opened the door for everyone.
"Please come in, please come in, don't take off your shoes." Ning Wangsha was very polite, arranged for the guests to sit down, and slowly retreated to the sofa.
If you don't say too much, you can't see that she is a mentally ill patient. Only from her eyes, she feels a little different. These days, Liu Yuedong is very anxious and his wife's illness is not as stable as that of his father.
The daughter always stood quietly next to her father, watching her father talking, occasionally laughing a bit, the smile was blooming, forgetting the troubles and sorrows.
Liu Yuedong said that for this family, he never thought of giving up. "What should I do if I am not strong? What should I do with my child?" It is because of his strength that he has this family today. Because of insufficient money, he also borrowed 520,000 yuan when buying a house in 2017, and now repays more than 2,000 yuan per month. In order to help his daughter grow old, he bought a pension insurance for his daughter, the pressure of life is relatively high, but never lost confidence in the future. "I hope that by the time I leave, my daughter will get a pension. In this way, my persistence in life will be worth it."
The clock on the wall went forward one minute and one second, like this man's promise to this home. The 23 springs, summers, autumns and winters have never changed. "Now I just hope that I can grow older and take care of them for a longer time." There is no rhetoric. It is this simple and simple language that contains great principles.
Neighborhood Help Community Help
Nowadays, Liu Yuedong's story is spread to the neighborhood's stories, and everyone expresses the greatest respect for Liu Yuedong's persistence and benevolence.
The person in charge of Ziwei Community, Shiqiaopu Street, Jiulongpo District, where he is located, said that after learning about the specific difficulties of their family, the community quickly helped: send condolence funds during the holiday, signed a family doctor and Ning for Liu Yuedong and his lover Wangsha enjoys special assistance for family planning families in accordance with the law (this policy is aimed at the city’s household registration, has not violated family planning laws and regulations and policies, and has no surviving children or one child who has been certified as a third-level disability according to law).
The standard for the aid fund is 8160 yuan per person this year, for a total of 16320 yuan. The community's support for this family continues.