Monday, in "Without appointment", the sexologist Catherine Blanc answered the question of Boris, who realized that he always spoke about sex with his friends but never with his family or his colleagues.

Boris is 38 years old and he frequently talks to friends about his sexual relations. Less with family or colleagues. So he wonders why we only talk about our stories with friends? In  Without appointment , the sexologist Catherine Blanc compares the experience of women vis-à-vis men on this subject and explains why the taboo quickly arrived.

The question of Boris, 38

I realized that I always talked about sex with my friends but never with my family or my colleagues. Why do we only talk about our sex stories with friends?

Catherine Blanc's response

"In fact, talking about family sexuality is mixing fantastical things. As soon as we talk about it there is something crisp. You don't necessarily want to tantalize your family, no more your siblings than your We don't want to know their point of view either, or to seek their agreement either, so there is something a bit childish about wanting to absolutely share your sex life with your family. is like wanting to seek credit, approval, but it’s actually much more cumbersome than anything else. So it’s pretty good that Boris’s not going that way. That doesn’t mean that we can't do it, but it's quite normal that we don't want to.

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Is it rather surprising that it is a boy who asks this question. Isn't it rather the girls who speak of sexuality between girlfriends?

It is potentially a subject for everyone and at the same time for no one. Not all women talk about their sexuality, just like men. These are not all silent on their sexuality. It all depends on the intimacy you have with your friends. It also depends on his sex life. If we are exhibitionist or not, according to our sexual practices, the experience that we have, we will speak or not to have support and try to clear our way quietly.

Don't women go a little deeper than men in details?

Women go more into the details of mechanics. They talk more about their beauty, talking about wrinkles, hair, for example. They speak more easily, which men do not do. Quite naturally, in this slightly playful tone, they will wonder if it hurts or not, if they like it or not, what their partner is doing. Because women open up more to their emotions, their feelings, their disapprovals. While men are much more secret about their emotions, which has hurt them, hurt them, in particular. They want to share less unless they want to roost each other. For a very long time there were many more women who went to confide in shrinks, compared to men who, as long as they were effective in their lives, had no material to tell about.

Where should you put the limit when talking about your sex life to your loved ones?

Exhibiting one's life also means bringing one's intimacy to the other, and it is not easy. It is perhaps a safeguard to which the men take care when the women, they, engage in a very strong sorority, until the moment when they regret it because the girlfriends have a weight of pressure.

Even if you want to indulge in talking as much to the person concerned, more than to their friends?

You are right. But it is often difficult to talk to others about your emotions. Because you never know how it will be received and ultimately lose your love. "