- Fifty-five days of confinement, or even more with a life that has not really returned to normal: what have we learned?
- 20 Minutes asked its readers what they will have learned from this period.
- For most of them, one thing is certain: nothing will really be the same.
A global event, but an intimate experience. The confinement imposed by the coronavirus has literally pushed us to our limits. And forced to some introspection. This unique opportunity to have a “break” in our lives - except obviously for the workers of the first or second line, or the sick… we will have been questioned in our choices. To take stock, 20 Minutes asked its readers: what lessons have you learned from containment? Your answers have proven it, nothing will really be as before.
Many of you talk about questioning your daily routine. "Curiously, the confinement didn't bother me," says Béatrice. I was at home. My daughter had returned, while usually she is in her student room all week. Today I feel serene, slowing down the pace allowed me to take stock and let go of the unnecessary. I was able to please fragile people by going shopping and it did me good too. I would have very well tolerated continuing. "When I get back, I will review my family, health and work priorities ..." explains Bouchra, confined to her, far from her family. "I think I will put things into perspective quite a bit in the event of more or less difficult tests. And stop wasting my time unnecessarily! "
"This confinement will have taught me to listen to myself"
Rediscover meaning, and sometimes rediscover passions. "This confinement allowed me to take stock of my ambitions at the dawn of my entry into a marketing master's degree," says Johanna. In particular, I reconnected with music and started singing lessons again since the deconfinement, something I had put aside for… 10 years! Suddenly, big doubts between living my passion and more "stable" studies which obviously give me much less chills. This confinement will have taught me to listen to myself and my desires, rather than to listen to the opinion of others and what to "do"! "
In two months of confinement, the life of a couple or family has necessarily been tested. For better or for worse ... but often with happiness. “The confinement with my partner went really well. To avoid being too much on top of each other we shifted our sleeps and our alarm clocks history so that each one has his moment all alone, tells John. We also learned a lot, spending two hours 24 hours a day tends to make us think that we are with the right person. ” Lucie says that "finding a loving husband" allowed her to "draw a line under (her) lover".
Rediscover your family, or tame loneliness
Confined with his companion and their two daughters, two and three years old, Audrey believes that she “managed to overcome this period together and came out stronger. There have been more difficult days than others, but overall happy days. "Estelle thinks for her part that confinement," it was more positive than negative ":" Confined two months alone with my 5 year old daughter, I realized how much we did not have time to enjoy each other on a daily basis. It was an opportunity to discover even more, but my patience was put to the test with school at home (even in the middle section, it is complicated not to transpose its requirements on your child). So it confirmed to me the essential role of his mistress, whom I valued already before, but which has gained all its significance since. Nathy, who felt abandoned by the rest of her family, says she "learned tolerance with my two teenage kids." Our next world for the three of us is moving to the countryside, isolating ourselves from the city of noise and pollution. Our next world will be the escape. "
But for those who spent the confinement alone, the solitude was sometimes cruel. “The confinement and the feeling of loneliness that ensued made me definitively realize that I could not henceforth envisage life alone. Being in a couple always helps to better manage these moments, especially when they are accompanied by doubts and uncertainties about the future. So, once we have all returned to life before, I intend to take advantage of all this personal development made during this period, ”says Maxime. “I now see things in a completely different way. I will be more open to others, aware that it is necessary to go ahead to achieve your dreams. "
"I think I learned patience"
Confined alone, Baptiste also took advantage of this time to question part of his life. “This confinement was a real physical and psychological test. I realized that my job was not essential, although I work in solar research. Through this ordeal much less painful than that which went through the medical profession or the families of the deceased, I think I have learned the patience to put things into perspective and I opened up a little to others, since I decided to sponsor a Senegalese child. "
And very concretely, many readers also say they have reviewed their way of consuming. "Learn to make soap, laundry, bread, plan large and otherwise not having to go to the store every three days," says John. "I discovered home delivery of organic baskets of fruit and vegetables, and that, we will continue in our world" according to "," says Clementine. “We have favored small bulk businesses and do our shopping exclusively in drive. We will continue this momentum, consuming more fresh and local products as much as possible, ”says Audrey. “We reflect a little on his life, how we live, I optimized my apartment, I tidied up differently so that it is more practical on a daily basis. It was a good experience for me, despite the context of a global health crisis that was happening outside my home, ”summarizes Leslie.
"A society that gets carried away too much"
Sometimes, in fact, the upheavals of the world paradoxically lead to bringing peace to one's own life, by rediscovering the essentials. "My productivity is better in the apartment than in the office, with less stress," says Anne.
“I discovered that all my stomach aches, my back pain, my migraines, my nervousness were only due to the stress of my daily life, the job, the children, the house, the meetings… compulsive shopping and restaurants were all about keeping you busy, but by no means a necessity! Says Soussou. Would containment have allowed some to discover the keys to well-being? She continues: “I also discovered that nature, calm, were also important because of my desire to one day leave the Parisian suburbs in order to be as close as possible to our mother nature. I also learned to listen better to my children and not to transmit my stress to them. ”
And Mickaël to summarize: “I really understood that I am an anxious person who takes my head for a lot of things and sometimes does not take advantage enough of life which can rock overnight. I do not have enough hindsight, but I think that ultimately this crisis will make humanity evolve in the right direction, it stopped a society that is racing too much. It may have taken a virus and hundreds of thousands of deaths to change society! "
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