In the program "Sans rendez-vous" on Europe 1, Catherine Blanc answers Barbara's question. The latter shares one of her dreams in which she left husband and children behind to go on a trip, exasperated by their presence during confinement. For the sexologist and psychiatrist, we must above all see it as a manifestation of the conflict existing in each of us, between our desires elsewhere and the reality of our responsibilities.
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Barbara's question
"My husband and I are always teleworking, a daily life that is not easy since we also have two children to take care of. The other night, I dreamed that I was in San Francisco, I was having a good time without my husband, I even left my children with a stranger. Could this dream have something to do with the fact that I can no longer bear them? "
Catherine Blanc's response
Barbara's interpretation of her own dream means that there is some truth in it. Dreams are the consequence of our worries but also the revealer of our desires deemed "illegitimate". Here, the dream also denotes a desire to travel and to overcome certain constraints.
Are dreams the means to create another reality?
"Dreams are always an outlet, it allows us not to be in the savagery of our lives", explains Catherine Blanc, adding: "Our dreams are there to say loud and clear, to live intensely, to offer the taste of travel. " It is a way of escaping the "savagery" of our lives.
Does this call into question the solidity of the couple?
Catherine Blanc prefers to compare Barbara's desire to that of a "teenage girl": "a need to return to a time when there was no responsibility". But this erasure of constraints is only temporary. "By dint of denying too much, at some point we rebel," poses the sexologist. "While being able to say 'at the moment it is not bearable' [...] it has the merit of allowing everyone to express themselves."
Should Barbara express her resentment?
Faced with the unbearable nature of her daily life, Barbara must ask herself: "What should I do so that it is no longer unbearable?" She may also have worked to lock her up and to create this feeling of permanent insecurity. She must be able to balance, "so that others are no longer solely responsible."