A woman in a dark red knitted dress and a mask covered her nose with a folding fan, lowered her voice, and asked a man who passed by, seemingly inadvertently asking, "Is your brother or sister?" "Sister "" There was a flash of light in the woman's eyes: "Come and talk."
In the Chongqing dialect, "brother" and "sister" mean son and daughter, respectively. As soon as the epidemic situation improved, Hongyadong ’s “parental blind date” due to the epidemic situation resumed “ca n’t wait”. Starting from this month, every Saturday morning, hundreds of parents spontaneously came to the city balcony on the top floor of Hongya Cave to be busy for their children's life-long events.
Someone has been here for four years
Have "experienced" experience
"Look at the middle-aged and elderly people who are smartly dressed, with clean shoes and hair, and speak well, so most children are also good. If they have a" handle ", their ability to express is not good, I generally talk about two sentences Will leave for reasons. "
"Male, 32 years old, 1.72 meters, bank employee, monthly income of 10,000, stable personality, want to find under 33 years old, height above 1.6 meters ..." "Female, graduated from famous university in 1987, accountant, gentle and generous ..."
On Saturday morning, the crowd on the balcony of Hongyadong city was full of people. The middle-aged and elderly people in different dresses showed short numbers and words. Similarly, the eyes above the mask showed the look of the period wings.
Most of them use A4 paper to print out the materials and put them in a conspicuous position. Some rest on the umbrella surface, some are held in the hands, and some are even fixed on the chest with pins.
Only a few words describe his sweetheart.
Others didn't take the information, but kept walking in the crowd, looking at the men and women around them with sharp eyes to determine whether the other's children might become the other half of their children.
It is the age, occupation, personality, and image of the parents that most people judge.
"Waer is not small, he will not give up until he is married." Zhang Qingfang, who was laid off from an old state-owned enterprise in Chongqing, was the "dating angle" for the fourth year, looking for the son of a clerical worker in a cultural media company. "He is usually busy at work, except for colleagues in the company, the contact surface is very narrow, where to find? After all, there are everyone here, there is always a chance to meet the right."
Zhang Qingfang pulled out a bag of buns from the bag, "I came from Dadukou, I didn't have time to have breakfast, come early to occupy a better position." She said "good position" is a flower stand next to the Zhang Peijue monument, width Just let her sit down firmly.
"I think this form is very real. Parents are present, you can quickly understand it by talking more. By the way, you have never seen the" New Date of Blind Date "(variety show) of Jiangsu Satellite TV. This is the real version of" "New Age of Blind Dates." Zhang Qingfang grinned and told reporters about her blind date experience. "Look at the middle-aged and elderly people who are well-dressed, have clean shoes and clean hair, and speak well, so most children are also good. If the kind of "handle" is not good, I usually leave after just a few words. "
An old man across the street came to her and talked to her: "Your son minds finding a short one. My daughter is very good, but short."
"No problem! What is the specific situation of my sister?" Zhang Qingfang quickly put the half-eaten buns back in the bag, stood up and talked with the old man.
Don't tell the child to blind date
Worry they won't accept
"I wouldn't tell him how I met him." In the parental blind date, he had "harvested" three girls who were satisfied with the conditions. When he introduced his son, they all said "children of acquaintances."
"Don't shoot!" Facing the camera, some old people quickly blocked their faces, even if they were wearing masks, they seemed somewhat repulsive.
At first, parents thought that the reporter had been on a blind date, and they showed great enthusiasm. However, after showing their identities, many parents would come to question their eyes, shake their heads, and express their reluctance to be interviewed.
"The children are all in their thirties and they are still alone. As traditional Chinese parents, this may not be a glorious thing ..." Uncle Ning, who lives in Chuqimen, Yuzhong District, explained to parents who did not want to be interviewed. Pulling the mask up a bit, "My baby knew I was helping him find a target, and he would certainly be willing, but ..." After hesitating for a second, he continued, "I won't tell him why Way of knowing. "In the corner of a parental blind date, he" harvested "three girls with relatively satisfactory conditions. When he introduced his son, they all said" children of acquaintances. "
In many children's data, almost the last phone left is the parents. The "process" of this blind date corner is: parents first understand each other's situation, screen it once, look at it, and then introduce it to their children.
Most of the parents interviewed said that they would not tell their children to come to this "blind date", worrying that they would not accept it. "I don't think it's okay. I'll check it out first and then introduce it to the children. It's not a big problem." Ms. Feng, a retired from Chongqing Paper Research Institute, said that usually her daughter asked her how she met and told her that she was introduced by a senior college student. of.
Ms. Feng smiled bitterly, "The children themselves are not in a hurry, but parents, I hope she can get married soon." She said that fewer and fewer "resources" her friends of this generation could introduce to each other It is also a bit shy to listen to other people's recommendation and come to the "Parent Blind Corner". Now I can talk to other parents, and I have become friends with several peers who often meet each other, and often talk about their children on WeChat.
"After a long time, it seems that it has become a spiritual sustenance. I can't come during the epidemic and feel quite unaccustomed." She sighed.
Most parents of "post-80s"
The parents of "after 95" also came
Do you know what kind of partner your child likes? "Of course I am a fucking mother. Of course I know. And to be honest, it's enough to find a condition that is equivalent. Where can they be entirely up to them?"
"Your daughter is still 'after 95', so she's in a hurry to find it!" "Hey, 25 years old is not too small! The children of her classmates will all shout to be mothers!" There are several uncles in front of a father who is looking for her daughter. She looked around the data with interest.
"Now young people, if they are not in a hurry to find young people, someone will pick you up in a few years." The 56-year-old father of Chen surnamed said with a long heart. He just retired last year, and the most passionate thing in daily life is to help his daughter find a boyfriend. He breaks his finger and counts the time: it takes a year or two to find a boyfriend, a year or two of falling in love, and he was almost 30 when he got married, just right. He believes that the pressure of modern society is increasing, and the probability of finding the right half will be lower and lower if they are not married earlier.
According to the information displayed on the scene, most of the children whose parents are blind dated belong to the "post-80s", and there are also some "post-95s" and "post-70s".
"I used to think that the 'post-80s' are still very young, and now the children are all in their 30s. We are so anxious that we can't sleep well at night." Zhang Qingfang said.
Do you know what kind of partner your child likes? Faced with this problem, some parents were startled, "Of course I am a mother, of course I know. And to be honest, it is enough to find a condition that is equivalent. Where can they be entirely by themselves?" Aunt Zhen Zhen, a surnamed Chu , She said that she had helped her son to find 4 girls, and there were 3 who met. They are all quite big. "She was not discouraged and continued to insist on the" blind date "every week.
Scenic area: No support, no objection, it is recommended not to gather during the epidemic
Some parents complained that they were driven away by security guards here, and they were not allowed to blind date for their children here.
Near the "Blind Blind Corner", the Hongyadong Scenic Area did hang out a notice that "It is forbidden to gather during the epidemic", and there were security guards maintaining order at the scene.
Security Master Xu said: After all, the epidemic has not passed yet. Such large-scale gatherings are not good. "Actually, the relevant departments have also dissuaded them, but they still get together. They can understand that they are eager for their children's life-long events, but they still hope to do well. The protective measures are best to wait for the epidemic to pass. "
The staff of Hongyadong Scenic Area said that this “parental blind date” had existed for at least six or seven years, and it was organized spontaneously by the people. During the outbreak of the new crown epidemic this year, it was interrupted. As the epidemic improved, parents began to gather again, about the second week after May. Every Saturday morning, these parents will come to Hongyadong, when there are more than three or four hundred people, when there are few people there are one or two hundred people.
The staff said that the parents had gathered in Hongyadong to form a "blind date". In this regard, the attitude of the scenic spot is neither support nor objection, and hope everyone observes the order and civilized blind date. However, during the epidemic, there are hidden safety hazards in the "stacking", so the security guards will indeed intervene, but with little effect.
It is understood that this spontaneously formed "parental blind date" was originally on the first floor of the Hongyadong scenic spot. During the epidemic, the scenic spot was controlled, and the old people temporarily "fought" to the city balcony on Cangbai Road.
Ms. Jiang, who came to look for her daughter, believes that there are more and more single young people now, and it has become a common social problem. She hopes to get more people ’s attention. After all, this blind date corner provides us with more opportunities, it is best to have a fixed place where parents can do this for a long time. "
Chongqing Morning News · Upstream News Reporter Ji Wenling
(Due to respecting the opinions of the parties, some of the characters involved are pseudonyms)