The client of Chinanews.com, Beijing, April 8 (Reporter Shangguanyun) "There are hundreds of miles of different winds and thousands of miles of different customs." This phrase is often used to describe different places with different customs.
A few days ago, # 最 不懂 的 地方 风俗 # has become a hot topic on Weibo. Among the various local customs that are most incomprehensible by netizens, the bottomless behavior of "marriage" or "marriage" takes the front row. It caused a heated discussion: making a bridesmaid, making a bride, or deliberately designing a hug between the bride and the father-in-law at the wedding banquet, embarrassing the viewer.
How to stop these uncivilized vulgar behaviors?
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Abuse the bridegroom, make trouble with the bridesmaids ...
Making trouble is a custom of marriage. However, in recent years, some of the wedding customs that are similar to "brother-in-law" continue to appear in news reports, and a good wedding has become a farce.
On November 22, 2009, Zeng Fanwang, a young man from Meitan County, Zunyi City, Guizhou Province, was about to marry a bride. However, on the way to the relatives, the noisy marriage friend splashed paint on him, and then the accident occurred. The young man was burnt and nearly killed.
In 2013, a case of molesting bridesmaids in Tai'an City, Shandong Province attracted widespread attention: 16-year-old girl Gao Mou acting as a bridesmaid for a friend was molested while "making a bridesmaid". Since then, Gao Mou has been greatly hit, and he has repeatedly tried to commit suicide.
In February 2018, the "performance" of the "grandpa kisses the bride" that took place at a wedding site in Yancheng, Jiangsu Province, caused an uproar on the Internet, and many netizens condemned this marriage custom.
In this regard, some people have summarized several types of inferior marriage behaviors: abuse, tossing the groom; molesting the bride or bridesmaid; new parents are required to pretend to be ugly, travel the street ... In addition, there are bad habits that prevent the wedding car from forcibly asking for cigarettes, red envelopes, Very frustrating.
"Noisy marriage" was also a bad habit in ancient times
It is worth noting that in the above-mentioned various "noisy marriages", some people always justify them in the name of "traditional customs". Is it really the truth?
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Public information shows that in China, the behavior of "marriage" is believed to be traced back to the Han dynasty. There is a saying that its appearance stems from the ancient people's desire to exorcise evil and avoid disaster.
Another view is that in ancient times, newly-married men and women often lacked pre-marital communication. In the custom of marriage, people appropriately embarrass the bride and groom. The atmosphere is more lively, and they can familiarize them as soon as possible and ease the tension of the couple.
"Noisy marriages have been recorded in" Hanshu "and were recorded as bad habits from the beginning." Folklore scholar Wang Juan introduced that there were quite a few bad "noisy marriages" in ancient times, and even caused deaths.
In the Tang Dynasty, "Youyang Miscellaneous · Li Yi" records: "Lv You Jia marries, B and C play a game together. There is a cabinet next to it, which is more like a prison. "Salary." It is said that the behavior of "Prohibition of Marriage" of Party B and Party C is too excessive, resulting in the death of groom A, and the two were also sentenced to "ghost salary".
Take multiple measures to rectify the marriage and stereotypes
It must be noticed that in recent years, a series of measures directly pointing to the bad customs of marriage have been introduced one after another. Directly pointing to the stereotypes in marriage and funeral marriages have achieved good results in changing customs.
In March 2018, the Office of Jiangsu Yancheng Spiritual Civilization Construction Committee issued a notice for the wedding industry, requesting to strengthen the training and supervision of wedding ceremonies and program actors, and guide them to effectively fulfill their responsibilities of "advocating civilized weddings and resisting stereotypes."
In December 2018, according to CCTV News, the Ministry of Civil Affairs requested to encourage and promote traditional weddings, and actively advocate and organize the holding of collective weddings, commemorative weddings, charity weddings, etc. with elegant style, rich connotation, outstanding characteristics, and civilized frugality. Wedding form. Oppose the use of marriage to accumulate wealth, resist unfair practices such as sky-high price gifts, extravagance and waste, vulgar marriages, and competing with others, and promote the improvement of the social atmosphere.
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In May 2019, it was reported that the seven departments of Xin County, Shandong Province issued a notice prohibiting public places such as roads, squares and other public places in the city, such as using tape to tie the groom to trees or telephone poles, pouring beer, pouring soy sauce, and smashing eggs , And play all kinds of indecent roles, do weird actions and other wedding behaviors.
Evil customs cannot pretend to be "customs"
Put an end to the vulgar marriage habits, while strengthening the system and rules, while reversing people's values is also the meaning of the question.
In fact, some of the bad habits in "marriage marriage" can be spread to the present. The crux of the problem is the influence of traditional cultural dross components, as well as the low civil qualities of the marital couples and the lack of legal awareness.
In addition, in many bad habits similar to "noisy marriage", people often think that the wedding is a festive occasion. Some "noisy marriage" acts to add a lively atmosphere, not willing to investigate the perpetrators, which is a disguise of vulgar behavior. Pamper.
Wang Juan said that because of the long-term accumulation, people have regarded the inappropriate behavior of "noisy marriage" as a custom. Although they are unhappy, they will choose to endure most of the time. To change this understanding is actually a change in values.
Therefore, as far as individuals are concerned, it is not a custom worth advocating to recognize the harm caused by the evil behavior of "marrying marriage"; do not use evil as a small one, and combine your own moral civilization construction with rules and regulations to prevent marriage. Say no.
The good news is that from the criticisms caused by the bad habits of "marrying marriage", the public's tolerance for this kind of ugliness is getting lower and lower. The establishment of a good society and folk customs may be in the near future. (Finish)