Confined, Jade feels more and more the need to contact his ex-companion, but is afraid of making a mistake. Tuesday, in "Without appointment", the psychologist Catherine Blanc considers that it is normal, in this period of confinement and uncertainty for the future, to take stock of her life and to rethink our past relationships.

By modifying our social lives, confinement has also reshuffled the cards of romantic relationships. And for some, the loneliness created by the obligation to stay at home can lead them to want to find refuge in the past. This is the case of Jade, who confides his temptation to recall an ex-lover. Tuesday, in Without appointment, the sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc gave him his advice.

Jade's question

After two weeks of confinement, I am tempted to call my ex back. I hold back, but I feel like I'm going to crack. I'm afraid of making a mistake, what should I do?

Catherine Blanc's response

When we are in a situation like that of confinement and of the coronavirus, which poses the question of the end of a time or of a future which does not resemble what we have known, comes a moment when we more willingly takes stock of what has been important to you, people who have been important in our lives.

In normal times, we often think about our life before, without having the leisure to contact people we think about. When it comes to an ex, there may be some guilt, because one might think that calling him would be proof of insecurity. While there, it is a time of development with oneself, and quite legitimately, we think back to our life, since we do not know what will be tomorrow, and the ex are part of it.

" We need to feel that we exist in the desire of others "

Of course, in the case of Jade, this desire to recall his ex can be caused by the loneliness due to confinement. Perhaps the people who are important to her can be counted on the fingers of one hand. And the need for tenderness, to count for someone, is essential. We need to feel that we exist in the eyes and the desire of others. So, the ex can be the one we are going to think of in the first place.

Beyond the ex, I see families who reconnect when their relationships were damaged because of anecdotal things. This period can be an opportunity to reconsider relationships that have been abused a little or quickly settled, rather than always looking for something new. We must not succumb to consumption for consumption, and favor the maintenance of relationships.