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How times have changed! This year, at Christmas dinners we talk about multiorgasms and suctions, but not about shrimp heads or barnacles (which too), but about clitoris.

As a sexologist, I think it's great that something as healthy as sexuality and pleasure is part of the Christmas menu. And all this surprises me very little, considering that I have always sung picantones carols with my grandmother as a companion .

But maybe you have noticed the change in the table talks. To that brother-in-law commenting that it is not so much that little machine, although he reveals the fear that his wife is given with one: "He will leave me!", He shouts. While she smiles and apostille: "Do not believe yourself, it does not replace you at all, honey. You do very different 'services'!"

And it seems that this charming device is going to take over all the pleasure in the world. As if he were to become the main protagonist of female orgasms . But I am sorry to inform you that the suckers are not the 'kings' . And look I'm very erotic projuguetería, but someone had to say it.

THE 'AUTHOR' OF FEMALE PLEASURE

When we talk about the origin of pleasure in women we usually associate it with someone or something. Speaking in silver, the person responsible for our orgasms is another and not us, a totally wrong thesis.

Well, the same goes for sex toys: although it facilitates and that is undeniable, if there is no predisposition and a little bit of self-knowledge, no miracle will work by itself .

Just as we believe in destiny or the better half and cheat ourselves, magic thinking is also linked to expectations about suckers . However, these inventions do not do therapy or change our sexuality by magic. If you have a hard time reaching orgasm or you have never achieved it, a sucker may not be what you need.

Although they can facilitate you to reach the climax in record time, there are pros and cons . Like you can make good use or a nefarious one.

In fact, detractors have already appeared ensuring that the clitoris was atrophied, an issue that I do not share .

It is also said that it provides rapid orgasms when the beauty of sexuality is the way and not the goal. There I can agree although, sometimes, what is wanted is something fast, stressful and that does not get tired or involve much time. What's wrong with that? With or without toys, we have the right to 'a quickie'.

Will it generate dependence , we will need more stimulation every time and we will not be able to reach orgasm in any other way? No, do not worry. The same would happen with any other device, if we get used to a single stimulation, even with the hand or sexual posture. We will impoverish our sexuality .

Historically, female sexual desire has generated fears. For this reason, either its existence is denied or the negative of satisfying it is shown, it is not going to be that, being desires and owners of their pleasures (without intercourse), women do not want to relate to anything other than their sex toys. The myths generated, the erroneous information and the scarce sexual education impel us to fear our autoerotism . But don't do it, just use them properly, like everything in life.

A robot does not replace skin, communication and human warmth . Nor has a brain, so important in any sexual relationship. And it is precisely our brain, the cause of all the pleasures we imagine .

ARE THERE BETTER TOYS?

Do not make an altar to the sucker, or despise it because it has not worked for you. Luckily, there are many other great toys, as well as very diverse sexual organs, from the brain and genitals. Therefore, each woman will have to discover which ones she prefers.

Here are my five proposals for this new year:

1. Suckers fused with vaginal or g-spot stimulation. You may like another type of stimulation, beyond the clitoris, or that stimulates it indirectly. Try Satisfyer Pro G-Spot Rabbit.

2. If you pass suctions and want to know your g-spot , hit the best seller GIGI de LELO. It seems harmless, but be prepared.

3. If yours is oral sex. Don't miss VOLTA or VOLITA from Fun Factory. Awesome.

4. A hands free to stimulate the clitoris . It has EVA II from Dame Products.

5. Body massager. Because pleasure is not only genital, I recommend a microphone vibrator like Libid Toys Wanderful to enjoy the 'slow sex'.

Ana Sierra is a sexologist.

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