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The first installation in a two-person apartment may be synonymous for some low libido. Martin and his companion pay the price. For six months, date of their move, they do not make love more than once a month, at best. The situation worries the young man. In the show Sans Rendez-Vous on Europe 1, Catherine Blanc, sexologist and psychiatrist, answers the question of this listener.
The question of Martin, 25 years old
"I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two years, but since we moved in together six months ago, we've become an older couple, we have sex at least monthly, and I think that's little and it weighs me, is it normal? "
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Catherine Blanc's answer
"They settle in the proper and figurative sense of the term: in a routine, in a functioning, in a security.As long as we are not together, we are always in the risk of not knowing where is the other What does the other do, what does he think of me? Sexuality is a way to reweave the link, to check in. Once one is settled together, one may tend to postpone or ten days later, because finally we also enjoy cooking together, watching a movie.Sexuality is not necessarily the link.
Yet, at 25, we are still a young couple?
The desire to make a couple, to be like grown-ups, is at all ages. You can be 25 years old and be an old couple. I was very surprised when the term couple arrived in the mouths of teenagers. A priori, it is an adult term. Martin and his companion are 25 years old and think that the couple is no longer a story of sexuality.
In male homosexual couples, this problem is observed even more. Often male homosexual sex is more trendy sex, setting aside the relationship. Since the relationship is official it can be lost. To settle together is to secure oneself, and that's fine. Nevertheless, if you consider yourself 25 years old as an old couple, you are likely to go elsewhere, to experience his youth, his sexuality, his manhood. You have to be careful enough.
Once a month it may not seem like much, what is the good rhythm?
Once a month, it's true that it's not a lot. But what is worrying is that it can become a real issue in the male homosexual universe. Because the others make love all the time, that they are in search of a new partner, that they want to try this or that position. By comparison, this will become too little and a real problem. If not in the absolute, once a month for six months for example, if we are busy decorating, or invite people to inaugurate his new apartment, finally we can also say that there is no worries.
How to revive?
They must realize that they have settled down now, so they have things to offer each other. They can reflect on the organization of surprises, expectations, winks during the day so as not to fall asleep. Maybe they have met to shelter each other and so it works well. But if the question is put, it is that on one side it is not acceptable very long. "