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Swinging is when two couples, or more, will exchange their partner for a night. But what if, despite the desire of his or her partner, one does not wish it yourself? In Sans Rendez-Vous, the sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc gives her point of view on the question.
The question of Marine
"I have been married for 9 years, but in recent months, my husband wants to swing, I do not really want to but he insists, I feel I'm not enough. that he is cheating on me if I continue to refuse, what should I do? "
Catherine Blanc's answer
"It's complicated because our society offers us a sex life extremely animated, a happy erotic life, with multiple colors, inventive, creative.But it is because it lacks creation that we will seek in the common places One of them is that the idea of discovering other partners without losing his or hers is very exciting. There is something exciting about feeling that your partner might be happy with someone else, seeing them or seeing them in someone else's arms. has something masochistic and cruel about it, but sexual fantasies are too. "
Is not it just a way of being able to deceive, but with the support of the other? If Marine refuses, does not her husband risk going elsewhere?
"That's what Marine fears, and it's that fear that makes a lot of women give in. They say, 'I may be stuck, a bit rigid.' But the problem is that There is not a certain excitement, there is a risk of hurting each other, since we risk finding ourselves as offered to another, which refers to an idea of prostitution, we risk finding ourselves compared to another , or even attend an official unauthorized infidelity, which we could not complain any more, since we accepted it. "
If she says yes, does not she risk feeling competing with the other girls?
The idea of competition exists in life in general, and there it is even supposed to be the source of excitement. She can afford incredible stuff because she wants to win over the other, but also feel completely devalued and damaged by this rivalry. I believe that in sexuality we can not know in advance what we will be able to do, but we can know what scares us or hurts us, in which case we protect ourselves from it, of course. "