Wednesday, in the show "Without appointment", the sexologist Catherine Blanc responds to a listener who wonders if it is serious not to be uninhibited under the duvet.

Are we more inhibited than we think? This question can arise when a partner offers us a new or surprising experience, which we are not used to. On Wednesday, at the microphone of Mélanie Gomez in Sans rendez-vous, the Europe health show 1, the psychoanalyst and sexologist Catherine Blanc explains why one can be inhibited under the duvet.

The question of Mickaël, 32 years old

I met a girl lately. At the time of acting, she stopped to go to get two sex toys in her bag. I have nothing against these accessories, but at that moment I felt bad. I had the feeling of being denied. Will I be more inhibited than I think?

Catherine Blanc's answer

Indeed, he felt castrated. She went to find something to satisfy herself, to be a source of excitement. She sent him back the idea that what he contained, his own penis, did not have to be interesting enough. He felt castrated, which we can fully understand.

Why does this girl have this idea?

It is a little lack of mediatization of the intimate life. After having denied the sexuality of the couple, today it is put on the public square, directed, put in image. People dare no longer be in the discovery of the relationship to each other and feel the need to show that they are well versed in modern practices. It's a little plumber's case.

Are sex toys not more for "old couples"?

This is true for some, who will try to put a little spice and insecurity. Some are a little caricatural in their way of functioning, because they come into too much doubt with themselves and with the capacity of their own sex. They come with a battery of things to offer to each other. But, suddenly, my doubt about me back on my partner, which becomes negligible amount, which is deleterious in the relationship.

Being caught by surprise also played?

It's pretty directive. He was only there to manipulate the craft, rather than bring his penis to him. The question is not to say 'it's good or it's not good', but what does it come to do when it's beyond the relationship. The sex toy becomes the object of delight, and the partner is interchangeable.

Is Mickael more inhibited than he thinks?

It may be more, in the sense that people think they can do anything, but in the face of reality it's different. Obviously it's one thing to have an intellectual openness, it's another to meet sexuality in the intimacy of a relationship. Yes we have modesty, and fortunately. If we did not have modesty, it would completely lose its charm. It takes enough modesty to play the jostle gently.