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Pornography has been able to give some men many complex about their manhood, spreading an idea of the standard meter sometimes far from the common man. As if the intensity of the pleasure given to his partner was necessarily correlated with the size. Thursday, in Sans Rendez-Vous , the show Health Europe 1, the psychoanalyst and sexologist Catherine Blanc explains what lies behind this concern all male.
The question of Olivier, 38 years old
"Since I was young I have been complex about the size of my sex My partners have never seemed to be bothered and never blamed me, but for me, revealing my anatomy has always been a torture. medical advice, there is nothing to complain about, but I can not get that idea out of my head, what do you think? "
Catherine Blanc's answer
"This question reflects a great deal of doubt about oneself.If everything is normal for the medical profession, it is because Olivier has no micropenis, which moreover concerns only a very small proportion of This is a subjective idea, which is a reading of the self and its value.The penis being external and measurable, it is often on these points, which tell the power of the masculine and the feminine as the breast in women, that we strive to measure the extent of our power and our capacity.
Is there an ideal size to give pleasure to his partner?
The female sex being a virtual cavity, which will take the form of what penetrates it, even if the penis of Olivier would be very small, it would return normally and touch the edges. The length of a vagina is quite short, only five centimeters. So feeling the depth of the vagina, and especially the cervix, is no problem regardless of the size of the penis.
A patient told me one day, speaking of a man with whom she discovered for the first time in her life, at age 37, enjoyment: 'And yet, he does not have an extraordinary penis.' She said she had very well-hung men, and finally the pleasure was not done on that side.
How to explain that the size of the penis turns to the obsession in some men?
In the case of Olivier, it is probably less of a body story than a psychological story on which he has every interest to think. We must try to understand the reasons that make him have a vision so devalued of himself. There may be some very humiliating things experienced in childhood, such as the violence that has been experienced, that has made the bed of an anxiety that has grown.
To build oneself as a man requires to feel legitimate and, according to our personal stories, we do not all have the same reading of ourselves. As long as he had a big, strong, tyrannical, crushing father, a young man would have difficulty constructing an idea of his own capacity, of the own strength he attributes to his penis because it is the organ that symbolizes virility.
There are men who are able to do things that are not respectful of their bodies, to go as far as mutilation to try to lengthen their penis. Surely, surgery is capable of fantastic things, but before embarking on it, making peace with your body is still the best way to build and move forward in a relationship. "