• 37% of the population declares that their intimate life is improvable, while one in 10 people classifies it as "boring"

According to a survey on sexual satisfaction, with a sample of more than 10,000 people worldwide, carried out by LELO - the renowned brand of luxury erotic toys -, the quality of sexual intercourse globally is quite alarming.

37% of the population declares that their intimate life is improvable , while one in 10 people classifies it as "boring".

Although the picture is discouraging, hope is the last thing lost. So here are my four proposals to reignite the flame and say goodbye to boredom.

1. Keep the desire alive

Loss of desire may result from lack of interest in sexual relations with the other person. For this reason, many couples break with the passage of time .

The natural thing is that the levels of sexual desire in a couple are variable over time due to different factors, such as age, stress or family and professional issues.

During the early stages of the relationship, thanks to the powerful attraction between the two, there is usually a high frequency of affective and sexual relationships. However, over the years, this decreases and could be one of the signs that indicate that sex as a couple is boring.

But this does not mean that physical attraction and sexual desire cannot be kept alive. The initial activation can continue to nourish those small doses of care, such as attention, looks, caresses or kisses, which we can maintain or incorporate into the relationship.

Taking care of the physique or having a positive attitude, for example, also contribute to preserve that charm and attractiveness.

2. Build your sexuality and relationships

We have been told that sexuality and relationships are one way and some have believed it. This causes us to generate enough frustration or boredom to live with someone who does not conform to what "puts us", and not only sexually, but in the emotional and relational field.

Getting to know each other is the key to finding or building the relationships we want and being able to enjoy sexuality as we like.

Maybe at first we know certain people who are not 100% our prototype, but that's great. Rigidity is never a good companion and relationships are built on both sides.

Neither your partner nor you have to adapt to the other in its entirety. The difference also adds up.

Seduce, negotiate, reach agreements and learn from each other is an adventure, sometimes complicated but very enriching on a personal, sexual level and as a couple.

And if, after trying, you are aware that the relationship no longer brings you or that you have to turn the page, go ahead.

Remember that monogamy is a social construction and the mission, in this case, is to build healthy relationships that contribute.

But, attention, jumping from relationship to relationship, to crazy, although it is very respectable and perhaps funny, can hide some fear of opening in depth or, simply, that you are not made to be in a monogamous relationship. It is not bad and there are other options. Research where you want to locate yourself and enjoy.

3. Sexual creativity

The variety brings new elements that provide extra pleasure and eroticism to the encounter . Sex in the bedroom does not have to be boring, but if it is only practiced in the room, it can be, according to the study by LELO. Maintaining sex in different places such as the bathroom, the living room, the terrace or the kitchen, break the monotony.

The inclusion of new elements, such as erotic toys, also prevents intimate relationships from decaying. In fact, " more than 90% of couples declare to use erotic products , either occasionally or recurrently," says the toy brand.

The same thing happens with sexual positions . Repeating the same positions has devastating effects on excitement and desire, so it is essential to vary and expand the range of possibilities.

And, of course, consider that sexual purpose is intercourse or penetration, will generate, in the long run, enough sexual difficulties.

4. Communication to power

Expressing what it feels like and transmitting how we live our sexuality with the couple is a very important factor in not falling into the routine and living our relationships with joy and desire.

Communicating properly with the couple is not just talking about sex or making known our tastes, which are changing over time, but also beneficial.

Use nonverbal communication, through looks and more sensual body language, to increase levels of attraction and desire.

ANA SIERRA is a sexologist.

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