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Luc is with his new girlfriend for a month. When reporting, the young woman has no orgasm. Luc wonders if this is normal, while his previous girlfriend had regular orgasms. What can he do to fix it? Catherine Blanc, sexologist and psychoanalyst, responds Monday in "No Appointment", the health show Europe 1.
Is this a normal situation?
His girlfriend is right. It sometimes takes time, a peaceful relationship, to stop looking at each other, to observe oneself to find in oneself the delights of sexuality and coitus. His speech is perfectly legitimate. That being so, Luc is 23 years old and he thinks that it is enough to penetrate a woman to provoke the jouissance. But he forgets that things are a bit more complicated than that. Indeed, his previous companion had already made a journey and found content to enjoyment in his connection to him. It's hard for a woman to be silent, because her first concern is to worry her partner who would think he would not be a good lover.
Does a man really have a way to know for sure if his mate simulates?
He can not know it. Enjoyment is very intimate. Men, they know when they are excited, since they see their erections. They are in a world of evidence. Men want, quite legitimately, to know if it works for their partner. If a woman is silent, they can tell themselves that they are bad. Pornographic films have greatly damaged this image, since they have given a single model of enjoyment. The enjoyment can be a delightful inner thrill, of incredible depth and without making noise. Do not look for dilated pupils, breasts that contract ... Look for each our pleasure.
Should Luc remember his old partner, to know if she really had orgasms?
No, anyway she will say yes unless they have left on bad terms. It must be said that most women discover and experience orgasm around 40 years. Often, a woman worries that it does not come right away. As a result, she is too much in conversation with her partner and has trouble receiving her own pleasure.