The seven-day National Day holiday has also become the "golden wedding week."
What is the starting price for attending the wedding party now?
"Usually starting at 500 yuan, if the relationship is good, you may not be able to get a thousand yuan with gifts." Mr. Wang, who attended 6 weddings in 7 days, said with a wry smile, he felt a little distressed about his wallet, "I have been there for half a month during the National Day holiday. Salary."
Not only is the gift money rising, the diamond rings and wedding banquets used for marriage proposals are all expensive. Young people sigh, whether it is a marriage or a wedding, it is very expensive!
【Proposal】
Ceremony costs, diamond rings are quite expensive
Young people care about the sense of ceremony, not only to have a wedding, but also to propose a unique and romantic marriage.
During the National Day holiday, Xiaoshuai set up a romantic proposal ceremony and proposed to his girlfriend who had been in love for three years.
Xiaoshuai rented a guest house in Tongzhou to decorate the venue, and ordered 500 balloons, 365 flowers, and 200 lanterns from the Internet.
"The layout and shooting of the venue were all helped by friends. I ordered a whole lamb, bought some drinks, and the proposal was over, and everyone had a party." Xiaoshuai said, the cost of venue, props and catering alone has exceeded 5,000 yuan.
However, this is still a small amount of money.
The biggest expense for Xiaoshuai’s proposal was the one-carat diamond ring he bought for his girlfriend. This ring cost more than 100,000 yuan.
"Diamonds under one carat are called'broken diamonds'. Girls, they always look good and care more about these." Xiaoshuai said, scratching his head, "If it weren't for a marriage proposal, I don't know how diamond rings are. Be careful. The color is divided into 23 grades from D to Z from colorless to light yellow. If it is a pink diamond, the price is higher."
What's more difficult to calculate the price is the help of friends.
Just arranging the venue, Xiaoshuai was busy with his friends for more than 5 hours.
"The renderings look very simple, but the actual operation is really not easy." A friend who came to help murmured while studying the balloons.
On the renderings, dozens of balloons were tied together to form a shape of love. The merchant said it would be completed in an hour, but five people worked on the manual for half an hour, and they couldn’t figure out how to tie the centimeter-sized balloons together. In the end, only double-sided tape can be used to glue the balloons together.
"If you hire a professional team, we will be relaxed, but it will cost a few thousand yuan." Xiaoshuai said, the feeling of friends assisting in the marriage proposal is still warmer.
【Suggest】
Happiness is not the size of the diamond ring
Does it really cost so much money and energy to propose?
On social platforms, a blogger who is engaged in marriage proposal planning suggested-do what you can, whether the marriage is happy or not, is not the size of the diamond ring.
"A diamond ring is a good choice for marriage proposal, but it is not the only choice." The blogger said that if the budget is limited, he can discuss with his fiancee and buy a pair of ordinary rings for the time being. There is nothing to be embarrassed about.
In this blogger's opinion, the key to a marriage proposal and wedding is to express the true feelings.
He has done a lot of money-saving marriage proposal ceremonies for his friends. He chooses the living room at home as a free venue, buys props online, assists in the decoration of relatives and friends, and chooses ordinary rings instead of diamond rings. It is also unique and romantic. "It didn't cost much, and now these couples They are also very happy."
Teacher Tao Tao, the founder of the non-profit blind date platform "Tao Give Love", also does not recommend young people to be too extravagant and wasteful in marriage proposals and weddings. It’s hard to guarantee that you can put on plastic wrap for your feelings.” He said that life is a long way, leaning on each other, understanding and tolerance, and affection in this life.
The road will get farther and farther, and the heart will get closer and closer.
【key money】
Pay with gifts and pay for half a month
Following the men, this marriage custom was originally to make up the men and share the cost, and it was limited to the man's relatives and friends in the past.
Now, this money is increasing, and attending weddings has become a burden for many people.
Last November, Mr. Lei from Bijie, Guizhou, was on the hot search for “who will attend 23 weddings throughout the National Day holiday”.
This year, Mr. Wang, who lives in Daxing, has a similar experience. The 7-day vacation is fully arranged, including small weddings, classmates weddings, colleague weddings... He attended 6 weddings in 7 days.
"Now you basically have to start at 500 yuan with gifts. This is a friend with a normal relationship. If you really have a good relationship with a buddy, you can't even get 1,000 yuan." Participated in 6 weddings, and the followers took nearly 5,000 yuan. "The red envelopes are getting thicker and the wallets are getting deflated. The weddings of friends all get together during the National Day holiday. In September, the wages of the members are half spent." Wang The husband shook his head helplessly, "I have to repay the mortgage this month. I really have to live a tight life."
"Happy wedding, brothers!" At 8 o'clock in the morning on October 1, Mr. Sun sent a WeChat blessing to Mr. Tang, the groom, and then transferred 1,000 yuan.
Mr. Sun and Mr. Tang are classmates in high school, and their relationship has always been good.
After receiving Mr. Tang's wedding invitation more than a month ago, Mr. Sun began to wonder how many gifts are appropriate.
Now the market for followers is rising day by day.
Earlier, the fathers gave gifts of 50 yuan, 100 yuan, and 200 yuan. "Now I can't get it. My old classmate, I have to pay 1,000 yuan." Mr. Sun said.
"I am most afraid of the sudden silence of the air, and the most afraid of sudden concern from my friends." This lyric has become the inner portrayal of many young people when they receive "wedding invitations" from their friends.
"My hometown is in Jiangsu, my university is in Shanghai, and I went to Shenzhen after graduation." Xiao Zhang, 27, was engaged in the IT industry and came to Beijing to work in mid-September. Before the National Day holiday, there were not a few long-lost classmates in his hometown, Guangzhou and Shenzhen. Suddenly, his colleague "concerned" about his recent situation, and sent him invitations, inviting him to the wedding.
“I’m busy with projects this year and I’m working overtime in Beijing. Although I can’t go to the wedding, I still have to pay for the money if I can’t go there. Or it’s not easy to lose face. What if I have something to ask for in the future?” 7 days During the holidays, Xiao Zhang had 4 copies of "clouds with gifts", nearly 3,000 yuan. "The overtime pay is all dependent on the members, so it's just like there is no holiday and no overtime." Xiao Zhang said.
【Suggest】
It’s not as good as “with things”
On social platforms, related topics such as "How much money should you pay for a National Day marriage", "Coordinates in Beijing, where classmates get married, how much money is appropriate", "How to cleverly avoid followers?" and other related topics have a high number of page views.
In Mr. Sun's view, obedience is a dual consideration of face and friendship. He believes that everyone has to do what they can, and look at their friendship and abilities as more and less as they are. If there is too much, it also puts pressure on the bride and groom.
It is said that "li is less affectionate", but under the influence of factors such as "face" and "comparison", "satisfaction with etiquette" is more important than affection.
"In fact, it is more practical to give some gifts that new couples need especially than gift money." said Ms. Li, who had studied abroad.
The newlyweds have just started a family and all need decorations, cooking utensils, bedding, and tableware. If friends negotiate in advance, according to the needs of the newcomers, present gifts that can be dismantled and used immediately, which is not only economical and practical, but also helps the newcomers.
This way can also make "with the gift" return to the original meaning of blessing and sharing of pressure.
【wedding】
The exhaustion of energy makes the newcomer grieving
After transferring the account to the groom's WeChat account, Mr. Sun packed up and went out to Mr. Tang's wedding.
“Cash is used less now, and many friends and followers use their mobile phones to transfer money directly, which is very convenient.” Mr. Sun did not expect that the direct transfer would cause him to encounter a “small embarrassment”.
When Mr. Sun happily came to the wedding sign-in place, he was stopped.
"Your gift money has been transferred to the groom himself? Excuse me, please wait a moment and we will confirm it." It turned out that at the wedding site, in order to ensure an orderly sign-in and the amount of gift money, the wedding company commissioned by Mr. Tang arranged an on-site counter staff to count the gift money, and then Guests sign in and enter.
After reading the "Transfer Record", you have to find the groom himself to confirm.
The groom himself was not found for a while, and Mr. Sun had no choice but to wait. Five minutes later, the "confirmed" he finally entered the scene.
"This mood is really affected, but I understand that, after all, there are many people at the wedding, and it is easy to be messy, and we can't argue about the happy event and destroy the atmosphere." Mr. Sun said.
After the wedding ceremony, a few good buddies who have not yet got married gathered around Mr. Tang to "learn from the experience."
How do you feel when the ceremony is over?
The groom bluntly said "tired and happy."
Compared with money, for office workers, the consumption of energy is the most annoying.
After several months of preparation, the plan was updated five times just to determine the guests and arrange the seats.
And this is just one of more than 60 issues.
【Suggest】
Minimize the process of "doing things"
The old classmate’s wedding was very grand, but Mr. Sun was not envious. Although he accompanied the 1,000 yuan gift, Mr. Sun decided that when he got married, he must “be simple”.
Mr. Sun is going to invite relatives and friends of both parties to dinner by way of a thank-you banquet.
"My fiancee and I think this method is economical and effective, and the effect is achieved. It saves the energy required for various processes, and everyone can have a meal."
"Without the money and energy saved by the wedding, I can manage our small family well." Mr. Sun said, and in this way, relatives and friends would not have the pressure to "be courteous".
"My simple idea of doing things has been approved by my fiancée and both parents." Mr. Sun said.
(All interviewees in the text are pseudonyms)
Our reporter Chen Qiang and Zhang Yu